What's the measure of a good mom?

Koko - posted on 09/12/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )




Should you be the master of nursery rhymes? Do you have to be good at cooking? Do you need to be the medical expert? what if i'm clueless? Is my unconditional love enough to say that i am a good mom? :p


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Kristen - posted on 09/15/2009




i asked myself that evey day! did i read to him enough, is he getting the propper nutrition etc. it is a scary thought that i, being a stay at home mom, am shapping who he will be. i even started to have panic attacks at night agonizing over my choices that day. i finally realized all you can do is be the best mom you know how to be, and everything else will fall into place.

Jessica - posted on 09/15/2009




i believe that just being there for your children to say I LOVE YOU and to hold them when they are sick or hurt is what makes u a good mom. i don't think that u have to be a great cook or even be able to sing or know all the stories kids hear now days. I cook once in a great while and my husband does most of the cooking. I don't know all the stories, but i am there everytime my daughter falls since she is starting to stand on her own and trying to walk. i am there while she is teething just to comfort her and i believe that i am a great mom just for that

Esmeralda - posted on 09/13/2009




being a good mom,i think,means your child FEELS loved and taken care of. if your loving,supportive,concerned,and nurturing...youre a great mother!

Samantha - posted on 09/13/2009




I think the only thing that matters is that our children feel loved, protected and important. I think I have the "technicalities" of being a mom down but I constantly worry if my kids are going to grow up and be productive contributing citizens. I teach them what I know in the best way I know how. That's all you can do. Here's my example.

Me and my sister grew up with the same disfunctional childhood. There was nothing she went through that I didn't and visa versa. We had it bad and, for a time, we had it really good. My sister ended up being a drug addict and losing all three of her children. I ended up pretty normal (and I'm raising one of her children and have one of my own). Eventually you have to come to terms with the fact that you can only do your best and, at some point, our children are going to have to make their own decisions. We can't blame ourselves and we can't take the credit either. We just have to hope that we have taught them the essentials for them to survive and that they are going to use that for their benefit. LOVE IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING

Rosario - posted on 09/12/2009




To answer your questions: no, no. no, we all are at one time or another, and without a doubt!

Here is some insight:

When i got pregnant i was a sophomore in college living in my dorm! i had never worked a day in my life, never cooked, had everything i needed handed to me by mom and dad. after my parents found out, i was immediately cut off! After my daughter was born, i was freaking out about everything. I felt like i hadn't yet prepared to take care of myself let alone a baby! Her father was great help and support but i was still terrified. Little by little i started doing things i had never done before. Started working when she was 2 months old, i took the baby to the dr. myself when she was 4 months old (something her dad and i had done together until that day), started making meals for me and her dad (well if sandwiches, quesadillas, and pasta counts). was i an expert? NO! but i was interested in everything there was to learn about my baby.

To me, unconditional love is the driving force of a mother to nurture, to learn,to protect, and to grow as a parent.

3 years have passed and can i say i am a great cook or that i am the medical master? Nope not yet, but with all the experiences i have learned alot! I love my kids (yes, i had another one!), I love their father, and they love me. Perfet mom? maybe not but getting pretty damn good!

Inga - posted on 09/12/2009




personally if you have done all you can then yougot no worries. theres always something wrong when u feel it. you dont need to be a genious to be a mother dont let anybody tell u any different. your doin the best u can and thats all a child hopes for a is love and caring for

Crystal - posted on 09/12/2009




yes! everything else in my opinion is like an asset.....as long as you love that child and do everything that you can for them to make them have a happy healthy life, thats all that matters!

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