my husband just doesn't get it...

Diana - posted on 08/07/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )




Last year I was hospitalized for four days with severe PPD when my second son was 3 months old. After a lot of hard work, therapy, support from friends and family, and the right antidepressants, I feel a thousand times better. Some days are still tough. I have a seven year old son and I am a stay at home mom. The other morning I needed my husband's help. He rolled his eyes, huffed-and-puffed, and said, "It's BEEN a YEAR!!!" as if I should be supermommy by now. My stomach turned to knots, my face felt red, and I felt like I was an inch tall. We have been seeing a marriage counselor once a month for 8 months. Do you think there is hope for us? Or should I just throw in the towel with this marriage? We've been together for 8 years, but all we ever do is fight. I'm exhausted by him. I'm happier when he is at work. My older son is starting to feel the tension. Honestly, I feel like he just doesn't care about anything except work. We've slept together 3 times in the past year. I've faked orgasms to get him off of me. Should I divorce him or stay in this marriage for the children?


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Aicha - posted on 08/10/2010




Sorry you feel this way have you tried finding a new counselor and individual counseling Ppd take time to heal from sometimes longer than a year

Julie - posted on 08/09/2010




Well, at least you got your husband to go to counciling ... however, if neither of you feel there's been any progress with your relationship, perhaps you should look for a new therapist. If your husband doesn't get that therapy is an ongoing, forever process, he needs to. Relationships are always changing. If he won't realize these, you'll never be happy with it. If that is the case, better to be happily single with kids than married miserably with kids. In theory, anyway.

You sound like you are doing a lot to make your life more positive, keep it up. Ultimately, YOU have to make you happy. Easier said than done, I know. I don't have any clue on "fixing" the relationship. If I did, mine would be better. Perhaps others have suggestions that could work.

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