why do we woman not stick together when we are from the outside of the family we have marryed into?

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Alice - posted on 06/03/2009

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sarah i have the same prob but not from the mum or the better half's sister but the brothers g/f...how that ...do know how that work...lol

Anna-Marie - posted on 05/23/2009

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I also have a hubby who only had one parent (his father passed away when he was 9 years old.) At first she used to ring him up and tell him to leave me, that I was using him for his money (erm, he was a poor uni student and I paid for EVERYTHING lol.) We have been together for 9 years on Thursday, married, bought a house 5 years ago and now have our first child. His mum has finally accepted me but gosh I found it so hard in the beginning and had to keep telling myself I was not marrying her!! lol We must be a little different in our family - we have absolutely loved every girl my brother has bought home to mum to meet - and we get so so upset when the relationship's don't work out! I would never treat my brothers g/fs badly and neither would my mum! I worry that I will be one of 'those' mums with my son. I want to love who my son loves not be one of those 'you are not good enough for my boy' mums.

Sarah - posted on 05/23/2009

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im the only woman from the outside of my boyfriends family. he has 3 sisters and a real mean and nasty mother and they all enjoy ganging up on me. ive never done anything to deserve it either. it would be one thing if i was a bitch to them but ive been nothing but respectful.

i just wish he had a brother that would bring a new girl around to take the heat off me.

Alice - posted on 05/20/2009

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it been great hearing from all of you ...and lol when i read all the replys as we are in the same boat..have a great week ahead

Jennifer - posted on 05/19/2009

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Its because women compete with each other, whether they mean to or not. I think its just an instinct. For example how many times when you are shopping do you look at another woman and think to yourself " oh she should not be wearing that" or something similar. I bet a lot. I know I do. Also it has to do with our pharamones (its a chemical that we subconsciously pick up on from other people) If your nose doesn't like their pharamones then you just won't get along no matter what you try to do. It's a chemical issue sometimes. But I mostly think its because we judge each other and compete with each other, whether consciously or subconsciously. it happens.

Catrina - posted on 05/19/2009

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I guess I was semi lucky that I married into a single child family. However it was not only a single child family, it was a single parent family. Mom and son. Soooooo big time momma's boy. It's been 17 years that my husband and I have known each other. It took several years for her to see that my husband is not innocent and does do wrong. I don't know if I could deal with a sister - she'd be just like the MIL --- oh my gosh no I don't think that'd be do-able for me!! Best wishes to you all

Gemmah - posted on 05/19/2009

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thanx dral...ive come 2 the stage in my life that im not going to let my sis in law bother me or the in laws in genral,coz like u said im here to stay.....but it would be nice if the bitch laid off lol

Alice - posted on 05/19/2009

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hi there gemmah tell her how instercure she is ,,, and that you are here to stay.. it help a friend of mine..

Alice - posted on 05/19/2009

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i have too say you all seen to have the same prob as i do my sister in law is just the same ..when times are hard between her and the brother in law she's all friendly and i want would you do if you where me , but when time are great then i'm the biggest bitch on two legs ...i shit you not very two faced..

Amanda - posted on 05/15/2009

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Mi sister in law is a bitch. she never comes over to our place because she is jealous of me and my kids. she is always competeing trying to be like me and it is actually funny and amuseing. It has gotten to the point where her husband (my husbands brother) and I have became close friends and he has been telling me about their marital issues.

I think she has gotten her self all worked up over being mis perfect which she just isnt that she is starting to break down. Oh well, I am hopeing he will leave her and find someone else. I have tried to be her friend but she is just wayyy to bitchy

Amber - posted on 05/15/2009

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I don't know my boyfriend's brother's are both younger than him and definately not ready to settle down. His one brother had a girlfriend for years and I got along well with her she was the only one who understood how hard it was to deal with their mom. We are still friends even though they broke up. His other brother's girlfriend well they are nothing like us so I never even have talked to her they are always out clubbing and his brother only calls to ask for things. I love having someone else that understands how hard it is to deal with his mother.

Gemmah - posted on 05/15/2009

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hi...i have 2 sistaz in law and they are both from outside the fam ...(as am i).i think it has alot to do with who is most loyal to "THE FAMILY"...for instance my sis inlaw became real buddy buddy with my mother in law n when me n my man fight or have a hard time she likes to try make herself look betta than me.....wtfe!!!or sumtimes try b all wife like to my hubbi in front of the family to look the best and make me look bad....and im not got the green eyed monster...she has told me to my face i am nothing and the fam will neva accept me az long az shez around......lol wot do u do...y not stick 2getha....

Amie - posted on 05/14/2009

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I dunno. My hubby only has a sister. My BIL from her is pretty cool though. lol

Holly - posted on 05/14/2009

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im not really sure ,cause may be you all have nothing in common or have toltaly differnt views on things ?try a play date if you have kids or just try having a girls nite movie and dinner or somthing .

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