why does everything lately make my 2 1/2 yr old son cry?

Shelsea - posted on 09/01/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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lately everything makes my son throw a crying tantrom.I stay calm and just ask him whats going on or what he needs and he just cries and cries.sometimes he will say your mean mommy or that daddy is mean or aunty or whoever is near him.I dont understand.Then after a few minutes he will be ok and just want me or someone he trusts to hold him.

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Stephanie - posted on 09/02/2009

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I agree...my almost 4 year still will take a 2 - 3 hours nap everyday...yet her 2 year old sister will nap for an hour if I'm lucky. Schedules work for us most days...somedays you just gotta forget the schedule and let kids be kids and have a blast..When we are on a schedule and it seems to get to routine...we take a break from it. B/c lets face it even in adult life we follow a schedule...work schedule ect..but sometimes we need to take a break from that schedule to enjoy life...so not everyday needs a plan..

Brenda - posted on 09/02/2009

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Quoting Shelsea:

Thank you.This helps alot.ive been reading up on how frusterated toddlers can get.Sometimes I feel like crying myself or just walking away from him but I know he needs help too.Alot of it has to do with him not wanting to take his nap.Im trying to keep him on a schedule.But......He wont go to sleep sometimes,unless he's been crying alot then he just tires himself out.He also feels really jealous because his aunty is pregnant and his grandma is paying more attention to her now then him so he will cry and hide somewhere.Its sad but we are all trying our hardest to help him understand that he is gonna be a big cousin pretty soon.



My question would be do you feel he still requires a nap? I know most people will tell you they do, and some kids nap until five or six (lucky parents!) but my son gave up napping before two.  We talked to the pediatrician about it and she said some kids just don't need it.  But that's your call, of course. 



And schedules are overrated.  ;)  I'm a natural/attachment mom and have never kept my kids on schedules *gasp* which most people can't believe, but it works for us, lol, though not for everyone.  Never been good at schedules myself...lol.  You might take some "special time" with him and make a day all about him so he feels he's getting the attention that he craves and make the new cousin's arrival a fun event.  Its tough, we just had a baby and my four year old is still getting adjusted to it.

Brenda - posted on 09/01/2009

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At this age they are going through a lot of frustration. They are having super fast emotional changes and they don't know how to deal with them just yet. This passes, some kids sooner than others, my son still has days at four where he gets mad at one of us and yells "you're a bad daddy!/Mommy!" because of one thing or anther. Usually it is over something like dad eating his food or mommy throwing something away he didn't want me to. Remember, young children feel things more extreme then others. The best way to handle it is to keep trying to help him understnad his emotions. He doesn't understand them at all, so you can ask him are you sad? Are you mad? Help him label what's happening. And then just be there for him. My son would often get mad if I took something away and I would tell him, "I know you wanted that (item whatever it was) but I'm sorry you can't have it. I know you are frustrated and angry."



Its kinda funny, now when he gets in trouble and sent to his room for something sometimes he says "mommy you are making me sad!" He is a very emotional child though, always has been, so much so that he starts crying at the doctor's office when his brother gets shot telling them, "No you're going to hurt him!" If you want to also have something to help, TV wise, there is a Noggin show called Ni Hao Kailan, which is a Chinese kid and it talks about identifying and dealing with feelings. Good luck, and know that just about every kid goes through this. :)

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Shelsea - posted on 09/03/2009

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thanks yes sometimes he will nap for anywhere to thrity minutes to 4 hours.some days he wont nap at all.we usually can tell when he needs one cause he gets really cranky and asks for his dinky(security blanket)then he will just go to sleep.or some times I will find him already asleep on the couch or bed if we're watching diego together.It all depends on him and that day.He might nap at 10 am or he might decide he wants to nap at 5 pm.thats the schedule thats been changing.the time he does nap.I think we are going to take him out this weekend,we'll let him decide where he wants to go.I know he asked about the space needle the other day so maybe I should suprise him with a trip there.

Jamie - posted on 09/01/2009

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Cause hes 2.5 and may not know how to express things to you properly so crying is the simplest thing.

Shelsea - posted on 09/01/2009

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Thank you.This helps alot.ive been reading up on how frusterated toddlers can get.Sometimes I feel like crying myself or just walking away from him but I know he needs help too.Alot of it has to do with him not wanting to take his nap.Im trying to keep him on a schedule.But......He wont go to sleep sometimes,unless he's been crying alot then he just tires himself out.He also feels really jealous because his aunty is pregnant and his grandma is paying more attention to her now then him so he will cry and hide somewhere.Its sad but we are all trying our hardest to help him understand that he is gonna be a big cousin pretty soon.

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