worried daddy

Metrevino - posted on 02/01/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )

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I'm 28 and having my first baby...unplanned....with my ex of 10 years. Our relationship had been up and down but we still hung out after breaking up and now I'm ten weeks along. Before going to my first doctors visit I told him I'd already gotten a positive result from an at home test and he took the news well even came with me to the appt. My problem is he worries too much. He has a million questions that are legit....from who will take care of baby when we go to work (he's gone for a week at a time in the oilfields) to how we will make it work since we don't live together and how we explain why mom and dad don't live together....all reasonable worries but now every conversation we have revolves around these worries and I feel like he's putting so much pressure on me to provide answers that I don't have. I guess my question is how do I reassure him that its ok not to have all the answers and we won't ruin babys life because we don't live together (a big worry for him since his parents separatex when he was young)....he's driving me crazy and depressing me during what should be a happy time....

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Jaimejo - posted on 02/02/2014

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don"t worry having a baby is scary enough without all these extra worries but as the saying goes it will all work out i was in pretty much the same situation a couple years ago and we did have some hairy times we didn"t get back together for the baby or anything we tried but that just made things worse the only thing we agreed on was that we both loved the baby and wanted the best for him.We sat down and came up with a plan took 6 hours but we stuck to it and 2 years later that plan still works for us try to explain to him that 2 separated parents that are happy are much better than parents who stay together and are unhappy the baby will pick up on negative vibes you want your baby to grow up seeing happy times i hope this helps you if only a little and you should be happy a baby is a wonderful thing the best part of two people all rolled into one try not to stress it is not good for you just focus on the good stuff!!!

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