why cant my 15 month old leave stuff alone?

Tera - posted on 01/26/2013 ( 8 moms have responded )

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my child touches everything in the house hes not supposed to. if we catch him he runs with it and eventually throws it. we swat his toosh but he continues to it. what do i do?

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Feah - posted on 01/30/2013

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Baby proof the house. He is 15months old he has really just become aware of all the things he can get into and explore. So yes discipline him when he is in something he isn't supposed to be but at his age its a matter of distracting him with other toys and making sure he doesn't hurt himself or break anything.

User - posted on 01/29/2013

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thats great! Mine gave me some issues I felt like I was at my wits ends around that age. It was like I thought he was already exploring, and all of a sudden he did soo much more. I also had a friend tell me that she didnt change anything in her house when her son was that age and everything was fine, but kids are different. Her son didnt really explore much and was really quiet and minded her, she didnt have to go through him grabbing stuff every minute. Even in older times kids did not do that near as much as they do now. We encourage this for independence and development, but it also comes with firm discipline and consistency, setting limits. For them to have a space let it be his room, play room etc that he can run wild and play with his toys as he pleases, and you dont have to worry about things hes not supposed to bother will not only help him, but help you and let you relax

Tera - posted on 01/27/2013

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thanx ya we have tried everything i have stopped hitting him i am trying a whole new approach.

Jodi - posted on 01/27/2013

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He is exploring his world. You are punishing him for doing what comes naturally to him. This is how children this age explore and learn. Don't hit him because he is curious by nature. If you don't want him to have it, put it out of his reach. (Your grandma is right, he does need to learn, but he will still learn without having things in his reach that you don't want him to have....and he will learn without you hitting him).

If you can't put it out of his reach, remove it from him and tell him no, then redirect his attention to other things that can stimulate his curiosity (eg. toys that he can explore, lots of colours, sounds, and stimulating the sense of touch).

Grace - posted on 01/27/2013

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well being hes only 15 months hes exploring and at that age they still dont understand just yet and the touch everything .If I were you I would hide the things he isnt suppost to touch, or give him something thats going to keep him busy like a toy thats has music or that moves. Try and play a game with him or sit with him and use books with pictures. these things work

User - posted on 01/26/2013

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lol I ask myself this evry single day! Literally! At this age they are going to do this because they are learning about their enviroment and seriously they get so focused on something they want or see and its hard for them to control that. Its really up to us parents to teach them the self control and what to do and what not to do. Right around that age (my son is now 23 mo) I thought that we had everything really childproofed, but I realized I was wrong! Since they are getting so mobile and learning to climb, its like we are in for it. I had to take everything off (for the most part) my tables, but I caught myself saying no, no, no you cant do this you cant do that, literally all day. It seems to me that they are more defiant when thats all they hear, so I took somethings away that I knew wasnt going to distract him. Of course you need the rules of safety always but other rules that arnt safety related, I took a few at a time and implemented them. Once he learned those few rules, I started to slowly add more (ex. standing on the couch, pulling the chairs from the kitchen table and moving them all over the floor, etc) and I still do this. And as time goes on I also start adding a few things back into the room.
Every parent disciplines different, I dont spank, I put mine in time out, I didnt start that until he was about 19 mo old though. But regardless I always try to stay as consistent as I can. You have to be on tope of them all the time, I know its really tiring, but consistentcy is key. try to catch them when you see them going for it, or you catch them in the act if you can, and tell them what they shouldnt be doing, take the item away, remove them from the situation and redirect his attention. I do this everytime he does something bad. It takes some getting used to doing every single time and its tiring but I tell you it really works. With mine I also preven the temper tantrums (luckily mine hasnt really started that yet) When I am redirecting his, of course he gets upset because he cant get what he wants, but I try to suprise him and with something close by and I get all excited and say something like "Wow! Look at that lion, watch what hes doing. And at that point I start playing with it overly excited and by that time he has forgotten all about what was going on and is now happy again playing with something within the rules.
It takes alot of repetition for them to really learn something and stick with it, but hang in there and it will get better. Good Luck!

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