what t do about pregnant teen whom doesnt respect me?

Demesha Shaquita - posted on 12/03/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )

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should i leave it in their hands and emancipate her or beat it in her head and make her have an abortion?

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Jodi - posted on 12/03/2012

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Respect goes both ways. Do you respect how she feels? It doesn't appear so. Despite the fact that she is a teen, she has a right to her opinion and have it respected, and she also has a right to make an INFORMED decision, not a decision based on "you either have an abortion, or get out". Seriously, who does that to their kid? THAT is disrespectful. Sit down and discuss her options with her, allow her to express her feelings about those options, and respect her decision.



Your role as a parent is to support her decision and then help her live with that decision. That doesn't mean supporting her and the baby financially, or raising the baby, it means helping her find the resources she needs to get through her decision, maybe assist her in looking into daycare, a job, a school (if she needs to complete college) that helps young mothers, etc. THAT is your job. Not to beat her into having an abortion (figuratively or otherwise).

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Laurie - posted on 12/08/2012

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Okay this pissed me off! Its hard to do that with me. Who the hell do you think you are that you think you have to MAKE her get an abortion?? Idk who you are to this girl, but I would just walk away now. Cuz there is NO sense of maturity, support, respect, love or empathy coming from YOU what so ever! Its no wonder she doesnt respect you. The only reason I being respectful with my words is cuz I AM respectful of how I talk to and about other people. There are other people around. And unlike you, I actually respect the thoughts and feelings of other women. I really hope you learn a lesson from all of this. You are so unfit. I am sorry for being so blunt as well. But this is friggen ridiculous! Who the hell does this women think she is?????????????????? uuugh

Gerry - posted on 12/04/2012

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I was a teen mother. I got pregnant at 16 with my first child. I had him at 17. I was sooo beyond scared to tell my parents & my bf's (at the time) Mom that I was pregnant. I thought they'd make me get an abortion or put him up for adoption or kick me out. I had NO support from my BF whatsoever. When I finally got the courage to tell my Mother I was pregnant, she was my support system. I could NOT have gotten through my pregnany & labor & even the first year without my mother. She is my hero. You're her Mother, you need to support her in EVERY decision she makes & love her no matter what. Yes, she made a mistake. But you can't do anything about it now, if she doesn't want an abortion or to place her baby up for adoption you need to support her decision & be there for her. She's young. She's goinng to need her Mother like any new Mother does, no matter what age the new Mother is, they always need their Mothers help & advice. If you try to force her into a decision she's not comfortable with you're risking loosing her-she may just up & leave one day because she can't live with that decision & the fact that YOU were the one who made her do it, or even worse she may even try to end her life because the guilt is way too much for her to live with. So, just be there for her, support her & try to help her. She's still your baby, the little girl you once rocked to sleep, got up with every few hours at night to feed her, taught her how to walk & talk. Help her. Don't force her into a decision, don't kick her out, don't "beat" sense into her. Help her. Love her. Support her. Trust me, she REALLY needs you right now. And having your Mom there as a support system is so much better for the both of you. I hope I helped.

Michelle - posted on 12/03/2012

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The comment "beat it in her head" just scares me so much. This poor girl only wants support and understanding and gets this reaction. I hope she does let this person know the child at all.

Kelsey - posted on 12/03/2012

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I agree...I didn't talk to my mom or my bfs mom for like a week because they both wanted me to get an abortion at first..my bf was 17 and had a son from a previous relationship.but they both cam around eventually

Michelle - posted on 12/03/2012

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Are you serious?!?!?!



I wouldn't respect you either with that attitude. What happened to compassion and understanding for someone going through a very tumultuous time in her life. Where's her support?

Kelsey - posted on 12/03/2012

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I was a teen mom and thankfully for my child and mother I knew what I was getting myself into as having 6 younger siblings my youngest being a little over a year when I got pregnant... sometime it takes a while for things to set into your head..How far along is she and has she been taking care of herself and the baby?

If so honestly leave her the hell alone! Sorry for being so "blunt" but you can not FORCE somebody to have an abortion if they are acting like a spoiled brat. If she is really that bad and is going to be a bad mom try and talk her into putting her baby up for adoption....but if you make her kill her own child later on down the road when she smartens up...she may end up hating your guts...but hey that's just my opinion

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