do you get sad

Stifler's - posted on 12/08/2011 ( 19 moms have responded )

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when you see people's posts on facebook, having fun with new friends etc. ? i moved away and friends moved away and i just get sad maybe jealous that they're having a good time without me. it's sad i know.

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Very serious Kel. That's why I LOVE being on the computer. I can be the me that's inside. I can't do that in person except w/ a very few people (like the one I've known for 21 years).

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Stifler's - posted on 03/04/2012

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I know how it feels to have no babysitter. My problem is that I'm stuck in the past. I sometimes just wish I never had kids so I could go out, have other people buy me drinks., look half decent again. It's sad I know.

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There are such things as Mum's groups and play groups you know.... your kids get to make friends and you get to make friends with people who are in the same place as you. It's up to YOU! :-)

Gabby - posted on 03/03/2012

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I'm sorry Jamie. I know how you could feel. I just wish we lived close I'd keep you company. :)

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surely you know how hard that is when you're in a completely new city with a 1yo and no babysitter, lol.

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Sometimes, after we have felt sad and come to terms with it, we just need to say "stuff 'em", go out and make new friends. It's hard, but it's do-able.

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yeah it's extremely depressing. especially when those friends come to the town i live in to visit mutual friends and nobody says anything to me. even though i talk to these people a fair amount.

Gabby - posted on 03/02/2012

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I feel that way all the time. I just have nothing in common w/people I used to know. They are all so happy. I'm sad I can't fit in w/them anymore.

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Yes I do. One of my old horse riding friends has given up riding and gone into triathlon. I have had kids and gone into Mummydom. She has heaps of new friends and they all do the fitness thing together, socialise and party together, and I feel like I have been discarded. I feel sad that my friend no longer sees me as one of her special friends and that she is having so much fun with her new crew and achieving so much.

Meanwhile, I am struggling to be a good Mum and not doing a heck of a lot else :-(

Jayce - posted on 12/08/2011

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I know how you feel, Emma. My BF lives in another province and when I see posts about her doing stuff it makes me wish I was there. I miss her so much at times, she's more like my sister.

I have a couple of friends her but it's not the same. They're always so busy and we so rarely get together. I would love to have a friend who had a kid around my sons age so we could all hang out togther. **sigh**

Stifler's - posted on 12/08/2011

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I have friends that are mums. I just wish they wanted to go out. Or i had friends who wanted to go out.

Maree - posted on 12/08/2011

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My son is in the middle too. He is 11,friendly and well liked but can be shy at times. I have noticed recently that he tends to go red in the face when he sees someone he knows out in public (poor little thing)...which is what happens with me. I'm hoping it's just his age as i have read that lots of kids this age have this problem.

Maree - posted on 12/08/2011

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Wow,interesting....I am like that too but working hard to change it because i don't want my daughter to be like me. i try to get her out, socialize and pretend i'm not nervous. It's hard though.

Maree - posted on 12/08/2011

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Teresa,are you serious about the social anxiety???
You don't come across that way...but i guess that's what happens when everything is written instead of spoken !!!

On this topic,no i don't get jealous because i only have friends that are mums and are pretty much doing the same things as i am...my other fb "friends" are not really friends but just people i used to know so i don't really care what they are doing....besides,i'm way too tired to go out partying !!! and i only have "mummy" clothes

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Yep again. When all our older kids were toddlers we hung out EVERY Sunday afternoon and sometimes during the week too. Now it's just all different and I miss my 'family'. Still see them frequently, but it's just not the same.

I'm sorry!

Stifler's - posted on 12/08/2011

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i mean i miss the times i had with them really. i miss going crabpotting a shopping and out for dinner we don't do any of those things anymore.

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Yep. What's really bad is when one of my best friend's posts pics of her kids w/ the kids of one of my other best friend's... and me and my kids didn't even get an invite. :(

Granted, I have serious social anxiety issues and such, but I take things WAY too personally... all the time.

Christy - posted on 12/08/2011

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No, what you are feeling is NORMAL! Most of the time the status updates are BULLSHIT explaining how perfect their lives are. There are SEVERAL ppl I went to HS with on there that talk about how perfect their lives are, and at the same time having an affair behind their spouses' back (I went to a small HS and sadly can get the dirt on a lot of peeps).

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