When did your child first get their own room

Brennis - posted on 04/26/2010 ( 41 moms have responded )

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When did your child first get their own room and how far away from yours was it (ex: 10ft).

My little one is 15.5 months and it seems like she is controlling my world. I know she is supposed to be going through separation anxiety, but lately it seems that she just wants momma. She sleeps in our room, and wakes up around 12-1 am, and cries. She gets feed, and changed, teething meds and pain meds. However, if I am not in the bed she seems to wake up again and won’t go to sleep until I AM IN THE BED. Sometimes just papa will do, but this is the time I try to have for myself and it gets ruined when she wakes up crying, which means I stay up later trying to get that feeling of this is me time back.

I don’t know what else to do but to give her, her own room but that feels like I am kicking her out. So when did your children get their own rooms, and what problems did it solve for you or cause.

Thanks for listening, and the advice.

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ours was in her own room in a crib at 3 weeks. she loves it and slept alot better. her room is maybe 5 feet away. i agree with melissa, its not safe to co-sleep. it can cause sids, its very dangerous. alot of people think its safe but i was reading a magazine and even talked to people who say its unsafe. you or him could roll on the baby and it would be a mess.

Darliss - posted on 04/27/2010

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my children had their own rooms by 4 months lol we let our first daughter sleep with us all the time though and finally at a year and a half i said enough is enough. we got her a toddler bed so that she would have something new and exciting and for the first month or so we read her books in her bed until she fell asleep. it was really hard to break her of the habit of wanting to sleep with us all the time. when she woke up in the night and came to our room we simply took her by the hand and tucked her back into her own bed and closed the door. it took alot of time and alot of tears but now she has no problem going to bed on her own in her room

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Brandie - posted on 04/14/2012

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My son has had his own room from about 6 months on. He is now four. He would have had his own room from day one, but when he was born we were in a small apartment and quickly moved into a house where he had his own room. His room was right next to ours.



My son has night where he wants to crawl into bed with us, which is fine, but most of the time he likes to sleep in his own bed. He wasn't fond of the toddler bed we had in the beginning, which we have upgraded to a cool race car bed, so he is excited to lay in it and go to bed.

Jessica - posted on 04/12/2012

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My son has had his own room his entire life. He just will not sleep in it. It is cute and empty. He is 6 years old.:

Jennifer - posted on 05/04/2010

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Our LO started sleeping in his own room around 3 months...we should have done it much sooner as he makes lots of noise when he sleeps and kept us up. He sleeps pretty good in his own bed (has yet to STTN though)...it seemed to improve once he spent a few nights in there. His room is maybe 10-15 ft from our room. Def a life saver putting him over there :)

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We had a hammock in our room for two weeks but we couldn't sleep (bub is a noisy sleeper). We moved his hammock to his room then he didn't like it because he wanted to stretch out so it was the cot from 6 weeks... his room is just across the hall :)

Nicole - posted on 05/03/2010

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My son is 12 weeks old and has had his own room since birth. He did sleep in a bassinet at the foot of my bed for about a month but since then, he prefers to sleep in his crib in the next room. When in his room he seems to like the muffled noise of the television in my room but also likes the darkness of his own room. Everybody wins in my situation.

Savannah - posted on 05/02/2010

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Hello !! Well Amani slepts with us in the bed for the first 10days of life until daddy said 'enough on creating bad habbits', which now (6m 1w later) i feel was the best decision, the thing is, her going to her own room afterwards, she would slep long, 1 hour 2 hours tops, not relizing the problem- she is a belly sleeper ! once we flipped her over to sleep on her stomach she would sleep thru the night waking up on routine times (3:30am then 6am), i know alot of ppl say ur not suppose to let them sleep on there stomach cuz of SIDS BUT, the first couple of nights we would check on her she is completely fine.
Ur daughter needs her own room, if not now, when? ur just creating the bad habits for her. Babies and kids dont know anything but what us, as parents, teach them. And ur going to have to play the crying game....let her cry it out. she will go to sleep. of course u feel bad, thats ur natural instinct as a mommy, but u now have to break her from all this. I hope some of this helps....good luck !!

Michaela - posted on 05/02/2010

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Spencer has had his own room since he was born. He never had a bassinet in our room - we din't want to have a problem with him falling asleep in his bed when he got older. But we currently have problems with him staying in his room throughout the night, he usually ends up in our bed....it is really difficult to deal with.

