Why do children tend to forget they have dads at home and ask mom everything?

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Janelle - posted on 08/01/2009

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usually its the mothers who have taken care of the child since birth. also a lot of women tend to spoil. so to help this have the father tuck her into bed, take her out on special errands. a little more interaction with dad will help the situation a lot more. it helped with my family. and usually the mother is in charge of the house and what goes on so sometimes the men feel intimidated so they tend not to help too much.

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I know when I was a kid if I asked dad about just about anything then he would just tell me to ask mom because he didn't know what the plans were or when we were eating, etc, etc. So I just found it easier to skip the middle man and go right to mom.

Melissa - posted on 08/01/2009

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I always joke that it is because they know mommy has the final say. How many times has daddy let them do something, and then you tell daddy he shouldn't have. Could also have something to do with habit. If mommy is the one at home, then that is who they are used to asking. Not really sure though, but it is irritating.

Lauren - posted on 08/01/2009

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LOL, well the 1st thing that came to my mind is the fact that men dont always respond quick enough or at all so since children are already impatient they're going to make they get what they need the fastest, and that is through Mommy, so I dont think they 4get,but just choose to not use them-lol!!

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Tocka - posted on 08/02/2009

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Ladies I would like to thank each and every one of you for your help, support and information. I will keep encouraging my husband to try more and send the children to him until he is able to handle this on his own.

Nicole - posted on 08/02/2009

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Because men are clueless! I don't think they really know how to interact with small children. My husband has no idea when our son's meal and nap times are, even though I tell him EVERY SINGLE DAY! He doesn't know what to feed him or how much or how to put him down for his nap. He doesn't know why he cries or what to do about it. Our son is only 8 months old, but I'm sure when he gets older, I'll hear a lot of "Mom, can I...?"! Or if he does ask his dad something, "What did Mom say?"!

Lauren - posted on 08/02/2009

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Yep, could b bc he didnt interact more in when they were babies but all he can do now is to keep trying. It can b very discouraging for him I'm sure but give him support so he stays positive & doesnt give up trying!

Tocka - posted on 08/01/2009

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I have tried to stay home and let dad take them out to the park or to see his parents and even go shopping and my lil one tends to start crying after while and say that she wants to go home to mommy. My older ones tend to just not ask dad any questions at all and come straight to me and I have to tell them to go to their dad. He wants to be there and answer all their questions and tend to feel left out when he is right there.

Julie - posted on 08/01/2009

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I truly undrstand what your talking about, even if their father tries to help, the kids always want me to do it anyway...

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