what should i do ?

Beatriz - posted on 11/16/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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ive sent my son to an early learning program hes turning 4 in january and it seems that he has trouble coping with having other kids around since hes an only child and never listens to the teacher i switchd him to a regualr daycare and hes acting the same wa. i dont know what to do with him anymore because now the daycare doesnt want to stay with him anymore either because hes a trouble maker

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Tracy - posted on 11/20/2012

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I was raised an only child. My son and daughter, essentially, were only children (sister born when he was 12). You need to expose him to other children as often as possible and try not to interfere except to correct really bad behavior. He will learn best by other children's reactions, especially older children. Let him see how other kids interact. If your son does something (generally, not harmfully) that other kids don't like, he will learn because the kids will not accept him socially. If/when he has trouble with something, help him understand what the best reaction would be. I've seen some moms go to playgrounds and they bring candy to share with everyone. They (watching closely) make their young one go around to parents and kids offering candy. This teaches them how to approach other people AND to share something they value. Also, I don't buy into the "everything has to be shared" game. So, if we are at a playground and my kid wants something someone else has, I explain that the other kid does NOT have to give him/her the item. I explain that if the kid is no longer playing with it, then my kid can play with it but that until the other kid leaves it, my kid doesn't "get a turn". **edit** I realized that I didn't say that the same rule applies for my kids - if another kid wants what they have, they don't have to give it over unless they choose to or unless they are done with it. **edit** I think that kind of sharing just shows kids that someone else can just come take something from them under the premise of it's "THEIR TURN".



Go to a ton of playgrounds and just sit back and relax. Intervene only when really necessary to keep safety a priority.

Jenny - posted on 11/16/2012

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i think its very unprofessional for any nursery/daycare group to presume any child to be a trouble maker.All children are different.Perhaps you need to take him to the park or mums and tots so that you can be with him to begin with when he is introduced to new children.The only way this problem will go away is by mixing him with other children as much as possible.Maybe you could play games with him at home to encourage him to share with you, with toys or sweets etc as sharing may be new to him with him being an only child and will be a big help to him when he begins school.x

Jenny - posted on 11/16/2012

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i think its very unprofessional for any nursery/daycare group to presume any child to be a trouble maker.All children are different.Perhaps you need to take him to the park or mums and tots so that you can be with him to begin with when he is introduced to new children.The only way this problem will go away is by mixing him with other children as much as possible.Maybe you could play games with him at home to encourage him to share with you, with toys or sweets etc as sharing may be new to him with him being an only child and will be a big help to him when he begins school.x

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