what would u do if you had a 2year old with ADHD

Crystal - posted on 11/18/2010 ( 50 moms have responded )

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My two year old daughter has ADHD and its hard on me and her dad ,she biting family memebers and throwing things around the house broking them

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Jodi - posted on 11/18/2010

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I'd sack the doctor who diagnosed it, because I am sorry, no child can be diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 2. Did you actually get a medical diagnosis for this? And which cereal packet did he get his degree from?



The behaviours you have described sound like lack of discipline to me. What have you been trying to stop the behaviour?

Cassie - posted on 11/18/2010

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I don't understand why you are wanting to label your child at such a young age. She is being a 2 year old (although a rowdy one). Let her be a toddler. Guide and discipline her when necessary but don't label her ADHD just because she is still unable to control her impulses. That is just a fact of life for a two year old.

Wait until she is in a formal school setting to have her diagnosed. With proper parenting, discipline, and guidance, she may prove to be an exceptional child without ADHD.

By labeling her now, you are most likely setting her on a road of self-fulfilling prophecy. If everyone around her talks about her and treats her as though she has ADHD, she will take on those characteristics permanently and live up to what others have set up for her. Build her up with positive reinforcements and behavior strategies and give her a chance to be a normal little girl.

Jodi - posted on 11/21/2010

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Just a little statistic for you:

20% of toddlers display behaviours that could be seen to be attributable to ADHD. Only 5% of those children (most of whom are boys) actually have ADHD. Which is WHY a doctor shouldn't be daignosing and labelling a 2 year old.

Joanne - posted on 11/20/2010

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i think yout daughter is suffering from terrible two s not adhd how can they say that at 2

Bethany - posted on 11/18/2010

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my brother (now 33) was medically diagnosed with severe adha at 14mth they didn't have the sam treatments then that they do now, but mum and dad put him on the finegolds diet - no artificial colours, preservitaves and no solicilates.... it def change him and made it alot easier for mum to deal with him and me (there is a 4 yr gap between us), now his son has also been diagnosed with it and is having tremendous trouble with temper (hitting and biting) he has just put him on the same thing and he is a compeately different child.
here is the website gook luck and i hope it helps:
http://www.feingold.org/

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Devon - posted on 03/10/2014

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your child cannot be diagnosed with adhd at age 2. they don't run test like that until the child is at least age 5 so whoever said that your child has this is an idiot and you need to switch wherever you go! my twins both have adhd and they were tested at age 5-6 for it. your two year old is being a normal two year old. for the biting. you need to figure out a non violent punishment for your childs age and stick to it. good luck

Cindy - posted on 03/08/2014

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My son is now 14 and when he was younger a lot of people especially teachers, would suggest that he might have ADHD, my mother kept insisting that he was fine and acting out like a typical boy, having 4 boys herself she was well aware of boys behaviours.. I am sooo glad I had listened to mother bec in fact there is nothing wrong with him it all had to do with me being a young mother and not knowing how to discipline him and guide him the right way. I see sooo many kids expeacially boys doped up and I feel soooo sorry for them bec I know there behaviour is not their fault and drugs is def not the answer :(

Myia - posted on 03/03/2014

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I deon't believe a 2 year old can be diagnosed with ADHD. How do they determine a busy 2 year old or ADHD?You need to get anothe opinion. School age children 7 or older is usually when ADHD is looked at. A 2year old has little attention span and focus. Since ADHD is largely about focus and attention span a 2 year old can not be diagnosed that young. I agree ADHD is being diagnosed when it probably is other things. There is just too many kids being diagnosed with this condition. Take your baby to someone else. 2 years go through a biting faze and throwing things. They have to be diciplined for those actions and you have to be consistant. They need to learn some actions are unacceptable. If you have to spend all day stopping the child from biting or throwing things do that. ADHD on a 2 yr old is crazy...

