not a question just a poem that touched me beyond belief when i lost my 5 yr old daughter 11 mnths ago

Jennifer - posted on 07/08/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )




You ask me how I'm feeling,

but do you really want to know?
The moment I try telling you
You say you have to go

You ask me how I'm holding up,
but do you really care?
The second I try to speak my heart,
You start squirming in your chair.

Because I am so lonely,
you see, no one comes around,
I'll take the words I want to say
And quietly choke them down.

Everyone avoids me now,
Because they don't know what to say
They tell me I'll be there for you,
then turn and walk away.

Call me if you need me,
that's what everybody said,
But how can I call you and scream
into the phone,
My God, my child is dead?

I am tired of pretending
as my heart pounds in my chest,
I say things to make you comfortable,
but my soul finds no rest.

How can I tell you things
that are too sad to be told,
of the helplessness of holding a child
who in your arms grows cold?

Maybe you can tell me,
How should one behave,
who's had to follow their childs casket,
watched it perched above a grave?

You cannot imagine
what it was like for me that day
to place a final kiss upon that box,
and have to turn and walk away.

If you really love me,
and I believe you do,
if you really want to help me,
here is what I need from you.

Sit down beside me,
reach out and take my hand,
Say "My friend, I've come to listen,
I want to understand."

Just hold my hand and listen
that's all you need to do,
And if by chance I shed a tear,
it's alright if you do to.

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Jayne - posted on 10/06/2010




Thanks for that poem. It is all so true. People don't want to be this way it is just the way the world is. I have lost 2 babies now and had 2 miscarriages. My 2nd babe was this year and I am struggling at the moment with this very issue. Thanks.

Lacey - posted on 10/01/2010




that really touched me, I've been struggling with my loss for 2 months now and I feel so alone

Stephanie - posted on 09/23/2010




Thank you for posting this poem. i have lost 4 babies due to miscarriage and each one hurt so much and nobody who has not gone through it understands

Sarah - posted on 09/08/2010




I feel this way I just found out I miscarried my second child. I do not think it matters how far along one is or if the child was born both hurts like hell

Michelle - posted on 07/23/2010




:) that is perfect....if only everyone could read this to understand what we need. xx

Laressa - posted on 07/16/2010




Thanks for sharing this lovely poem. It made me choke up with tears. I hope that thru this i've learned to be a better friend.

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