Why does the I do notlove you phase go away?

Britney - posted on 04/24/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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sometimes my daughter will say no mommy i dont love you

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Christa - posted on 04/25/2009

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Unfortunately its not always something they grow out of. However, this doesn't mean that they don't love you, they are just saying something they know will upset you when they are angry. Saying they don't love you is something they can easily hurt you with when they are angry and it is the only thing they can "take away", therefore they say it. When my 2 1/2 year old daughter says it I tell I love her and she hugs me and is then fine. I have a brother who is 10 that tells me the same thing when I watch him, I tell him that it is a hurtful thing to say but I still love him anyway. He rolls his eyes and says "I didn't mean it anyway". It all depends on your daughter she may stop saying it, she may not, but as long as you remember that she loves you and remind her that you love her it will be alright.

Sarah - posted on 04/25/2009

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It goes away when they have children of thier own. Atl east you know she doesn't really mean it, she's just mad and she won't be mad forever.

Britney - posted on 04/24/2009

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I know that is right. Well like the other lady said she will get over it sooner or later. r

Kylie - posted on 04/24/2009

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Children are manipulative, they learn quickly once they have the vocabulary about what gets a reaction. My daughter said that once to me at about age 3 and i just shrugged it off and said something like "I don't care I still love you back", but she has continued to says it to her daddy sometimes because it clearly upsets him. She's only four but she knows how to pull the heart strings already.

Heather - posted on 04/24/2009

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Depending on her age, she might not know what she is saying. My 3 yr old repeats what his teenage sisters say and I know he has no clue what it really means. Don't take it to heart too much, you know she loves you. She will grow out of it.

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