Stuck on bedrest and hubby is being lazy!

Sarah - posted on 10/04/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




I have been on bedrest for 3 weeks now. I have PPROM. I am not due until January 23rd. My husband works very hard at his job (diesel mechanic) but I can't take the way he's leaving the house! He is very supportive and doesn't let me out of bed. But I am ready to clean the house myself! I worked full time and managed to keep the house clean before my bedrest. I don't understand why he can't do it now. He says that he's tired and stressed out by the time he gets home from work... well BOO HOO! How do you think your pregnant wife felt?! lol I love him dearly, I just don't know how to tell him to get his butt in gear. Any advice?!


Carolee - posted on 10/04/2010




Do NOT do what I did. I got up and cleaned the house. Then, after it was a disaster again, I had my mother and sister over to help clean the house. I went into premature labor both times! I just couldn't stand it anymore.

I would suggest asking either your family or his family or friends to come over and do the cleaning that he is either unwilling or unable to do. Usually that will embarrass guys enough to where they will start keeping the house at least a bit neater.

I know it's hard not to, but please resist the urge to do it yourself. Good luck.

Katherine - posted on 10/09/2010




I would probably have someone else come and do it. He obviously can't handle it, and maybe that's just him. He honestly can't. Maybe he needs help and you can't do it. So unfortunately you will have to ask for help :/


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User - posted on 01/30/2013




Ladies, during these times you need a maid! It's affordable if you find the right people and the peace of mind knowing that relatives can come visit and you can feel comfortable in the presentation of your home.

*Lisa* - posted on 10/10/2010




Agree with Katherine and Carolee! Men are made differently to women and find 'multi-tasking' to be an issue. It's normal I think. He's still working hard too and even though we as women seem to be able to find that last bit of energy to clean the house after a busy day, some men don't seem capable. I think that you should be happy that he is working hard for your family and get some of your other family members to help. :) Don't do it yourself!! Good luck!!

Krystle - posted on 10/06/2010




I don't have anyadvice for you other than what Carolee has already said...but I would just like to say that I do feel for you. Consider yourself lucky, b/c if I were ever put on bedrest I'm not so sure I would have such a loving supporting hubby. I love him very much, and he is a great guy...if we could just work past the part where he has no motivation, lol.

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