why do kids have these attitudes with their moms ,but no one else?

Nicole - posted on 05/18/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )




like i have twins and they give me the blues always and when they are around another adult they are perfect angels..


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Melissa - posted on 05/19/2009




Hi Nicole. I was having problems with my daughter, Lily, after I would pick her up from school. We would get home and she would act out. An article I read attributed it to a type of stress release. Apparently, it's actually a good thing they act out like this with their parents. It means the feel comfortable and secure enough in your relationship they can unwind and let out all that pent up aggression from the days activities, i.e. don't hit, don't bite, eat your lunch, share, etc. We forget as adults that children feel stress to and typically, when they act out, it's because they're stressed in other areas of their lives. Hope this helps.

Charlene - posted on 05/19/2009




Yes it might drive us absolutely scatty, I have the same with my son! Should we not feel proud and honerd that they have to put a front up for other people but they can be themselves and try out their newly found emotions when they are with US, their mothers.

Kimi - posted on 05/19/2009




My step daughter is very rude to my mother in law but is fine with me and my husband we are alot less predictable than she is. If your kids know exactly what you will do when they act up they are more likely to do so because they have a sense of security with you. I like to surprise the kids by being a bit less consistant. Sometimes there's a time out and sometimes they will lose out on something and I don't always give a warning either. I also spontainiosly reward her for doing something good. It pays to be consistant but not always and this keeps her on her toes and I can treat every action how I feel is appropriate in the moment.

Jodi - posted on 05/19/2009




It's a kid thing, trust me. My youngest 2 daughters are 7 and 5, they both have a tendency to know how and when to push mom's buttons. But sometimes it's just mind over matter. If you ignore them, just for a bit and let them realize that mom isn't responding to their behavior they tend to calm down a bit. It takes alot of patience and reassuring yourself that your doing the right thing, but after a while the way they act around other adults will be the way they act around you too. My 2 girls now act the same for me as they do for other adults. Good Luck and hope that helped.

Gemma - posted on 05/19/2009




Most children spend most of the time with ther mums, so I think that is why mums notice the naughty times more. I am a stay at home mum with a 15 month old son Madison and by the end of the day I can't wait for my husband to get home from work so he can play with him :-)

Claire - posted on 05/18/2009




omg thats the same with me, my little girl can be a right pain wiith me and when shes with anyone else it looks like im lyin cos shes really gud. it upsets me loads cos im the one thats here for her mostt

Charlie - posted on 05/18/2009




i young child is still finding direction in life and you are the most important person to show them that , they need to be shown right from wrong and that is why they push the boundries they are waiting for you to tell them where those boundries lie , it sux i know but thats our job as parents everyone else is just for fun nd games im also a teacher for 5year old children so i have 30 of them pushing boundries plus my own son eeeeek!!!

Kori - posted on 05/18/2009




I know how you feel!~ My 7 yr old is a perfect angel for his dad and at school. But as soon as he gets home he is psycho! As far as i know, i do the same things his dad does for disipline and warnings and whatnot. Plus i spend more quality fun time with him and treat him way better but then i get the attitude. I don't get it!

Charlene - posted on 05/18/2009




kids figure out how to push people and if they know how to push u they will but because they dont know other adult limits they wont.

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