YOUNG GIRLS AND PERIODS

TIFFANY - posted on 07/05/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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HI I AM A MOTHER OF TWO. MY GIRLS AGES ARE 9 AND ALMOST 11. MY 11 YR OLD KURSTIN STARTED HER PERIOD AT 9 YRS OLD. UUUUHH RIGHT?. WELL SHE HAS DONE VERY WELL BUT MY PROBLEM IS TALKING TO HER ABOUT THE BIRDS AND THE BEES. SHE LOOKS ABOUT 13 AND BOYS LOOK AT HER ALL THE TIME AND AS A MOM I CANT STAND IT BUT AS A WOMAN I UNDERSTAND. I JUST NEED TO KNOW HOW TO APPROACH HER ABOUT THE SUBJECT, HER BODY IS MATURING FASTER THEN HER BRAIN. FOR INSANTS THERES THIS 15YR OLD BOY THAT I HAVE TO KEEP AN EYE ON AND SHE JUST DOSENT THINK ANYTHING OF IT. SHES STILL NIEVE (SPELLING ISNT MY THING). IF U HAVE ANY SUGGESTIONS PLEASE HELP IM JUST A CONCERNED LOVING MOM THAT WANTS THE BEST FOR HER GIRLS

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Kate CP - posted on 07/06/2009

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It's hard to talk to your kids about sex but once your daughter starts her monthly then it's time to bite the bullet and just talk about it. If you act uncomfortable about it then she'll feel awkward asking questions about it which is what you DO NOT WANT. If she won't talk to you about sex she'll talk to her friends and kids have wacky ideas about sex these days. Talk to her. Be open and honest with her, don't hold back. Offer to take her to the library to check out books on reproduction and sexuality or offer to purchase some online for her-that may be a better option so she doesn't feel so embarrassed. Let her know that no matter what happens she can and should talk to you about sex and boys. Good luck!

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Amanda - posted on 07/07/2009

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Hey I have a 10 year old daughter. I have let her now using age appropriate language that as she grows her body is changing to eventually look like mine. That these changes are neceassary for her to become a mother when she is older and married. ( we know a girl who was 14 and got pregnant so I wanted to stress to her that that is not appropraite behavior and that she is not to let that happen). She knew from tv that sex is how a woman gets pregnant, but she didn't know just for sure what sex is and what it entails. (or to my naivety i don't think she does, but I wouldn't be surprised if she knows more than I think she knows). that is something else, don't assume that they don't know, becuase they probably do. The trick for me is to open that line of communication and let her know that she can come to you with any questions or anything that she has to say about it so she will be comfortable talking to you about what is going on with her, her body, and with boys.

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I agree with Kate. If you're awkward about it, she will also feel awkward which will mean her not asking you a whole lot of questions and, out of curiousity, finding things out for herself. I was that way. My parents were so extremely awkward about the whole subject that I really didn't have a clue about stuff. It made me super curious but I wasn't about to ask my parents about anything because of how they tried to tell me the birds and the bees. Just being comfortable with the whole sex talk should come across as "this is normal", "You're not the only girl who is having a period", "this is how guys think", etc. :)

Jessica - posted on 07/06/2009

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be blunt about it your lil girl is growing up and sooner or later shell be looking back
shes got to know why she gets a period now so maybe start in territory she already knows. then ask her what else she has learned lil girls talk
grade 6 i remember over hearing a class mate talking about her sexual experiences.

Michelle - posted on 07/06/2009

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i dont think theres should every be a bird and bees talk kids should be learning this stuff from a very young age... my 5 year old already knows where babies come from how they get out *baby sister is 9 months*

Patricia - posted on 07/06/2009

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try libragirl.com not sure if it will help much but it does have some info on it... thats coming from someone who had no idea what was happening at a very young age too...

Daria - posted on 07/05/2009

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The only thing that I can say is answer any questions that she would have and answer them truthfully. My best friend started at 9 years old as well ( we've been friends since 1st grade) and I remember her mom not informing her of anything. Such as what the purpose of a period. One of the most crucial things a young girl should know! I think that if you sit down with her and ask her if she has questions you might find that she will know a lot more than you thought she did. It will be easier for you. There are kits you can buy at Borders that help too. I hope this helps. I had this talk with my daughter when she was nine....reason 1, i didn't want her to start her period and have no idea why, and secondly my niece started hers and i knew they would start talking to each other. Being honest and forth coming about everything is a lot easier than to have to answer questions later. As for the young man, I suggest you get to that talk right away. Boys will be boys, it might seem very honest, but you never know. With her having more information at hand she will be better able to handle a situation that she knows about. I hope this helps.

Daria

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