H.J - posted on 11/25/2010

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Crystal, how did you get the diognosis of ADHD? We are all speculating but don't know how you got the diognosis

Shawnda - posted on 11/24/2010

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First i need to say that ADHD is overly diagnosed these days. some kids are just hyper! deal with it take them out side to play and wear off the energy please! my brother wasnt diagnosed until he was 12! My mother took him off of the meds because they made him a zombie! talk about inhumane! Second now doctors like to give kids blood pressure meds to lower their energy levels! this is way to dangerouse! I dont care what any one says if your kid is bouncing off the walls take him to the park and let him run free swing and other such things kids do! I think its rediculouse that you would even consider taking your child to a doctor when they are that young! Maybe you need to learn what punishment is! time outs only work for some kids. As for biting plain and simple my mom used to flick me and my brothers in our heads to get us to stop and it worked. Its not abuse! they learn that it hurts them so it must hurt you! as for the throwing children have to lear the consequences of their actions dont be lazy and just let them do it and dont say no no. tell them they are in trouble and for being bad they get no treats and no toys no tv nothing until they can behave!

Jennifer - posted on 11/24/2010

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I for one don't think ADHD can be diagnosed at 2, I believe that you should lay down the law when they are young. It doesn't matter how you punish them (ie. spanking, timeouts) as long as you are consistant in what you do when the child misbehaves. I have to admit that when my oldest was biting I bit him back, not hard enough to break skin just hard enough to let him realize that what he was doing hurt. It didn't take long for him to stop biting. All toddlers throw things around, do not allow them to do it. If you see her starting to throw something tell her no and if she still does it, punish her in whichever way you choose. They don't call it terrible twos for nothing. I don't believe in medicating children with those very harmful and addicting drugs. Keep a strict routine and schedule, it will help her to know what to expect during the day! Kids need structure to thrive and be happy. I hope this helps and if it offends anyone I am truly sorry, but this is my opinion!

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She sounds normal you can not diagnose this young.. I know many adults who have ADHA even ones who are chronic, they are the best and are usually the best children, you have to run a bit more and keep up! just be a kid again :D you will find your inner child and relies all the fun you have been missing ♥



SO even "IF" your daughter was ADHA its a good thing not a bad thing and learning is far more fun for you and the child you get to find fun ways to teach, fun ways to play and each day will never be boring :)



I am a special needs teacher/PCA and I love each child I have fun being a detective everyday for these little ones there are kids out there that can not, will never be able to do things other children can not.. They will have a "normal' life..

Be happy you are blessed! love that hyper girl....

Lauren - posted on 11/24/2010

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treat her normal but explain things a bit clearer and slower if she has that condition but with the biting and stuff disaplin her like any other child

Chloie - posted on 11/24/2010

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honestly no offence but i would teach the mother how to discipline the child, 2yo's dont have ADHD, i believe no one has ADHD its just a crappy easy way out for dr's to give parents an excuse for there childrens behaviour. Plus all that is saying is that the child acts out of normal perameters well i wouldnt say anyone is normal and who would want to be normal, what is normal anyway my mum says if your kid bites you, bite them back she had 4 kids and none of is have been labled but i can guarentee at some point we all bit her. My sister made people BLEED anyway, dont take it to heart kids grow up

Hailey - posted on 11/24/2010

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my daughter is bad but not relly bad she will pull hair if she dosnt get her own way she will hit us if we dont get sumthink in time she will scream at us she is lazy lol she will sit there and point and shout till we get it her and taking her out is mad she wont sit still allways on the floor cryin people are stepping over her she will run away throw her self back hit her head sumtimes i wonder if its just a phase or if she dose have a behave problems her dad had problems with anger im not with him but he use to be on tablet and go councling and prison i dont now if she is goin to take after him but i hope its just a phase i do try control her right she is only 2 but she is hard work any help inbox me :)

Stacie - posted on 11/23/2010

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Whether it can be labeled ADHD or not really doesn't matter much. It seems like you have some problem behaviors that need to be addressed. Kids with ADHD are highly impulsive and difficult to get to listen. Try getting down to her level and making her look at you when you tell her not to do something or to instruct her to do something. Touch her arm or face when you tell her and teach her to repeat to you what you said as much as possible for her age. This should help her to tune in to what you are telling her. I don't know if it will work on a 2 year old, but the ADHD kids I tutored in summer school responded well to it.

