what to do for a 8 month old baby whining all the time?

Dominique - posted on 04/10/2012 ( 11 moms have responded )

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He's my 1st child an i can not put him down nor walk away from him without him crying all the time an i want to know how to break him out of whining all the time for no reason....

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Dot - posted on 04/11/2012

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I hear you. If it makes you feel any better my 8 month old does exactly the same thing. It's most likely separation anxiety, they can go through that at this age. I spend alot of time on the floor and he just comes with me, even to the toilet. It's frustrating and sometimes I just have to walk away but I think the more you comfort them the more likely they are to feel secure enough to venture away from you. There isn't really much that you can do, just wait for it to pass, because it will eventually, also sometimes getting other people to hold him or play with him, someone that he is comfortable with, while your still there playing aswell, that has helped with my son. Is he teething? I know on the days that my sons teeth are hurting he is even more clingy, it gets so bad that if I even have the thought of moving away from him he starts crying, so if he is feeling unwell or is teething that could make it worse.

Kristen - posted on 12/16/2012

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Wow, medic mom, I think there was a nicer way to say what you did. Nothing is more annoying than someone who just spouts research.

Medic - posted on 04/10/2012

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First of all he is a BABY. Babies need to feel safe and secure...which he obviously does not. Why don't you get a sling and just carry him around with yout, he will decide one day that he does not want to be in it. Studies have proven that children who are worn tend to be more confident, outgoing, independent children.



You do not just get to decide when your child is old enough to entertain themselves, they have to be emotionally ready for that also.

Charity - posted on 04/12/2012

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This is often times referred to as a high-maintenance child. High-maintenance children have more separation issues and need more one on one time. I have had one! My son will be 4 this July & up until he was 1 I couldn't put him down, except to sleep. From age 1 until he turned 2 I couldn't leave his sight without him freaking out. From age 2 until he turned 3 he would only stay with either his Dad or I. He now will stay with my Mom & Mother-In-Law for a few hours. It's been a LONG road! He is just now starting to assert his independence, which is good because he starts Pre-K next school year.

Deanna - posted on 04/11/2012

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The hardest thing for a mother to do is walk away from a crying child. Sometimes that is what you have to do. It will hurt, but he does need to comfort himself. Leave him with a favourite toy and just walk away. Start with 5 min, then go to 10, then 15. Eventually it should become easier for the both of you. I say take the little steps to make it easier on you.
Hope it helps.

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Nicole - posted on 12/25/2012

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Agreed medic mom was pretty rude. We are all doing our best to raise happy, healthy, well adjusted families while maintaining some sense of self and balance.

Dot - posted on 04/12/2012

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Definitely Dominique, whenever he is tired, hungry, teething, sick, uncomfortable, etc etc, he is going to want you more. My son got 3 teeth in a week and you can imagine what that was like..... it passed though. He is still way more attached to me than my daughter was though and it's hard sometimes, especially when you just need him to get out of your bubble, lol. Your only human though and if you need to walk away then do it, like what Ashley said 'he's not going to die from crying'. The most nerve racking thing about these issue's is trying to figure out what the issue is. Around this age they can also start to experience 'object permanence' it's what they call it when they start to realize that when you leave their site that you haven't fallen off the face of the earth.

Ashley - posted on 04/12/2012

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i have an 8 month who has starting to do that too, my first went through it as well and it was very nerve wracking for me, (' i'm ruining my baby if i let him cry etc etc.) it is a phase and it helps me to find a flashy toy etc. or whatever if i need to leave the room for a minute. its hard but if you need to step out of the room for a minute and he starts crying just remember he won't die (though he sounds like it) lol i had to tell myself that a few times when my nerves were on edge from the whining. your not a bad mom if your baby cries for a few minutes. EVERY baby goes through this and though its frustating its totally normal. another thing i like to do is when i come back in the room i make it a game, big theatrics "I'M BACK, HERE I AM" then i pick him and do something silly. it helps them understand that when mommy leaves the room she's not gone for good, its a cognitive thing they are learning. you're doing great, and keep telling yourself -this too shall pass-.

Sol4J - posted on 04/12/2012

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I’m struck by the awesome responsibility we have as parents. As a new mom, you may be experiencing the same thing and may have a lot of questions; but don’t worry, with God’s help, we’ll get through . This is one of the most rewarding and emotional moments of our lives. Throughout the years I have received good advice from Focus on the Family, an organization that I now work for, and always excited to share about it with my family and friends. I encourage to take a look at the following article: http://bit.ly/HLN20B that talks about when should discipline begin. Grace and peace to you!

Dominique - posted on 04/12/2012

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i understand what you all are saying but "medic mommy" i know hes a BABY like i said hes my 1st child this new n i tried that when he was a few months old wit the carrier but my back start hurting wit him in the carrier @ "dot Morris" yes he's teething and didnt know he would become real attach wen hes teething and "Charity" i have never heard of that but i belive he will grow out of it

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