Another vent... I'm on a roll

Nikki - posted on 12/14/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I love this community, keeps me from taking my shit out on hubby! lol

Ok, I haven't been home for Christmas in 10 years, so this year I was looking forward to spending the day with all my aunties, uncles, cousins, mum, dad and nan and pop. Well that won't be happening because my cousin is a rude bitch. My mum has a close friend and young daughter who have no other friends or family in the area, so they spend Christmas with my mum and dad. My cousin refuses to allow anyone but family attend Christmas at my aunties house. So we can't go. I am so peeved because my pop is sick at the moment and I don't think he will have many Christmas's left, so why should my dad not get to spend the last few Christmas's he has left with him. So pissed, she is so heartless, does she expect us to kick our friends out and make them spend Christmas alone, not going to happen. I am not sure whether I should talk to her about it, they are not a family who talks about this they are secretive and talk behind each others backs which has caused heaps of conflict in the past, of which has only been repaired to speaking terms in the past year. So do I risk causing conflict and speaking my mind, or do I just shut up and deal with it?

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Jaime - posted on 12/14/2010

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As much as it sucks balls Nikki, I think you'll just have to grin and bare it. If you were having everyone over to your house/parents' house then your cousin could fuck rocks before thinking she has a say in who spends Christmas with the family. But because this is happening at someone else' house, I don't know that you saying anything will do much good. And it will likely cause more conflict. My thinking is that if she's a nightmare to begin with, you're better of staying home and celebrating with just your immediate family and the friends you've invited over and leave it at that. We've all got shit dicks in our families...but luckily we only have to deal with them if we want to.

Hope things get better for you. ♥

Sneaky - posted on 12/14/2010

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Sigh. I am probably not the best person to give advice since I am just short tempered and cranky most of the time :o)

If it was me than I would go one of two paths - speak up in a scornful, condescending tone about the true values of Christmas and how selfish it is not to want to share love, hope, comfort and family with people that are not as lucky as they are. . . . and/or just have everyone (including the friends) show up on Christmas day with out telling bitchy cousin about it - then if bitchy cousin gets her panties in a twist she can just leave and miss out instead of you!

It's always bloody family that make the easiest things seem difficult isn't it?

Jaime - posted on 12/15/2010

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Barb...you had me at hello!



And yes Nikki...your cousin is clearly full of shit and won't know her own asshole when she falls in it after opening her gigantic mouth but hey...what can you do but sit back and watch her try to wade through it all!



As D-Mak would say: "chin up soldier"...and she'd probably slap you on the ass and say "good game" too



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Barb - posted on 12/15/2010

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Don't let this ruin the holidays for you. Cousin's a bitch, but let it ruin her own holiday.
It sounds like you want to make the holiday happy for Pop because he is sick. What does Pop want to do? Would he rather go over to bitchy cousin's place and be with that family? Or would he rather be with people he likes and the family he loves that cares so much about him they want to make a great holiday for him?

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Jaime - posted on 12/15/2010

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Glad it's sorted Nikki. I'm sure you will enjoy your day much more knowing that the people you are with are the ones that truly matter when it comes to family and friends. ♥

Nikki - posted on 12/15/2010

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Thanks Ladies, we have decided that we will have Christmas breakfast with my grandparents ♥

Nikki - posted on 12/14/2010

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Thank you ladies, I think I will leave it, it's not worth the fighting. JL we offered to have it at our house but my cousins 18 month old can't be in a house that doesn't have fences or she will run away!! hmm, I am guessing you know how I feel about that crap!

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