Would rather stand than sleep!

Chrystal - posted on 09/15/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




My son used to take 2 regular naps a day, both between 1-2 hours. Now I am lucky if I can get him to lie down for half an hour.
Ever since he discovered that he can pull himself up he just stands there and cries. I go in, I put him back down and he stands right back up again.
I can lead the baby to bed, but I cant make him sleep. Any others had this problem? what did you do to curb it?


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Ashli Faye - posted on 09/17/2009




girl don't go back in he will stop standing let him cry all he want is for u to come back in could u stand for 2 hours without support no way he will giove in after 15 mins give it a try let him cry

Amber - posted on 09/17/2009




The problem with my son is just that he just discovered how to pull himself to standing so he is so excited about it that is all he wants to do day or night.

Danell - posted on 09/17/2009




only let him take one nap he might be getting to much sleep. this happend to me and now mine only takes 1.

Sara - posted on 09/16/2009




Both my kids went through similar things and they continue, at 2 and 3, to have periods where they will not sleep. Each time, I follow the same pattern and after a week or two, they go back to takeing their naps or sleeping through the night.

This is what I do: I have to practice some tough love and let them cry and get upset in order to make them understand that they do not get to make the rules, I do. So, I pick a rutine, like for naps we take their shoes and pants off and read a short story with music on in the background. After our story generally they fall asleep, but if they do not, I get up and leave the room. Sometimes they fall asleep, sometimes they get up and start crying. If they cry, I let them cry for five minutes without going in their room. After five minutes I go in, without picking them up, and check to make sure everything is fine. Then I lay them back down and leave again. They might fall asleep, but if they do not, let them cry for like 10 minutes, or seven, something longer, but that you feel comfortable with. If they keep crying for the entire ten minutes, then you can go back into their room and, without picking them up, comfort them and calm them. Repeat this process, with ten minute intervals of crying, until they fall asleep.

With my son, he tends to get himself worked up and then he makes himself throw up. So I only go five to seven minute intervals and sometimes I will break the rule and pick him up so he does not make himself throw up.

I know that you will feel really guilty and wonder if you are hurting them or causeing them pain, but really you are setting boundaries. It is hard for the first few days, but after a week of so, all of a sudden they will stop fighting it and start sleeping on your schedule. After that happens, you will feel much more confident and better. I have a friend who did not force good sleeping patterns and they had to shut their three year old in her room and listen to her kick and scream at the door like this in order to get her to start good sleeping habits. SHe was getting up several times a night still.

This is what I did and it really worked for both my kids. I still use a variation with them, and they are 2 and 3!

I hope this helps, above all do what makes you conforturable! Warmest wishes,


Amber - posted on 09/16/2009




Yes I have the same problem. My son has been taking naps for 15-30 mins now when before they were 1-2 hours. I try to get to him before he is fully awake in the night as well or else once he stands up he wants to stay up and party all night. I really don't have any suggestions, but I am in the same situation and I am hoping that it will pass.

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