whats the best way to teach my son to play by himself

Amon1721 - posted on 07/16/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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hey there so i have a 19 month old little boy that i try not to spoil but i think that he is doing that on his own. he loves to watch tv like 24/7 or he with us and he one of our hand. he will not even sit alone he just want to touch us or sit on us. the only time he dont want to watch tv is when he is sleeping and i am getting tire of it because i feel that tv makes kids dumb and he doesn't even know the differences between mom and dad. he started saying dad like 2 or 3 months ago calling me and his father dad and i told him, i am mom and his dad is dad so he switched and started calling both of us mom. another thing with him is that he loves to kiss, i mean when we go out and he sees a little girl younger than him, he would kiss them on the lips, he would grap their face and turn it to him and his them. i know he dont know what he is doing but people look at us funny and laugh at him and some people even rush and take their kids. he even has kiss two little boys also and i think it is my and my boyfriend fault because we kiss him alot, i mean every second we are kissing this kid. even his aunty and uncles do it too. last but not least he doesnt like to play by himself. when we take him in his room he will play for less than a min and than come outside. there are toys in there but the fact is that he just wants to be with us and we need our space and time together as a couple. from the time he was born to about 2 and the half weeks ago he use to sleep in our room with us and climb on the bed with us. but now he has his own room he sleeps in there fine but in the day he just want to be in our room with us if thats where we are at or in the living room with us if we are watching tv. like i said before i dont want him watching too much tv. his dad works over night and in the mornings i go to school and he doesnt like to just give his dad a chance to sleep while he plays in his room so his dad put cartoon on to distract him for couple of hours and that makes me mad but when we are tire it seems like the best opition for him...please help someone... we have put him in his room so that he can play but all he does is cry like someone is hurting him and he cries for more than 20 or 30 mins and he falls asleep for an hour and start crying all over again. it makes me feel bad cuz it seems like i am being very mean

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Brittany - posted on 07/18/2012

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I agree don't feel bad for letting him watch TV.
My son doesn't like being alone either, he's a mommas boy so it's hard to get him away from me without him crying. The doctor told me that to become slightly independent to buy a baby gate and put him in his room with all of his toys. Don't shut the door it may make them feel secluded and build up feelings of rejection. Assure him that your there for him, check on him often if you can't see him from where you are setting/standing.

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Jennifer - posted on 07/18/2012

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I dont think t.v is that bad for kids.my two year old watches tv all the time. she loves it. so dont get to down on yourself for letting your son watch tv. Well I would maby try and put him in frount of the tv and walk away for a few min. then come back and assure him that your there. then leave again. keep on doing that untill you can leave for ten min or so. Thats a hard thing to do some kids dont like to be alone. I just got luckey and my daughter likes to play alone. Good luck.

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