what to do, what to do

User - posted on 05/07/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )




when ever i tell my daughter no she points at me then at what i told her no to then yells no ant me and starts ether hitting herself or me or the floor while still yelling no at me i`v tried everything i could think of but she is still doing it what can i do to get her to stop?


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Helen - posted on 05/08/2009




u could warn here if she doesnt do as shes told you will put her in the naughty corner or stair.its a minute per age so if shes 3. would be there for 3 ins. then get her to say sorry

Stephanie - posted on 05/08/2009




I try to tell our son why I said no and try to offer something in its place. Half the time he's still yelling and throwing a fit so I just tell him to go to his room and he can come out when he's calmed down. He knows what I mean and he'll peek his head outside of the door when he truly is more calm.

Natalia - posted on 05/08/2009




My little girl Shayla is almost two and she's been doing this for a while now. We tried everything and nothing seemed to help at the time but as she's getting older she's learning that although she fights and screams she still doesn't win. I think it just takes time and perserverance. Giving her something else, try to change her mind, find something else she wants to do but make it seem like her idea.

It may not seem like she's listening but talk to her and explain things. She'll get it eventually and it will get easier.

Sara - posted on 05/07/2009




I don't think there is much you can do... you can try ignoring the behavior or a time out. I personally am having no luck with such endeavors but my daughter isn't yelling back just crying and hurting herself or me. there is the suggestion I've read to try telling her yes to things instead like when she wants to help cook dinner find her something like helping toss the salad that she can do instead of saying no you can't cut the tomatoes....

Joslin - posted on 05/07/2009




Try redirecting. If she wants a sucker and you don't want her to have candy offer her a banana or something else you are okay with.

Jessica - posted on 05/07/2009




I had this same problem. DONT worry. I am guessing that your daughter is about 2 or 3? Try using a different approach. The word NO is overused. Children this young just dont grasp the concept yet. Re-direct her to an activity that is more acceptable, and give lots and lots of praise when she accepts that activity. Remember to remain calm, when kids sense frustration in their parents, they tend to share your same feelings. Calmly explain why the activity is not ok, and show her an activity in place of that activity that is more acceptable. Its going to take some work at first, but dont worry, she'll come along. Remember, she is still young, and doesn't know yet how to express her frustration an anger. Let her know that throwing fits does not get her attention, and good behavior is rewarded with attention.

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