why are mums the bitchiest ppl on earth???

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all the mums i no as friends are lovely! but i dont agree that wen i am on here i get spoken too like a piece off dirt!! i have been called names i havnt even been called ever in my life!! has any1 else suffered such abuse and has the so called moderators helped you??? because they turned a blind eye to me

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Char - posted on 12/08/2012

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Hi I'm sorry you have experienced such negativity. I myself was reluctant to join up because I knew that people can be really nasty but I thought this place may be different. Personally I would not even bother to acknowledge hurtful or nasty remarks because that is what they want. You do not know who these people are and sometimes they are not even mums. Often people feel like they can rant/vent and express things that they feel they can't or know they would never get away with in really life. A lot of these people are very immature, having a laugh or a bullies and as you would in real life ignore them or deal with them by asking a moderator to remove their post. There are not supposed to be personal jibes against another person and the administrator should be only too happy to remove it if they know about it.

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Jennifer - posted on 12/03/2009

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Wow! I had NO CLUE that people were being so nasty on here? That is terrible. I guess I have never personally encountered anyone being rude (yet) but I have read some really nasty comments on some other person's question and it broke my heart. But as is true to life out there, its bound to happen here too. Hopefully all of these encouraging words here will let you know that maybe all of us aren't out to hurt you. I used to suffer from depression as well, and its like you have to face the world with an extra 100lbs of bricks strapped to your body. When I first had my son 6 years ago, some of the older moms and grandmas used to say some pretty wicked stuff to me. I could not breast feed my son and man o man did I get it for that. But I finally learned that those women have some issues in their own hearts and for me to get too upset was making my issue too, and well since i already had a truck load of issues of my own, I just decided to go on being the best mom and person I could regardless.. and yeah one time I actually had to tell this old lady from my church off. she came up to me and said your the type of mom that makes us mothers that actually raised our children look bad. I had to tell her "Ma'am we do not live in the 1950's anymore and today woman take on alot more than the kitchen and dealing with cheating husbands. We take that on plus careers due to economy, fathers who leave us, etc..." I went off on her at church.. and everyone just let me do it. :) Needless to say the woman stays away from me now... good. I am really sorry about the hurtful things said to you.. but do not let that keep you away from some of the great people on here too! I have some really great women on here as my friends and we are really for each other!! Don't give up although I COMPLETELY feel your anger and disappointment. Have a great day!!

Christal - posted on 12/03/2009

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well to be honest. its because women, as much as we like to deny it, are the most cattiest people on earth. and then as soon as we have children, we think we know everything. i wouldn't take anything they say to heart.

Emily - posted on 12/03/2009

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There is one woman on here who is always saying mean things to people and I personally think that she should be banned from the site. She tries to use humor to make friends while she picks on the people in need. Some women are pouring their hearts out on here and could be at the end of their rope. Show some restraint and get a life!

Jade - posted on 12/03/2009

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Not that i am sticking up for the people who are just downright cruel on here, there are alot of people who are very passionate in their opinions and ideas and sometimes go a little overboard (altho thats no excuse for them to be rude and nasty about things) but certain topics, especially about breastfeeding and formula, are always going to be sensitive issues with some people. Hopefully these people learn to keep their opinions to themselves if it will result in a nasty comment about someone they have never meant ans know absolutaely nothing about but if not just ignore them and know that there are plenty of other people on here who are willing to be truely helpful and supportive

Adrienne - posted on 12/03/2009

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i think some people just dont have anything better to do, is only a few small minded people but like to think the majority of us are nice and friendly! xx

Tracy - posted on 12/03/2009

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i would say just turn a blind eye cause its very hard raising children most mothers suffer depression like meself and i pick it out on my partner but i dont mean it

Karlee - posted on 12/03/2009

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Stacey, just dont let it get on top of you!! I have just joined this forum and and really thought it was for mums to support one another not be bitchy and down right nasty! Dont stoop to their level and just stick to the peope you now want to gve advice or their experiences. Must admit, im wondering what themoderators are doing if it hasnt been addressed??? Anyway keep smiling :o)

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thank you ladies for commenting its nice to know that i am not alone in this!! there is just no need for all this anger on here especially wen children r being called its jus plain cruel!! i felt that i needed 2 raise this issue so that us mums or dads have somwhere too let off steam and rage about abusive ppl! (in an non offesive way please).

thank you

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What the hell??? I didnt know people were sayin shit like that on here..thats ridiculous!! i thought this was for mothers to get together and encourage each other maybe share some advice..dont worry about it some people have nothing better to do than bring down complete strangers they know extremely little about..as long as you know your not what they say you are then sweet!

Annemarie - posted on 12/03/2009

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YOU GO LADIES!! I FULLY AGREE WITH YOU GUYS.IF YOU CAN`T SAY ANYTHING GOOD OR NICE TO SOMEONE THEN SHUT UP!!!

Amber - posted on 12/03/2009

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Quoting Adrienne:

tell me about it! i have just been accused of having a low iq and god help my children!! all over breastmilk and fomula!!!



YEH, JUST STUPID ISNT IT

Amber - posted on 12/03/2009

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WELL TODAY I HAD TO REPLY TO SOMEONES QUOTE THAT, THEY FELT SORRY FOR MY KIDS AND THAT PERSON CALLED ME A BAD MOTHER AND SAID I DONT DESERVE THEM. yOU ARE RIGHT, SOME PEOPLE DONT KNOW WHAT SELF DISCIPLINE IS, THEY HAVE TO GO AND PICK ON PEOPLE.
WHICH TO ME SHOWS NOT ONLY DO THEY HAVE NO DISCIPLINE BUT THAT THEY DONT KNW HOW TO BE DECENT ADULTS!!!

I HAVE ALSO STUCK UP FOR PEOPLE ON OTHER CONVERSATIONS.

LUCKILY THE ONE THAT I WAS ABUSED ON PEOPLE STUCK UP FOR ME AND THE CONVERSATION WAS CLOSED SOON AFTER.

SOME PEOPLE ARE PLAIN MEAN!

' AGREED '

Adrienne - posted on 12/03/2009

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tell me about it! i have just been accused of having a low iq and god help my children!! all over breastmilk and fomula!!!

Simone - posted on 12/03/2009

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Its very unfortinate you have experienced that kind of treatment on here, i have seen some nasty things posted on peoples conversations!

I stuck up for someone the other day as someone posted something very nasty on there question, i dont think its right, ive always been taught if you have nothing nice to say dont say it at all.

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