Lynsey - posted on 11/23/2010

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Dr'd told me when my daughter was diagnoised with DiGeorge (at 5 weeks) that she WILL have ADHD and a high risk of developing Schizophrenia... I asked the Dr to give me a referral to someone else...

I have faith in Dr's and they save lives everyday- Medically.... But mental health is totally different... it all has to do with brain function, emotional responsiveness- you can't treat that with medication- I'm young but have worked with teens with severe mental health issues for 5 years now and not one kid that came into my care did medication ever work for- it is all about love, disapline, routines and boundaries- yes medication stimulates the brain to think differently but without changing the sourrounding and routines you will get no where... That and the diet, i think the only thing not mentioned above is RED food colouring specifically- there is something in the dye that is a proven fact to make children get all hopped up on sugar ;)

Jenifer - posted on 11/23/2010

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I find it hard to believe that she really has ADHD. My son, who will be 5 in March, used to bite. It's a phase. The kids try to get attention from you. If you yell or laugh, they don't care. It's a response. My 23 month old daughter is throwing temper tantrums and can cause a ruckus but there's no way I'd jump to saying she has ADHD!! I'd get a second opinion. But I certainty would not start shoving medication down my kids throat just because a doctor wanted to put a label on your kids behavior.

Nicole - posted on 11/23/2010

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I just realized you say the child is only 2...I agree it is too early to diagnose. No child should be diagnosed with a learning or behavioral problem before the age of 5. 2 year olds are just energetic and unfocused because they are 2. But therapy can help if you feel you are overwhelmed.

Nicole - posted on 11/23/2010

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I recommend therapy as apposed to medication. Meds are highly addictive and often unnecessary. It has been highly believed by many professionals that meds can cause the ADD or ADHD to become a permanent problem Children who have therapy and learn to deal and work through their challenges are more likely to grow out of the condition, It has also been proven that many children are prescribed meds like Ritalin when they shouldnt be. At least try other options before going to drugs.

Angela - posted on 11/23/2010

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a lot of behavior at that age can be like ADHD. I have 4 boys 7yrs to 5 mo. My 7 yr old is Autistic with ADHD. Parenting with Love and Logic works the best for him. It's a great book and they have one gear towards toddlers. I'd start the Uh oh song with her. Whenever she hits, bites, throws something whatever you deem unacceptable. You say Uh Oh in a sing song voice "we don't hit etc." and take her to her room or if you're away from home ask if there's a room you can take her too. Make sure you don't leave anything in there you don't want to be possibly destroyed and either put up a baby gate or close the door. Listen for her to stop crying or screaming and then wait another two mins. Then open the door and ask her if she's ready to be sweet. Give her a hug and a kiss then annouce to everyone that she's back. If she does it again you do it again. She'll get it. I highly recommend the book! Nothing works on my kids like Love and Logic.

Jessica - posted on 11/23/2010

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Doctors Dont Test Kids For ADHD Untill Kindegarten.. So I'm Not Sure If Your Coming Up With This Diagnosis Or If Your Childs Doctor Is Crazy..

Veronika - posted on 11/23/2010

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I suggest reading the book by dr Sears The Fussy Baby. You dont have to agree with everything in it or his take on child rearing. But as a doctor, a pediatrician he really knows what he is talking about. It will shed some light on how babies normaly behave, aslo on a wide range of child behaviour patterns. Not all kids are quiet. Kids do bite and throw things and headbutt things. That is because they dont have the verbal skills to get their point across in any other way. I am a psychologist. And in no time in my work did I ever see a real ADHD in children younger than teen years. Read the Sears book!

H.J - posted on 11/23/2010

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I agree with Jessica, when he was 3 my child reacted to colours and preservitives badly. bread with the preservative 282 is a huge one it can turn a normally happy child into a complete monster in 15 mins (yes we timed it) Cola colours are also really bad he reacted to it and would turn into a very angry little boy. Check her diet see what she is eating preservatives can be in anything check that her foods aren't full of colours and preservatives if they are cut them out and you will see a change. Then add them back to see which ones she reacts to. We now cook everything from scratch to make sure he has a preservative free diet and it may sound crazy but it worked. We know we are up for a tantrum and bad behaviour after his grand parents visit because he gets foods we would never give him.

