When should you start talking to your kids about sex?

Jennifer - posted on 04/20/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My son is very curious and smart. He asks all the questions of a teenager. I just tell him I will talk to him about it when he is older.

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Selena Marie - posted on 05/14/2013

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I think that you should talk to them when they are about 10 or 11. If they ask what it means and you just tell them that they are not old enough to know it will make them feel like little kids and they will get really curious and mad at u and they will probably type sex on the internet and find inappropriate things. Then they will also find out in a way that you probably didn't want them to what sex means. I know that because my parents thought that i was always to small to know anything like that so other kids told me and i looked it on the internet and saw things that i probably wasn't old enough for. Once when i was about 9 my mom bought this perfume called sex perfume and i asked what sex means (i already knew) and she found this funny excuse and said that its another word for perfume and i couldn't laugh but i felt like it. That is why i told my kids when they asked. I wanted to make sure she doesnt find out a diffrent way.

Jennifer - posted on 04/20/2009

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yeah i agree....but you should also tell her that you have babies when your married and in love with the right person....I mean im not on to speak i had my first when i was 17 but i want better for my children....they have a mother that is willing to teach and be there for them....unfortunatly i did not!

Molly - posted on 04/20/2009

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My 5 year old daughter asked me how a woman gets a baby in her stomach. My answer was that God gave boys and girls different parts(she understands vagina/penis) and when you put those parts together you can make a baby. Seemed to satisfy her!:)

Jennifer - posted on 04/20/2009

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I know this is bad but i think at like 7....my nefew has been suspended 4 times from school already fo passing sexual notes....If they are not properly informed then they will be subject to teen pregnancy...and i say that with personal experiance.....Not to mention STDs .... you should be the one to teach and talk to your kids, not another child!

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I agree. The best time to talk to your children about sex is as soon as they start asking, this way you can at least avoid your children learning about the wrong things regarding sex (e.g. if you stand on your head after sex you won't get pregnant, or you can't get STDs if you're a virgin). My parents had "the talk" with me when I was five, and I'm glad they were as open and as honest as they were. Granted, I didn't quite understand the dynamics until I was much older, but it allowed me to develop that trust to talk to them about anything.

In this day and age, kids really aren't "too young" for certain adult topics anymore. If you consider the number of children (yes, practically children) that become sexually active at younger ages than in the past, it's just smart to prepare them for that big scary world. At least this way, they have the information at their disposal to make (hopefully) good decisions. Btw, my daughter is four, she's already started asking, and we've started talking.

Christine - posted on 04/20/2009

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my son is nine years old, and it completely suprised me that he knows about sex already. he said he learned about it from kids in his class in SECOND grade. kids definitley know more now then we did when we went to school.

Tiffany - posted on 04/20/2009

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I actually just read an article about this in the April 2009 "Parents" magazine. The article was very informative and seemed very smart. The basic idea is that as soon as children start asking, that is the time to have a talk. One suggestion is to ask your child what they know first. It also suggests using proper language, not slang, and to be as honest as seems appropriate for your child, or until they seem satisfied. If you get the chance to pick up the magazine, it is definently worth the read in my opinion. I know I am dreading having the talk with my children but I do want them to find things out from me before they do their friends at school. Good luck!!

Sarah - posted on 04/20/2009

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my oldest got to watch the infamous video they show in school so he knows some basics but i need to have "the big talk" with him this summer. hes 12 going on 30 himself and actually one of my motivations for talking to him this summer is not just cause hes getting older but because next year he will start middle school and im outright scared of what everyone else will be telling him. i want him to get facts not fiction.



when he was smaller and would ask me questions about things i would tell him in simple terms... like if your son sees you shaving your legs and he asks if he can and you tell him no.. just be honest that its something that mommys do, not boys.. with mine if i try to lie about stuff he just ends up finding out the truth later on anyways. just be honest to the point of it making sene for your son's age and maturity level.

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