What should I do for a constantly screaming 5 month old?

Sarah - posted on 04/09/2011 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I am seriously going crazy and getting more and more depressed. My 5 month old is ALWAYS screaming! If he is not being held, and even when he is sometimes, he screams! I don't know if it's the being held thing, or constantly needing attention. I make sure he is fed and has a clean diaper every time. I feel like I have tried EVERYTHING! Do I just let him scream himself to sleep, or what? My daughter was nothing like this and she was SO easy, so I have no experience with this. PLEASE HELP! I really appreciate any advice. Thank you!

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Carolyn - posted on 04/09/2011

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is there something causing him pain ? reflux, infection, gas, intolerance to something in his diet ? I would start by taking him to the doctor and having a medical work up. and talk to the doctor about what is going on. Be very specific about when the screaming starts, what helps him settle, what doesnt, try paying as close attention as you can to see if there is a pattern like X many minutes after eating he starts screaming, or X many minutes before a bowel movement, wet diaper etc.

If you think it is just a need for closeness and comfort, try wearing him in a sling, The more confidence and calmness you project, your baby will pick up on it and it might help his confidence and calmness. Babies react to our emotions and stress. SO put out those vibes you want baby to pick up on.

You also mention get more and more depressed. have you talked to your doctor about your depression ?

Sabrina - posted on 04/10/2011

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I had the same problem with my youngest!! I nursed him, and as soon as he hit 6 weeks he started scraming uncontrollably ALL the time. After visiting his useless doctor several times and her telling me that it was just his age and he was being fussy, my Aunt suggested that I cut all dairy out of my diet because he was probably having issues with that. I took her advice, and sure enough he went back to being my happy little boy! When I stopped nursing and went to formula, I had the same problem. He started throwing fits uncontrollably. Nothing would calm him. I switched to soy formula, and once again within a few days it all stopped. My suggestion would be trying to do something along these lines. I have 3 kids, and I have never known a child to be that way unless they are in pain of some sort. My suggestion is to try changing up his diet. You will have to give it a few days (they suggest usually a week) for everything to run out of his system and see if it is actually working. The soy stuff may cost a little more, but I can assure you in the end if this is his problem the switch will be worth it!!

Ashley - posted on 04/09/2011

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My son did this he cried all the time for 9 months but he was sick and on medication that made him ill. I feel for you so much it was really hard to deal with and i simply had no one i could drop a screaming baby off to so it was just me.I agree that you need to get him checked for everything and anything but for now you cant always get them to stop so regardless of the screaming you need to shower put baby somewhere safe and go, you need to eat put the baby in the playpen and put some music in your ears and eat, you need to be able to distress put the volume up on your tv and blare the music anything to make you calmer. If you want to message me please do deep breaths and good luck you can do it it wont last forever.

Amanada - posted on 04/09/2011

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Take a deep breath first. Sounds like mommy needs some time to think of her self to. My baby did cry alot to when he was smaller. That gas medicine for babbies does really good to calm thier stomachs. As for you make time for yourself. Just a twenty minute time out for mommy goes a long ways. It use to make me real upset when i couldnt get him to stop crying to. I think that just part of being a mother. You dont ever want your baby to hurt. Well good luck!

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Ajay - posted on 09/17/2013

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found this page through a google search on "high pitched screaming", because I have a son who at four months just decided to use his high pitch scream whenever he gets a chance. When he's happy, sad, hungry, wet...he just screams and I go deaf! So I guess it's normal and I'm assuming it is a phase. Just weird cause he's a boy with a low scratchy/raspy voice, and he's my 3rd child! I agree with the mom who said try to get outside more. My son is absolutely quiet when we are out. He enjoys riding on my back in my kokopax...he even falls asleep in it EVERY time. At home he screams.

Elise - posted on 01/08/2012

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Put him down in a safe place (his cot or something) and take 15 mins for yourself where you can't hear him. (sorry I always post then read the rest of the comments). Take half an hour even. Just don't feel guilty that he is crying for 15 mins because it is going to benefit him having a happy mummy in the long run. If you need a break, you need a break, don't let anyone make you feel bad for it. 15 mins of his life is not long (although it seems like forever when they are crying I know). Just put him in a safe place and have some mum time.

Elise - posted on 01/08/2012

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Put him in a sling for a couple of hours a day, you can at least get stuff done while he is close to you. It may calm him down. I found with my boy if I had him in the sling for a bit during the day he would sleep better at night, I realised he was waking up for some quiet cuddle time with mummy as he obviously felt he wasn't getting enough cuddles from me during the day. Leave the housework or whatever for an hour and just focus fully on him and getting to know him and playing. I find this helps my boy when he gets ridiculously clingy and is winding himself up. Some days he just needs more attention than other days so by spending the time with him I am more in tune with when those days are. If you wear him in a sling it may not stop the crying instantly and completely but it may slowly subside and you can at least do stuff knowing that you have not left him screaming, unless you are doing the cry it out sleep thing but from the post I thought it sounds like he just randomly cries in the day when he has had his sleeps/feeds/changes etc? Is that right or are you trying to get him to sleep? And in that case could he be overtired/overstimulated?

Miri - posted on 01/08/2012

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My 5 month old is screaming all the time too. I am going crazy. She is fed and her diaper is changed and it also seems to be an attention thing. Maybe its her teeth coming out? I am also going crazy. Also I have taken her to the doctor. She is fine. I just want 15 minutes to myself! help!

Sarah - posted on 04/09/2011

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Thank you everyone for your advice. I had a total meltdown today and I feel like I completely lost my mind. I have thought about taking him to the doctor, but don't know what to tell him other than that he screams all of the time. I can't find any pattern. It seems like it is just an attention thing. If you are goo-ing and ga-ing at him, he is fine, but the second you quit, he is screaming again. I just want 15 minutes to myself without screaming, but it never happens. My relationship with my boyfriend is suffering because of it. He takes him occasionally, but flips out after about 10 minutes. I'm going to make an appointment with the Dr. on Monday and hopefully something happens. I REALLY appreciate all of your help. It makes me feel so much better to hear what other people have to say and what they have done. Thank you SO much!

Tinker1987 - posted on 04/09/2011

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It could be a number of things. My son is going on 5 months and used to be very uncontent and crying. so after talking to some moms they told me to try Soy formula. and we did that and it made a huge difference. Also he has Reflux,he is on a medicine to help with that! i agree if you have a Ipod plug your ears for a few songs to re group. its very frusterating dealing with a screaming baby :(

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