Ashley - posted on 11/22/2010

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my daughter turns 2 in lil over a month, she's all over the place hyper and cant sit still, i've been around kids my entire life. Thats normal. I believe that ppl are to easy to medicate and diagnose that they dont let kids be kids b/c its inconvenient to have them running around never sitting still and talking non stop or what the problem maybe. I dont mean to seem insensitive but at two how do they diagnose ADHD? My Prayers are with you. My daughter also runs around the house and everything she can get her lil fingers on she throws or smashes into the floor to hear the noise it makes. Time out works great for her. or her dad telling her no in a very stern voice. Best of luck to you, and I would find a different doctor.

Jessica - posted on 11/22/2010

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make sure you arent giving her thinks like hotdogs or stawberries anything with too much suger or too many preservitives my stepson is adhd he is 9 now.also give her alot of attention and do things with her daily too get her energy out she will need it and also make sure you get good disipline going if you need help on techniqes u should watch suppernanny and learn from her it really does work if you do it constenly but please dont put her on medicine because even if she is for sure adhd she dosent need it she just needs more attention then most kids and i promise they are worth it

LaRonda F. - posted on 11/22/2010

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i would give it to God in prayer and faith, trusting Him to heal my child. I would also read over the healings He performed in the gospel of Matthew or Luke to strenthen my faith. Nothing is too big for the Lord our God. and instead of Him willingly watching us suffer, our God wants us to put it in His hands and trust Him to do the miracle.
God Bless you and your family, you will be in our prayers.

Rebecca - posted on 11/22/2010

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i dont agree with what some mums are saying hasmy son is so naughty his 17months old and i discipline al the time but it doesnt always work he hardly sleeps which ive been told is a sign on ADHD and ive had the hos[pital(medical team) tell me he has signs ofit he hits,bites,throws him self headbutts things and sometimes i could cry but i think till he is older and can meds i just cope with it even though he has realy bad days but i do agree with bethany price try taking somethings out of her diet he calms them down hp[e you find everything ok

Veronika - posted on 11/22/2010

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Thats what any 2 year old does! Stop beliving in the adhd crap-its an excuse for doctrs and parents not to do their job!

Christina - posted on 11/22/2010

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i request signing up for a parenting class that specializes in that my 4 year old son has the same thing i know how u feel.it is hard but it is manageable, and if u get down on ur knees and try and tell her that her action are hurting ur and her fathers feelings she might thing about what she is doing........ or when she gets like that try and find something to distract her from what made her mad or sad or upset!!!!, or i find time out works well if u are consistant about it....... and after time out explain to her why she was on time out, then get her to tell u what u said so u know she was listening. and while she is on time out tell her she has to be quiet or her time will not start till she is quiet, and then say nuttin to her on timeout time and time her for 2 min (1 min for each year of age.) and in a couple of months if it works u should see a change....

H.J - posted on 11/22/2010

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get a second opinion, she sounds like a typical 2yr old developmentally. Like Kylie I too work in child care and know a child should not be labelled as having ADHD before they are 4yrs old

Gabriela - posted on 11/22/2010

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Just a comment from my experience: I had a friend who was labeled with ADHD. He had trouble focussing at school and spent all his time drawing in the back of his notebooks. He's a famous artist nowadays... What I'm saying is: ADHD to me is another made up medical disorder. As many have said, don't medicate your child... Find ways to handle it! Good luck!

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you can't properly diagnose a child that young with ADHD, i used to work in childcare, and we had a check list it, and it wasn't meant for children under 4, and even then it was only for a future reference thing, not a lets treat this things. Also children with ADHA can be violent, but that doesn't mean that it's ok. The problem is, because they can't focus on any long term task they get bored or frustrated, and that can get a bit volitile, but that doesn't make it ok. I work with ADHD children in primary school now.

