when teachers dont take you seriously because you are a young mom"

Devyn - posted on 09/12/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




every time i go to my kids conferences the teachers talk down to me, they think because i am young i do not understand what is going on, does anyone know how to handle it, because i just get furious


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As a young teacher, here is my advice. Be prepared just like some of the other moms have already suggested. Have questions prepared, if the teacher has some concerns, don't be afraid to ask for examples of what he/she is talking about. This is very important because if there is a problem then the teacher should be taking notes and keeping work samples. Be weary if a teacher ever mentions the need for meds. That is not our job and, in Iowa anyway, I would already have been talking to a rep from education association and would already have been in touch with you over our concerns. If, after the conference, you feel that the teacher was unneccessarily rude or judgemental, talk to the principal and voice your concerns. As a teacher, we are not here to judge students and their families, we are here to partner with the parent to see that the students needs are met while they are at school. Hope this helps.

Kryss - posted on 09/13/2009




Well, i have had problems with many ppl and just not teachers as my son was growing up..he is now almost 10 and i stood my ground no matter what. I was 20 when i had my son and i knew i would have to stand my own ground...remember who you are and that you are the mom and no one can change that, act civil always in front of your children and calm and your kids will also see that you are standing your ground always....as far as the teacher id make her aware of how i felt civily....and if the prob continued id take it over her head:)

Liz - posted on 09/12/2009




I'm not sure how helpful I can be, but here is what I would do.

You need to assertive about what is right for your daughter - have questions ready about things that you have noticed or things that you feel need to addressed.

If the teacher ever disrespects you, or just doesnt treat you quite right - bring it up. If its a comment I find 'and what exactly did you mean by that" works really well.

Clarify things you are doing at home to assist your daughter.

I find being direct, and precise is always that way to go.

Chances are if you sound in charge, she'll back on off.

If not, talk to the principal. When in doubt, complain.

Hope this helps!!

Sarah - posted on 09/12/2009




I had this problem with my daughter second grade teacher, she's in fourth grade now. I made it known that I'm the mother and I know whats best for my own daughter. Not in words really, I asked tons of questions and put my foot down when she told me my daughter should be on add meds (I wanted to ask where her medical liesnce was), but I said that was for me and her doctor to talk about. Come to find out she said this to most of the parents!! she was in her 50 and old school. I desides to set up a meeting with the princal and a few of her teachers. My daughter is a bit behind right now and shes getting extra help but she is a normal active child. I'll I can say is to go in with confidance and determination and if you feel that your child isnt being treated right or the teaher isnt doing he/her job talk to the princpal. Good luck!!

Esmeralda - posted on 09/12/2009




wow! i do not know how to handle this.

i would either keep my mouth shut,or respond in a way that would not help my child.

good luck! i hope someone has some great advice for you,im sorry i dont :-/

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