Kimberly - posted on 05/01/2010

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My only son (and first child) has had his own room from the day he was born. He slept in our room for the first month but he was starting to sleep 8 hours at a time so we thought it was time to let him sleep in his crib instead of his bassinet. He is now almost 11 months old and is starting to get the hang of falling asleep on his own thanks to the help of the Ferber method. It was the best sleep method for us and it has worked so far. The hardest part is keeping a nightly routine since my husband works nights and I work days. Look at what sleep method is best for you and if it doesn’t work the first time try again. Good luck :)

Louise - posted on 05/01/2010

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Mine both went into their own rooms at 6 months but I have a baby monitor on all night long so I can hear them. The recommended age is earliest 6 months and with our first he wouldn't go back to sleep inthe night if we were in the room.
My second is a restless sleeper but sleeps 12 hour a night without waking 9 out of 10 nights. He used to keep me and my husband up making sure he was ok when he's totally fine. We did 6 months and then moved them. They were young enough to move easily. I'd recommend while in a crib to move them as it's harder in a bed at the start! And let them play in the new room for a few days to get used to it before putting them to bed it their own room.

Elizabeth - posted on 05/01/2010

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my little one is just over ayear shes shtill in my room. i have to older boys who were right pains and i only managed to get them both going to sleep in their room last nov, they were 4 and 3. I am having problems with my oldest at mo he wont go to bed unless i go and is being a real pain over it as th eonly time i have is in the evening i dont get to go out with friends as im on my own now i have my children 24\7 cos dad doesnt want to see them, so i do enjoy my quite time, im thinking of putting my yougest in her room very soon, but like you i feel like im kicking her out

Ashley - posted on 05/01/2010

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My son started sleeping in his own room at about 3 weeks. We transitioned him by putting him in his crib for naps during the day. I did that for the first 2 days or so. Then it was time for night time in his crib. He cried a bit at first, but I let him cry it out. And he has slept through the night since about 4 weeks. Good luck!

Stacey - posted on 05/01/2010

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My 1st was less then 2 months old, 2nd was 10wks old..both of which slept MUCH better within days of going to their own room. My last one didn't go to her room until 4 months because I was/am still breastfeeding her so it was easier. She didn't sleep very well through the night until 7 months though.
For a while I went in there every time she made a peep and finally realized that was just making her expect me to in there more and more so I stopped and she learned pretty easily to soothe herself.

Brean - posted on 04/30/2010

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i have yet to move my little one to her own room (she is 7 weeks) but from the advice that almost all my friends and family gave me, the time is creeping up pretty soon. I will start putting her in her own room (her crib is about 15 ft from our bed) at 12 weeks. perhaps you should try putting your little one down for naps in their crib first and than slowly letting her fall asleep in your arms and than off to the crib. it may take a little longer for the transition as she is a little older, but it will happen. stay calm, collected and remember although all of us ache for "me" time, we gave up that time to have our children.

Medic - posted on 04/30/2010

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My son who is now 3.5yo napped in his own room from day one but slept in my room is a bassinet until he outgrew it at about 3 months and it was easy to move him. Now my daughter was in our room and the plan was to move her when she outgrew her bassinet which was two weeks ago but because her brother wants to "HELP" a little too much we had to move her crib into my room because he was pulling his step stool upto her crib and trying to get her out when she cried. If it was not for this she would be in her own room.

Joanne - posted on 04/30/2010

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We just moved to a new house last week and my 4.5 month old son just got his own room. He used to sleep in a bassinet beside my bed and while he has his own room now, he still sleeps in the bassinet just as he's getting used to the new house and the new room, but while switch him to his crib soon. And it's own room, then the guest room, then his room, and it's about 20 feet down the hallway. SO still close enough to hear him cry at night but far enough to not hear his murmuring.

Apps+8278986302 - posted on 04/29/2010

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brooke was 9 months when she got her own room and it would of been earlier than that but we had just moved into a 2 bedroom when she was 9 months....before that she had no other choice to be in the same room as us...i probably would of had herr in her own room when she was 4-5 months..this was when she would sleep a full night without needing me to get her back to sleep!

Kim - posted on 04/29/2010

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I believe around 6 months, due to baby monitors! :) got to love that hunk of plastic

Andi - posted on 04/29/2010

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My Oldest daughter when she was 14 months old she got her own room and my youngest got her own room the day she came home.

