What should I do?

Chashaona - posted on 07/12/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




I have met back up with one of my old friends that I would really like to see. It is not romantic at all just platonic but I would like to see him. There is a local bar around here that he goes to sing karaoke. I've been wanted to go with my girls to karaoke for a while so this would be an opportunity to do this and to see an old friend. I think if I tell my husband he will not want me to. I don't want to be dishonest though either because I don't want him to feel that I have something to hide. Should I tell him and still go? Tell him and don't go if he doesn't approve? Or go and don't tell him? I really don't want to do the last option though because I love my husband and I want to maintain our trust. Any suggestions?


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Nichole - posted on 07/18/2009




I would be honest with him. And if he has a problem with you going, invite him out with you so he can meet this old friend.

Emma - posted on 07/18/2009




Why not tell your hubby that you buumped into an old friend and would like to catch up. Sugest that you both go have a drink with him. as if this is a frined you value and would like to keep in contact with he will sooner or later meet your hubby. You never know they might hit it off and become friends, and if not then he has met the person in question for himself.

Mel - posted on 07/13/2009




i would tell him and go. make sure you dont ask though just let him know what you are doing. you shoudlnt be controlled in a marriage at all

Danielle - posted on 07/13/2009




Be straight up about it. Tell him and invite him along. If he doesnt want to go then he doesnt have to. If it is truely a platonic relationship with your mate then it should not be a problem.

Samantha - posted on 07/12/2009




You need to be honest because even one little white lie can turn into a full blown disaster. Put yourself in his shoes would you approve of him going and meeting up with an old friend without telling you?

You need to tell him and respect his wishes. You must give what you would like to receive.

Did you date him in the past that would make your husband not want you to see him? Or is this just a straight up friend from the past?

Whitney - posted on 07/12/2009




Honesty is the best policy. Totally cliche I know, but its true. If you go and don'ttell him it will look really bad when he does find out. Maybe he might want to go. But if he is uncomfortable with it then it is probably best that you don't go. I know that it is hard being told what not to do like your a kid or something. But honoring your family is more important than seeing some friend from back in the day that you probably won't have anything in common with anymore anyways.

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