what would u do please in need of advice

Emily - posted on 08/25/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




im 23 i have two young children already and i am expecting my third, at first my partner freaked out and asked me not to go through with it. after some time for it to sink in a week later he now says he is happy and excited. i do belive him but how can i be sure a few months down the line he wont freak out again? i seem to think i struggl enough on my own with 2 children so what help would a third do?


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Sabrina - posted on 08/25/2009




i think if he didnt wana have a kid he should of took all precautions to not have one and its not the babys fault if you dont want the baby you should give it to a loving family and not punish it for somethin its not guilty of.

Karen - posted on 08/25/2009




You can't be sure he won't freak out again.....you can only be sure about what you feel. Look at all your options, and decide what your heart tells you is right for you. Would you have regrets later on? Remember, there are tons of people who can't have babies, who want to adopt. Talk to your friends and family, and your partner about your fears. You might find you have more support then you think.....a lot of men freak out when they find out they are expecting a baby.

Trista - posted on 08/25/2009




Hi there. I am also twenty-three and am expecting my second daughter. I have a walking disability and having two kids who are thirteen months apart will be very difficult for me, but I know it will be worth it. My husband takes care of me and my daughter very well, and although we are both nervous about how we are going to handle two kids, we know we will have each other for support. It sounds like your partner is just nervous, but he seems to be coming around. This decision is one only you and he can make together. Sit down and talk to him about it. One thing is for sure, another child will put more stress on your relationship for a while, but choosing to end a pregnancy is something that you guys may never recover from and will never forget. There is no easy choice or answer. Ending a pregnancy just to save a relationship may create resentment on both your parts and ruin things altogether, so my advice is based on a couple of conditions. If you want to end your pregnancy just to try to make your partner happy, then this is not the right choice. If you choose to end a pregnancy because you do not feel you can provide a good life or support for that child, the story is different and the choice may be justified. In my honest opinion, it would be better to keep the baby for now and decide later once you have had more time to think and plan whether this baby should be a part of you and your partner's family or if it would make another family whole. Things will all work out in the end, they always do. Remember, we are never given more than we can handle. No matter how hard things may seem, everything happens for a reason and everything will be okay. Best of luck in your decision.

Carly - posted on 08/25/2009




Hi Emily.The only advise i can give you is to way up the pros and the cons its a hard decision to make trust me i know i was in the same boat. my 3rd was planned and my partner still freaked out and i was wondering is it all worth it but i chose to have my bubby and it is hard with 3 kids but you do get through it but hun you must go with what your heart tells you.hope this helped

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