Sara - posted on 04/29/2010

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My daughter slept nights in our room and naps in her crib. So the transition at about 3 months to her crib at night was no big thing. Also, I never let her sleep in our bed if she woke up in the night! I'd come to her if she woke up and settle her back down. Her room then was right across the hall. Now she sleeps downstairs in a big kid room all to herself because her old room is going to be for her baby brother now! She does great with it but I do have a moniter in my room so I can hear if she needs me.

Michelle - posted on 04/29/2010

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My lil girl started sleeping in her own room at about 4mon. She hasn't had any trouble. She is about 10 ft away. I have a baby monitor and thats what keeps me sane. I wanted to wait till she was 6mon but my hubby didn't want that. He said he felt weird about having sex with her in our room and he kept getting mad that he could have tv on cause it would wake her up. But it really did work out for the best.

Cathryn - posted on 04/29/2010

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hi, it's always hard to make the move. although i have only had to do it once so far and i didn't really have any dramas in doing it apart from not sleeping very well myself as i was so worried something would happen with her being so far away. my daughter was about 3 months old when she moved to her own bed, reason being she started to move alot in her basinette in our room and was getting stuck sideways in it so it was no longer safe. her room is probably 10 metres or so away from our room, she is 8 months old now, but we just got a baby monitor to hear her during the night and even though she is fine now we still put it on every night just to make sure she is fine. the sooner that you put your little one into her own room i think the two of you will be much happier - having your own space and all. i know what you mean about the 'me' time, as soon as it hits 7pm our baby girl goes to bed and my time starts! your daughter may find it really hard to begin with to self settle if she is used to having you by her side. but if you be strong and win the battle you will get there. good luck and i hope that this has helped....

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my kids were in their own rooms no later than 3 months...and were no more than 50 feet away...i had a monitor so that i wouldnt miss their cries but my husband couldnt sleep with the babies moving around all night

Melissa - posted on 04/28/2010

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My son started sleeping in his own room at 6 weeks. I put him in his room about 3 days after he started sleeping throught the night! it is not really good for a infant to be sleeping in a bed with you. So you should not feel bad about giving her, her own room. This might actually help your little one sleep better. My cousin slept with her parents from the time that she was born until she was12 years old. meantime they had 3 other kids.

Famosane - posted on 04/28/2010

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My daughter slept in a bassinet in our room for the first 3 weeks and on the 4th week I began getting her used to her new crib and room by letting her take her day time naps in her own room, by the end of the 4th week she was fine, she is now 4 months old and sleeps in her own room no problems, her room is right next to ours and we leave the door open at night.

Shannon - posted on 04/28/2010

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My son moved to his room and to his crib from his bassinet at 3 months old. His room is right next to my room and until he was about a yr old or so I used the baby monitor so I could here if he woke up or not.

Cathy - posted on 04/28/2010

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my daughter got her own room when she was 3 months old cos she was getting to big for the bassinet she started waving her hands around. and waking us up during the night and my son got his own room at 2 days old cos he was a good sleeper and being in the cot put him straight to sleep.

Tcordukes - posted on 04/28/2010

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My children where in their own room by 3 mths, their room was right next to ours and both doors where always shut, Now they are at the other end of the house.

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Well I had a room for my daughter which was not even a foot away from my room. When she was born, but the first month she wouldn't sleep in there. The only way she would sleep is if she was laying on my chest. I felt that I wasn't getting alot done but it gave me the chance to rest while she actually slept. After about a month or so she was sleeping in her own room. Which actually relieved me. I felt I could finally get more done. It's a bonding thing with them.

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my daughter has had her own room since she was about 2 1/2 months old. we live in an apartment, and the room is right next to ours (shares a wall). i leave both doors open, so i can hear her when she gets up. but a lot of the time, she ends up in our bed anyway. but i notice she sleeps a lot better and wakes up happier with more energy when she spends the night in her own bed. if you're worried about her feeling like you're kicking her out, then make sure you do her room up nice, have a nice blanket on her bed, and make sure you explain to her that this is her bed and she should sleep in it (however you want to put it, kids actually understand a lot more than most parents give them credit for, you said she was 15 months?) anyway, idk if this helped at all, but i hope so and good luck!!!

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My son has been in his own room, which is really the dining room, and it's on the other end of the apartment. He's been there since he was 1 month old. We all sleep better.

Randi - posted on 04/27/2010

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My little one has had her own room since 4 months. She got too big for her bassinet so she started sleeping in her crib. She took to it really well. All that room to move and play in the morning. She loved being in her crib in her room. Even now at 18 months she likes being in there playing. I have to keep her out because she will completley wreck the entire room. Diapers everywhere clothes blankets, whatever she can get her hands on. Now that we are thinking of having a little one it will be nice that she liikes being in her own space too. Hopefully it will give her a sense of comfort when I'm spending time with baby # 2.

