Worried if my baby knows who I am

Nina - posted on 01/21/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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So I'm a young mom and the very first week after I gave birth, my mother took care of my son when she wanted me to rest up n heal. after that one month, so far i've been taking care of him. He's almost 4 months now and I see that he doesn't interact with me as much as others. I can easily form a list of who he 'talks' to more: my grandma, my dad, my mom, his dad, a toy and then there's me. My grandma and parents speak in a different language to him. N his dad speaks english to him, but when I try both, he hardly talks or laughs to me compared to everyone else. He doesn't even look at me when we play or talk. Being a first time mother, it hurts to see that I'm last out of everyone else. I did the hard labor, the taking care of (mostly) out of all 4 months, everyone else just plays while I take a break from being a full time mom. So I really do wonder if my baby even knows who I am. I really don't want him to get confused of me and my mother bc I'm starting to go back to school while she takes care of him for 4 days in about 5 hours each. I just can't tell, does he know me or am I just too new at being a mother that I really don't know how to be one?

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Stephanie - posted on 01/21/2013

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Hi, I am a new mother as well..and i know that your son knows who you are because when they are in your belly they hear your voice and they get used to your sound and smell when they were born in the hospital...i think how he is acting right know is normal when others play with him and show interest..i wouldn't be concerned about how he is acting..your family is a big part of you and your babies life and that's great that he has taking to them as well as it sounds..when you go to school it will be a easier transition for him to be with other people as he gets older...as for when your with him make sure you give your son 100% of your attention when you both have play time. Also when first becoming a mom..of course your new .and just like anything else we learn how to do things as it comes up..I wouldn't be so hard on yourself..its not easy raising a child because its the first one you may think you don't know how to be one..i know i feel that way at times as well..its kinda frustrating at times not knowing what to do with a new born baby..and what stages they go threw but because your asking questions i believe you are a good mother because it sounds like your really concerned and care a lot for your little guy. he is lucky to have such a good family :)

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Jeannie - posted on 01/21/2013

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I'm a new mom myself and I can sympathize. My son is 16 months old now and I remember when he was just itty-bitty I used to think he interacted with his grandma more than me, as well. For me at first it was more that I felt kinda like - how the heck do I interact with this little guy? As time went by I learned. Just be yourself. Continue cooing at him, making silly faces and noises, singing to him, just plain talking to him. He knows who you are - never doubt that!
I don't think any first time mother really "knows how" to be a mother. Granted, some things come more naturally to some than others. It's all a learning process. Also keep in mind that babies have a very keen sense of intangible energy. If your frustrated, upset, happy, excited, etc. they can sense and feel those emotions. Never second guess your ability to be the best mother you can be! And always, always, always remember not only does your baby know who you are and love you, you have something you can give him that no one else can - A Mother's Love. Keep your head up momma! =)

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