Laura - posted on 11/21/2010

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No child can be correctly diagnosed with ADHD at two years old. I'm sorry,if I was you I'd seek a second opinion. Your two year old is just being a two year old,she doesn't have ADHD. Two year olds act out like that and I've never saw a two year old that DIDN'T act like that. Sorry,but in my opinion no child can be correctly diagnosed with ADHD at such a young age. I think trying to diagnose them at 7 or 8 is too young still. Have you ever known a child to have a long attention span at a young age? I sure haven't. I feel that ADHD is one of the most overdiagnosed things there is.

Natalie - posted on 11/21/2010

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I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was about 2. My mom would find quiet activities for me to do. Also, I would suggest using reverse psychology on your daughter. I use it all the time with my 17 month old and it works. I end up giving her an ultimatum. "Caelyn, would you like to go to bed for throwing your toys and destroying things, or would you like to stay up and watch a disney movie". It does work. I hope it works for you. There's an awesome book called Child sense and this woman talks about children from birth til 5 yrs old. It might be worth a shot. Good luck

Jamie - posted on 11/21/2010

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Your daughter sounds like a typical 2yr but If your daughter really does have ADHD (but honestly I don‘t believe you can diagnose a 2yr with it), like my son who is 6. Has been diagnosed since he was 4. His dad had sever ADHD as child but my advise cut out anything with artificial sweeteners and crap junk food, have her get plenty of sleep sometimes children when tired get more hyper and act out. When she is older learn how to help channeled her energy into something more positive and get behavioral therapy. Always remember children with ADHD are very innovated and creative thinkers. Read up as much as you and look for your local area CHADD (Children and Adults with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder) http://www.chadd.org/

Stifler's - posted on 11/21/2010

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Mmm. I agree with the others. Terrible 2s does not = ADHD. Even if your bub has it she still needs to be pulled up on behaviours there are probably some good books and sites with info on discipline for AHDH kids if it turns out that's what she has but I'd definitely seek a second opinion on this ADHD diagnosis.

Kimberly - posted on 11/20/2010

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I know where your coming from on this one only because I had a dr. "try" to tell me my daughter at a young age as having ADHD (which i had no clue what is was)...Like many people on here, I thought that he was full of it so I went and got another opinion and was told that children with ADHD (in order to be accurately diagnosed) have to be at least 5 yrs of age before a diagnosis and treatment could be determined...Many tests would have to be ran to determine whether or not your child has it...Including seeing a child psychologist...Your childs diet will also be included as a factor for the studies as well as family history considering ADHD can be inherited (it DOES NOT mean that just because it CAN be inherited, that it WILL be)...All kids go through a temper tantrum stage and sometimes it can be very stressful (My daughter did they exact thing)...Just remember YOU are the parent...Dont let her get by with her actions because as long as she thinks SHES queen of the castle, the behavior will continue...Take her to see another doctor and explain to them your concerns about your previous diagnosis with her age and I'm sure they'll b happy to help and can even give you tips on the tantrums...I hope you dont feel as if anyone is looking down on you because you only know what your doctor tells you (afterall theyre the one with the "so-called degree") And since I see this is your only child, you really dont know what to expect...It sounds like she has the typical terrible 2 syndrome n god help ya lol...But you will be fine...Just have patience and God bless!!!

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adhd is caused by preservatives in food, coloring and synthetic crap that is in a lot of peoples diets. if you think she may be developing adhd...which cant be diagnosed at 2....try changing her diet...no sugar or junk food at all..which she shouldnt be having anyways.. try giving her natural whole fruit and veggies and nothing with preservatives. If she got vaccines, then that could also be the cause. Try doing a heavy metal detox because she was injected with mercury.

Stefanie - posted on 11/20/2010

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Yeah, sorry get a new Dr. The one who have is totally off his rocker for telling you your 2 year old has ADHD.

Rebekah - posted on 11/20/2010

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Yes, I'm curious too as to how you were able to get an ADHD diagnosis so young too. My son's pediatrician said she would not diagnosis, predict, or test a child until they were 4-5 years old. In her opinion, it was completely unnecessary to do an EEG (or is it the other E-G brain scan?!) for a proper diagnosis until school-age.