Liz - posted on 04/27/2010

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My twins have had their own room since we put them in their cribs when they were three months old. my youngest will get out of our room when he is between three and six months depends on when he starts crawling or when he out grows his bassinet.

Morgan - posted on 04/27/2010

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My little one slept in her own from from the night we came home, shes 14 weeks old and has never slept in our room, her room is about 15 feet from ours and we have an angel care monitor so I dont worry about her at all, shes been sleeping from 9pm-5am then 5:30-9am since about 4 weeks :)

Danielle - posted on 04/27/2010

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I moved my son over to his own room at about 9 months old and other than a couple of very early mornings he was fine with it. His room is just down the hall from my bedroom. I sleep with both our doors open so if he should wake up and need me I can hear him right away.

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We couldn't sleep with my LO in the room, so he started sleeping in his own crib at around 3 weeks. It was a while before my spouse and I slept in the same bed, though, because one of us always wanted to sleep on the cot in his room to be near him "just in case". Good luck!

Krystal - posted on 04/26/2010

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My son just switched to his own room about 2 weeks ago. He is 4 months now.

Sarah - posted on 04/26/2010

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My eldest was in a bassinet in my room until 6 months and then the plan was for her to be in a cot in her own room just down the hallway from us..however it never quite happened that way as she was terrified of her cot so she ended up co-sleeping with my husband and I until she was about 12 months then she moved into a toddler bed in her own room. My youngest was in a bassinet in my room for the first 6 months, then moved into a cot in her own room down the hallway until she was around 18 months then she went into a toddler bed in a room with her older sister.

Belinda - posted on 04/26/2010

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My first child was a pain to get to sleep by herself... when she was a newborn I co-slept with her because of breastfeeding and the fear of sids and all the other things first-time moms worry about... around 6 months trying to put her in a crib was horrible. She would cry until she wore herself out or I finally caved (which happened alot). Then when she was a year my husband and I cracked done and made her sleep in her own room, but she would make herself sick and throw up on the floor and all over so we ended up putting a toddler bed in OUR room. She did pretty well then, yes she was still IN the room but she was in HER bed... at 20 months we moved her toddler bed into her own room and she had problems at first with getting out and joing us but after a couple weeks she gave in and now She is 2.5 and she sleeps in her own room. You just got to feel it out really and do what best helps her feel safe. Its hard but once you get it down it SOOOO worth it to climb in bed and just relax!

Me time can be found in other ways also... Not sure if you are talking about just being able to be by yourself or the other "Me" time but I find mine mostly when I take a bath or shower. I tell my husband that I need an hour, go into the bathroom, shut the door and lock it... a nice hot bath does it for me everytime... but you could also asks friends to babysit while you got shopping or just drive around or go for a walk... I have two kids now and its hard to get away but you JUST GOT TO!

My son is 8 months old and he sleeps in his crib without a problem... I really havent a reason WHY he took to it so easy but he did. So if you are planning on having another it might not be such a hassle. Hang in there! It will get better!!!

Kate - posted on 04/26/2010

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Hi, it is really tough trying to get that 'me' time! My little one actually started towards her own room at about 5 weeks (her room is right next to ours so not very far away). She was in a bassinet and I just moved her a small amount from the bed each night until she was in the middle of her room, it took a few weeks and at about 10 weeks we put her in the cot. It was a really difficult process and I spent a long time getting up several times a night to check on her even if she wasn't stirring because I would wake and start panicking! I still went in to her room and fed her overnight until she was ready to stop (about 7 months) and also we tried to stick to comforting her in her room as well rather than bringing her back in to our room. So there were a lot of nights where she was the only one getting any sleep! My little one is now 13 months and sleeps really well. I have mentioned on other posts a book I have by Sheyne Rowley called Dream Baby Guide, I have used it a lot to get ideas and found it really helpful. It focuses on supporting your child to have enough confidence and independence at night time that they feel comfortable sleeping in their own room. It does not condone letting them becoming distressed so it is an approach that doesn't leave us as mums feeling guilty! It looks more at routine and how what they are doing during the day can effect how well they sleep at night and also about how we communicate with our kids and what message we are actually putting across. It has specific activities/routines you can use to get your child used to their cot/own room and I would highly recommend it. Good Luck, I hope you find a solution that suits you and your family as that 'me' time is REALLY important.

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