When to have a 3rd child

Casey - posted on 05/12/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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We have a 2 year old and an 8 month old...

we would like to have one more in the future.



When would the best time be? Once my youngest is at least 2? I am already busy and wouldnt want to make it too much for me, plus i want to devote myself to the two i already have for now.



Thankyou!

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Heather - posted on 05/31/2009

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i have three the first 2 are 13 months apart (almost 3 and almost 2) then our third is 17 months younger then our 2nd (6 months). we are going to wait 3 yrs then have 3 more really close tpgether. its busy but i love it im super young (21) so i have lots of engery to keep up with them. but deff dont overwhelm yourself you olnly get to go through this stage with them once and it goes quick! yall will know when its the right time and who knows maybe God will decide for you! good luck!(:

Casey - posted on 05/31/2009

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wow that sounds very busy!! 4 under 5!! I dont think thats for me! My eldest 2 are 18 months apart and they will b very close but i dont think i'd have them any closer.....they need their mummy and I think it would be selfish to have another one or 2 just now. I want the time to spend with them... life is too busy, and too short.

I think when Matilda turns 3 in 2011 we could try, then that way my eldest stella would be in kindergarten the following year and matilda almost there... then would only have 2 kids home during the day! But i do eventually want to go and work, we are struggling a little at the moment and extra income would be soooo good!

Julie - posted on 05/30/2009

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I have 4 kids. My oldest two are 13 months apart. We waited for our third one a while longer so we have a 2.5 year age gap between our 2nd and 3rd. After experiencing that we went for it much sooner again with our 4th. Our last two are only 14 months apart. For me it was much easier to have them close together. Running errands was challenging with 4 under 5, but it was much easier for me because they could all be on the same schedule for the most part. They all napped at the same time, had the same bed time etc. It was easier for me to get a moment to breathe. Now they each have their own personal friend. They play so well together I hardly see them unless they need feed lol!

Casey - posted on 05/30/2009

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Thankyou all so much for your responses! I think we should wait till out youngest Matilda is 4....it would be too much. Besides we are only young, 26 & 24....plenty of time to have another :)

Shara - posted on 05/12/2009

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I have a an almost 7 yr old, a 4 yr old, and another one due in Sept. I think the age difference has been a really great factor in how they get along, and we've been able to spend alot of time with each one as they're growing up. They are both super, excited about having a baby, especially since this one's a girl :) I would say, each person is different and you are the best gauge at what you can handle and how soon...

Chelsea - posted on 05/12/2009

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No matter how you time it having three children is hard. You only have 2 parents and only 2 hands! I would not be in a hurry to have another one for a few years. I have 3 amazing babies 4.5, 2.5 and 9 months and it is tough trying to find the time and energy to divide myself between the kids, my husdand, work and then all the other things that come with being a mother and wife. Life with 3 is busy but it sure is a life full of little hugs, kisses and smiles!!!!!

Clara - posted on 05/12/2009

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My son and daughter are 3 years apart and i never had a problem so i would suggest that age difference. My son was also a lot of help and never got jealous. My daughter is 3 now and we are planning on getting pregnant soon.

Melissa - posted on 05/12/2009

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go for it i have a 3yo a 23 month old and a 10 month old. i am only 23 but i wouldnt give my kids up for the world. they are always doing somethin to make me smile... take ur time and when the time is right u will know when to have your next one xx

Molly - posted on 05/12/2009

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I have 7 month old twin boys and have always wanted to be a young mom, so we are waiting until the boys are about one and a half to start trying, that way they will be a little over two before our third would be born. My brother and I are a year and 9months apart, and I loved growing up with him, so I want it to be the same with my kids.

Melinda - posted on 05/12/2009

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Personally I think you should enjoy the two you have at the moment. You have already said how busy you are and that you want to devote your time to the Two you already have. I think that is awesome & very sensible. My two children are 3.5 & 2 yrs, they are 19months apart & I have found it very full on & routine most of the time. I wish I had more time with them both, I would love another child, but am waiting until my eldest is at school and my youngest will be going on 4.

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i feel the same as you. i have a 7yr old (8 next month) and a 7 1/2 month old.i would love to have another in the near future but also want to enjoy my baby like i enjoyed my older one when he was young and feel that if i have another now i wont be able to do that.. i just dont know. lol xx

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i feel the same as you. i have a 7yr old (8 next month) and a 7 1/2 month old.i would love to have another in the near future but also want to enjoy my baby like i enjoyed my older one when he was young and feel that if i have another now i wont be able to do that.. i just dont know. lol xx

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