Mom Suffering from Anxiety Disorder?

Amber - posted on 08/12/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Hi! I am new here, and have suffered anxiety pretty much my whole life, though I do not know why. My boys are now 4 and 7, and I suffered horrible post partum with both, and still struggle with horrible bouts of anxiety, though I am not on medication. I find that for me, feeling isolated and not working outside of my home make my anxiety worse. Also too much change. We have had to move constantly the last few years for my husband's job, and sure enough, every time we move again, I get crippling anxiety for about the first 6 months! Ever since the very first move away from my job, friends, good family support, it has gone downhill for my anxiety. I had a 3 year old and newborn at the time, was getting next to no sleep, and NO help whatsoever-everyone worked but me. From that time on I have just been "isolated" with my kids so to speak. Thank God they have turned out okay, but after all this time (and with the most recent move) I find myself having anxiety over the dumbest, simplest things starting in the morning with "what am I going to do today to stay busy and not go out of my mind?" and "what do I feed the kids for breakfast?" It goes on like this all day. "Am I letting them watch too much tv?" "I should be feeding them healthier" and so on and so on. And still no support system- no friends because I keep moving away from the few I can make, no date nights b/c sitters are expensive and our parents don't want to keep my hyper but good kids. I sure wish I had some neighbors too, but my husband moved us out to this "paradise on a hill" b/c he doesn't like to be around people, but I am missing them terribly! I am getting ready to go back to work part-time b/c I think it will help immensely but I am totally freaked out about! What if I fail at my job? What if I get humiliated? What if my son doesn't do well in daycare? What if, what if what if..........has anyone else struggled with this? I feel old beyond my 32 years.

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Kelly_shotton27 - posted on 10/25/2016

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Hi I'm mum to one 22 months. Really struggle with big a parent due to anxiety. I never leave him with anyone and my anxiety is around his health...when he's ill I'm a nervous wreck. I get the terrible nervous stomach and shakes..dry mouth. I tend to reach for wine to calm me down but that makes the anxious symptoms worse...he had a stomach bug last week then lastnight he woke with temp...been awake all night lying there with him shaking with fear.
Not on meds I was offered about 6 months ago and said no..now im thinking of going back. Dr said citilopram..Anyone on it?

Mich - posted on 01/12/2016

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I read your post just now and it's literally like you were venting and expressing my life. Everything u said is completely how I feel. I'm 32. Feel so isolated. Had postpartum anxiety with both my
Kids. And worry over every little thing.

Yvette - posted on 11/23/2015

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Well Raquel my two year old doesn't mind being away from mommy. When I first left him full time with his grandma I was wreck and I thought he would be too. Turns out he wasn't. He adjusted to the schedule fairly well. He's very active and enjoyed the playtime and attention he got that I could no longer provide because I needed to work again to contribute financially to the household. Since I became pregnant with baby #2 and it was only a few months after his 1st bday my parents would pick him up and bring him to me around bedtime a few times a week since I was exhausted and nauseous all the time. So long story short they adjust fairly well it's usually us that feel the anxiety more. And as an educator for early childhood I can tell you that she needs the socialization it's great for her development and preparing her for the day helps. Telling her there's a routine at school and after lunch time I pick you up everyday or after nap or however the schedule may be. We too have to give ourselves those pep talks especially when it effects our eating habits and ability to function

Yvette - posted on 11/23/2015

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I totally feel you. I'm a mother of two, a two year old and a 4 month old. I found that working part time helped me immensely with my first born. Luckily I had my mother in law to watch him but we have a different way of raising children. It took me a long time to trust her with my son. I breastfeed both little ones and found my supply going down while at work. Once I started solids I managed to keep up with his demands. By his first birthday I found light at the end of the tunnel introduced cow milk and he weaned off my milk pretty quickly. A month later I chose to seek full time work started teaching Pre-k. had a long commute thought that was the problem with my feelings of nausea and anxiety but nope it was baby #2.

Raquel - posted on 08/27/2015

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I can relate to your extreme feelings of anxiety. And this week actually my anxiety is through the roof where I can hardly eat and I feel like I'm always on the verge of a panic attack. I'm a stay at home mom to my 4 y/o and she started pre k on monday and isn't doing so well. I wanted her to go because I thought it would be good for her and she would have fun and gain social skills but she cries every morning about how much she will miss me and it makes me feel aweful. How do you do it with your children and school/daycare. How do you reassure them and yourself? I'm feeling helpless and needing advice from someone who actually understands what I'm going through

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