Why do people think its okay to make off hand comments about things that are none of their business?

Toni - posted on 09/07/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




So I called my Dr office today to set up a prenatal appointment and the lady on the phone was just inappropriate. For some perspective, I have a 22 mth old boy and a 8 mth old girl and Im 6 weeks pregnant. She was so confused as to why I was calling asking me if either of my children needed the appointment, but I told her it was for a prenatal appointment for me. She was shocked and said " didn't you just have a baby?" with a strange tone in her voice. I don't understand her attitude I'm not the first woman to have babies close together. She works in a baby wellness clinic you can't tell me I'm the 1st one shes dealt with. I guess 'Im just tired of this kind of reaction, it makes it hard to want to tell people about the pregnancy. I mean my husband and I are over joyed that we are expecting again this is exactly what we wanted. So whats with this attitude? we want to have 4 kids we are only on baby #3. This making it hard on us I don't even want to go to the same Dr. Is anyone else dealing with this and how are you handling it? I'm just really frustrated.


Kyra - posted on 09/07/2012




I know exactly how you feel. I was pregnant with my second when my first was 7 months. Telling family and friends didn't bother me then at the time. When I became pregnant with my third, 3 years apart from the last, that is when I felt ashamed yet, I was incredibly happy.

It seems to me that we seek the approval of others because we feel a sense of guilt for doing something that makes us happy and truthfully, a life worth living. Obviously the answer is to not care about what other people think but honestly, that's hard to overcome. Gonna get a little deep here and say that sometimes it stems from childhood and a need to have people support you or give you their blessings per se.

That woman should not have said anything like that to you. I, personally, would complain about her and then find another obstetrician. If yr happy and this is what you and yr husband want, do not let anyone take that away from you!

-Take it easy and good luck hun

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