What stage of pregnancy should I tell family/friends I am pregnant?

Jessica - posted on 06/10/2013 ( 14 moms have responded )

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I think I'm about a month along but haven't gone to the doctor to confirm. I've taken multiple p-tests from the store and the tests came out positive literally within seconds. I'm not one to share my personal life, but this is a milestone as it is my first time being pregnant; but I'm 19, and I'm scared. What if I get a miscarriage? I don't want people to know and then have that happen I'd rather cope on my own and not have to tell any bad news or become the topic of every conversation. I've only told my mom, my boyfriend's mom and grandparents and they agree I should wait to share the news with everyone. When is the best time to know for sure everything is ok and healthy?

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LindsandBaby - posted on 06/17/2013

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Usually after the first trimester the risk of miscarriage goes down tremendously.
HOWEVER I would tell people when YOU feel comfortable. This is your pregnancy. I am 18 and a mom.

Brandy - posted on 06/13/2013

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I felt like after the first trimester.. That has u in a fairly comfortable spot. Typically your first trimester is the most risky.

Michelle - posted on 06/10/2013

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The usual time is after 12 weeks as that's when the riskiest time is over.

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Genevieve - posted on 06/21/2013

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When I found out I was pregnant I was also very scared, I was 25 and married but a baby was not on my mind! I was even taking the pill, although I had been slacking a little :) While doing a ton of reading about pregnancy on the internet, I began to wonder when I should tell people too. I was also afraid of a miscarriage. I read that when you are about 4 months along that is a good time to break the news because a miscarriage becomes less likely. I would just wait until you are comfortable and ready to tell everyone.
hope this helps :)

Stephanie - posted on 06/16/2013

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I have three girls and just had my first miscarriage at 8 weeks along. Its difficult and sad but i did tell everyone i was pregnant and i do appreciate the support now. I would rather that than the stress of trying to hide a pregnancy and then having to hide my sorrow if i miscarry. But go with what feels comfortable for you. Good luck!

Julie - posted on 06/16/2013

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The most common time is after the first 12 weeks. The risk for miscarriages is higher before that. Some wait until after the first ultrasound, and announce with the photo.

Jess - posted on 06/14/2013

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I had my first little girl. Then was 3 months prago and had a wreck and lost my baby I hadn't made it to the doc yet I had just told my parents and without them there to hold me up I think I wouldn't of made it. My next baby I had 5 1/2 months and lost him you really want your family and close friends to know. Goin it alone it's good no matter how hard it is 4 them it's worst on you. I'm not tryin to scare you. I just don't want you to walk it alone. I'm prago again and so excited. I bout 4 months and doc said I'm doin great baby has a strong heart beat. I hope this helps not hinders. Just don't want any girl to do it alone.

Samantha - posted on 06/13/2013

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They say to typically wait until your 2nd trimester. That way if God forbid anything should happen you don't have to tell a whole lot of people. I told my two closest friends and my baby daddy's brother and that was it.

TIA - posted on 06/12/2013

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I TOO HAD FEARS OF MISCARRIAGE SINCE IT WAS MY FIRST. I DIDN'T WANT TO HAVE ALL THOSE CONVERSATIONS EITHER. MY SISTER IN LAW HAD A MISCARRIAGES AND TOLD ME THE LONGEST SHE CARRIED AND STILL HAD ONE WAS 4 MONTHS. SO I WAITED 4 MONTHS TO TELL EVERYBODY.

Zara - posted on 06/12/2013

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12 weeks is kinda the rule, since that's the date when risk of miscarriage drops greatly....the first time I found out I was pregnant I was so excited!! I always knew I was born to be a mom I told everyone! I told my job & everyone there. At 12 weeks I found out that I had miscarriage and at 14 weeks I had to have a dnc because my body never misscarried. It was incredibly painful and I was broken hearted. Some of the people I had told helped but everyone knowing specially at work customers would come in and ask me how the pregnancy was going and I would have to tell them over & over. That part was very difficult. Four months later I was blessed with a second pregnancy. I found out at 2 weeks! So the thought of waiting 3 months to tell anyone was crazy! I told my parents right away, then after 2 good doctor appts and hearing the heartbeat we told more family and then slowly everyone else. Then when I had my second daughter I was less nervous and after it was confirmed by the doc I told family & friends. I think you have to follow your heart & go with what feels comfortable to you :)) Best of luck with your pregnancy!!

Enna - posted on 06/12/2013

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I always went by 13 weeks, after the first trimester.
But if you wait long enough, people will figure it out on their own :)

Whitney - posted on 06/11/2013

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After 12 weeks, the risk of miscarriage is greatly diminished. By then, you are almost into your 2nd trimester. If you feel like waiting, only you can determine the best time to announce it. But if you're embarassed or scared, telling a few more people who can be your support system is probably a good idea. I had my first at 18 and I was so scared to say anything, but I ended up being glad that my friends knew. My daughter is now 8 years old and I am pregnant with my 2nd, and I couldn't wait to spread the good news! It is all up to you and where you are in your life. But the rule of thumb is 12 weeks.
On a side note, you should see your Dr soon! You should be taking prenatals (you can't get enough folic acid and iron on your own and those are the 2 huge things your baby needs right now). Good luck!! :-)

Bo - posted on 06/10/2013

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I would share the news as my emotions feel it! The 12 week rule is kind of overbearing for me personally. Let everyone in on thelove. :if you had, hopefully not, a miscarriage, st least you would have a TON of support.

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