Anyway... she did, however, recommend the book "Raising the Spirited Child," by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka and that book changed our whole family. It gives a lot of great advice on dealing with children that are "More Intense, More Sensitive, More Perceptive, More Persistent, and More Energetic." My son may still have ADHD, but at almost 4 he is MUCH easier to handle. We have a very predictable schedule everyday. He gets adequate sleep. And we avoid certain food additives too. Honestly, I felt like I was in over my head when he was 2, but with the tips from that book ("Raising the Spirited Child") he's so much easier to control. He might need medication when he enters a school environment with more distractions, but we have the home under control (for now).

Kimi - posted on 11/19/2010

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I know that artificial colors have a significant affect on kids with ADHD. If it's truly ADHD than caffine will have a reverse affect. See how she behaves after eating dark chocolate, my aunt would give her boys mountain dew before sending them off to school but you should avoid soda because of her age.
My youngest brother has ADHD, when he was really young(2 till 6) I thought he had a hearing issue because he wouldn't respond to anything I ever said to him unless I was right in his face. He never did terrible things though.
Try to find a behavior therapist for her to work with and make sure she has plenty of time to run off her extra energy at a park or indoor kiddi gym.
At last resort you could try a gluten free diet. Getting rid of gluten is hard but makes a big difference for a large span of mental disorders.
Just hang in there!

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I would say that your child was diagnosed way too young. Sounds like a normal 2 year old to me. Seek advice from a different doctor, because its incorrect to believe a child that young was properly diagnosed.

Nichole - posted on 11/19/2010

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I agree with others. She sounds like a normal 2 year old. I really don't think ADHD could or should be diagnosed that young.

Christi - posted on 11/19/2010

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Sounds like a typical two year old to be honest with you. If your child has not been properly diagnosed with ADHD, then there is nothing you can really do other than try a different route of discipline. My son is Autistic and we find what works best with him is simply to pick him up from where ever he is when he bites and move him to a different spot. If he tries to climb back up on you, block him and if he bites again, firmly tell him no and move him back away from you. He only does it a couple times after that before he gets the message lol. As far as throwing things, maybe it means she needs to get out and run off some more energy.

Sarh - posted on 11/18/2010

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Sounds like a typical two year old to me. My daughter was horrible from about a yr old! I would NEVER medicate a child that young for ADHD or ADD. Once school starts, if she is having problems focusing and things like that then I may consider it.

My daughter would bite, punch, pinch, kick, throw tantrums from about a yr old like I had said when she started being a holy terror. We worked through it, she is almost 5 yrs old, hasn't hit, bite, pinched, kicked, etc out of anger/frustration since about 3yrs old, when the terrible twos finally stopped.

Don't medicate her, there are other things in which you could do to help her. Make sure you spend a lot of time interacting w/her. I agree w/Jodi as well, what ways of discipline have you tried?

A Discipline DON'T tip that I will give is: Do not spank her. If you spank now, it will make her more likely to be even more aggressive later on. A pediatrics study of nearly 2.500 moms found that, 54 percent said they'd spanked their 2-3yr old at least once in the past month. Two years later, the kids who'd been physically disciplined were almost 50 percent more likely to be aggressive.

I would switch pediatricians! Why label a TWO YEAR OLD?!

Casey - posted on 11/18/2010

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I don't know much about ADHD but I thought at the age of two she would have been a bit to young to diagnose as alot of the behaviour that ADHD kids have could really just be normal toddler behaviour.
I would be looking around for a second opinion and I would also be looking around for a support group for parents whose kids do have ADHD cause those parents will be able to help you with lots of advice and tips on how to deal with your daughters condition, maybe have a look at online support groups if you can't find anything in your local area.

Keshia - posted on 11/18/2010

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I agree with jodi 100% doctors label kids and would rather medicate them than finding a solution to the problem so they just dope them up so they are always tired so they wont throw fits kids are always going to act out thats what parents are for and need to dicipline their children more try time outs takign toys away stuff like that my son is 15 months when he does something naughty he sits in his chair and I dont let him get up until he calms down simple as that

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