WONT TAKE A BOTTLE TO BED..21 months old still bf..but want to stop bf

Zilda-Rae - posted on 08/24/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My daughter is still breastfeeding she's 21 months old. i want to get her off the boob.she wont take a bottle to bed she has it durning the day, she wont have a sippy cup..any advice?

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Trista - posted on 08/26/2009

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It sounds like it is time for some tough love. I know it is hard to say no and hear your daughter cry, but if you don't start putting your foot down now and give into everything she wants at this point, she will expect that and demand it for the rest of her life. It is something that is learned early and is very hard to break in a child once it is established. You need to let her know that mommy is the boss, and she said no. Also, bottles are bad for babies teeth at night. She should have a cup of milk somewhere in the hour before bed. Remember, just because she doesn't nurse or eat right before bed does not mean she is going to starve during the night. Brace yourself for a rough couple of days. Take my advice, the longer you wait and give into her, the more difficult it will be to stop the breastfeeding and control her behavior in the future. Best of luck to you.

Dani - posted on 08/26/2009

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I stopped BFing my son at 20 months because I was pregnant with my second and nauseous. So, he was old enough to prepare him by telling him that he was a big boy and that we would rock to sleep. I made sure that I still snuggled him and had that closeness, and I transitioned slowly over a months time. First cutting out daytime nursing, except for nap times. Then nap time, then bedtime. It was hard because for 2 weeks he still asked for it! One thing we did was get him a special blanket to snuggle while we cuddled with trucks on it since he loves trucks. Maybe there's a toy or lovey you can use too?

Zilda-Rae - posted on 08/25/2009

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i think it would be easier if someone else put her to bed but her dad works fulltime and we live a province away from grandparents.so that wont work.and she knows just what to do to get her way.its very stresstful because having her breastfeeding she only wants me. with my first child he was 8 months when i stopped but with my second she knows how to get her way..

Rachel - posted on 08/25/2009

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Do you have parents or a really good friend that would take her for a night? That just might do the trick. My daughter just stopped on her own at 7 months so I was really lucky, good luck!

Christine - posted on 08/25/2009

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Be Strong! It's ok to cry with her. It's ok to feel bad! But you are going to have to tell her no! Karen is right, don't send her to bed with a bottle! Hang in there, you will get through it!

Zilda-Rae - posted on 08/25/2009

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well that is my main problem she only wants to be nursed when she is going to sleep..and she puts up a big fight its hard to stay strong and say no then she has a bad temper tantrum..i really want to stop bf.cause shes already potty trained i thought that was gonna be hard but it was quite easy..i guess i just need to be stronger but its so hard.

Tawni - posted on 08/24/2009

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Yep, Karen is right. Babies shouldn't take bottles to bed as it is very bad for their teeth! I also think it is a good idea to come up with a new activity for you both to do in place of the breastfeeding

Shekka - posted on 08/24/2009

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i have that same problem but my daughter is almost 3 months and im ready to stop breastfeedin..its seems like its too much of a challenge to go from breastfeedin to a bottle n from a bottle to formula..i dont know what should do

Karen - posted on 08/24/2009

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She shouldn't take a bottle to bed...that's bad for her teeth. You might have to cold turkey stop......at this age she knows how to get want she wants, and you might have a rough couple of days. She doesn't need breastmilk anymore...so she won't starve...she probably just likes the bonding time/attention, so find a replacement activity maybe. Will she drink from a straw? I would stop the breast feeding, and once that is done stop the bottle too. She should be drinking from some kind of cup instead of a bottle.

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