
Allison - posted on 10/28/2009 ( 26 moms have responded )
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I've never been diagnosed with a specific type of anxiety but i'm 100% sure I suffer from some sort of anxiety disorder.
I feel like this hinders my ability to give my 2 year old the life she deserves. I'm too anxious to drive anywhere by myself, go shopping by myself, let her play outside if i'm the only one looking after her, and I avoid social situations like birthday parties if i'm going without my husband or a close friend. I've always been this way but this is the only time i've ever really wanted to change things...for my daughter's sake.
No one really understands. My husband thinks i'm being lazy and coming up with excuses...but he has no idea what kind of fears grip at my chest and cause my heart to pound. I've tried explaining to him and to others that this is a real condition and I don't choose to react this way to situations.
I've only been on medication once for anxiety/depression. It was Zoloft and it made me extremely tired and didn't help the anxiety at all. I'm afraid this is just who I am and i'll always be afraid and unsure.
I'd love to hear from everyone about their issues with anxiety and how they may have overcome them or at least found ways to deal with them.
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Priscilla - posted on 04/11/2010
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I have a lot of the same symptoms. I never answer my phone. I am terrified to talk to anyone on the phone that we may owe money to. Like mortgage company or others. I want to go out with old friends, but my anxiety skyrockets. I have been diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder. But Docs always put me on anti-depressants. They make the anxiety worse. Are there any meds out there just for anxiety besides Xanax? Had a doc pull me off of that a few years ago cold turkey! That was a horrible 2 weeks following that. My husband also has this disorder, so it's a fight to see who is going to call back whoever has called or answer the door. We are not afraid to go out in public. But large crowds can be unnerving.
Allison - posted on 10/30/2009
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we sound a lot alike haha. I feel the same way about the phone and about going places I've already been. It never makes any sense to me why I panic over things i've done fine before! I hate being home alone all the time but I would prefer staying here over getting out because it's less anxiety. I hate meeting new people too! I want more friends but I really don't like the whole process it takes to make and keep a friend just because it sends me into anxiety overload!! But then again sometimes i'm fine and can meet and talk with people and plan to hang out but the anxiety just returns the next day and I never follow through. People probably think i'm a snob but i'm really just afraid of every darn thing.
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I have been diagnosed with GAD- Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and Major Depression. I have 1 teenager and planning birthdays have been the worst. Since age 1, I've had to have help from family to help plan parties and tell other people. I'm not afraid of people, I'm just afraid of the situation that I have to go into. Judgement by others, where I would have it, me being the hostess, food, etc, inviting parents and their children. If someone was to notice that I didn't have a party for my child every year, they would think that I was mean, or I belonged to some sort of religion where they don't celebrate birthdays. I don't wish this type of anxiety on anyone because it's hard. When I'm invited to get togethers, I sometimes attend, and I sometimes don't. I have lost friends behind this, My Boyfriend has lost his patience with me at one of his family gatherings because I had a panic attack while with him. My teens understands which is good, but it's embarrassing. The sweating, dry mouth, shaking. No one will understand this unless they have this condition. I'm unable to work, and have applied for disibility. Still waiting for an approval. I'm far from lazy. I keep my house clean and if my teen needs something I try my hardest to do it. I cook, but don't have social gatherings like most people these days. I thought that I was the only one going through this nightmare. I am currently on meds-Zoloft which was making it more manageable, but had to increase because it stopped working. I take klonopin as well. Need advice! I forgot to add that I want another child one day, but the thought of all the attention I would receive makes me even more anxious and scared.
Natalie - posted on 10/24/2012
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I'm not alone !!! I have a 6 month old baby girl who is my world. I've been diagnosed with social anxiety and have been on medication for many years. I'm 27 years old. I wish so badly that I could drive the car by myself with her, go to mommy groups, play dates etc. I am in therapy and am doing very well considering the fact but, I'm looking for other moms to talk to who I can relate to. I don't have many friends and my fiance works full time.
Natalie - posted on 08/11/2012
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Wow! I may still feel like I'm going crazy, but at least I see I am not alone!! I have always suffered from bouts of depression, overwhelming anxieties, etc. I was actually medicated from the time I was 15 until I turned 19... I was doing so well. I felt like I had come to terms with what was going on with me, around me. I met my hubs at age 20 and everything was just fine. I made sure I dealt with issues in our relationship, yadda yadda, At age 24, unexpectedly, we realized we were pregnant with our first child. Whoa! SHOCK - I had JUST gotten off birth control to start trying haha. Anyway, to top it off at about 4 months, we found out my hubs was going to be deployed again. I was a "single" Mommy for 15 months approximately 6 months after Zoey was born. It was hard, but - some how - I managed. Now, we have another baby - she's 16 months. I immediately went into postpartum anxiety mode after I had her. Anything and everything I had "taught" myself about "keeping it together" completely went out the door! I was in a constant panic! My poor girls (and husband) -- there's no explaining how you feel or why you're acting certain way -- when you're not even sure why!? When Brooklen, our 2nd little girl, turned 4 months, a very close friend of mine (and - ironically- cousin through marriage) lost her 1 yr old in a freak accident. The whole family was devastated to say the least. I mean, we were JUST at his little birthday party 3 months before! At that point, after going to the hospital to be there for my friend and our family, I lost it. My postpartum/traumatic stress has done a rollercoaster downward spiral ever since then, It's so hard to maintain a level head when I am constantly thinking that some freak accident will happen to one of my girls! It's horrifying... My anger has flared up all to often too recently! I never used to yell, etc ... and now ... at any moment something could make me freak out and get scared or anxious... and I'm done! Spent! I have to take a Xanax just to breath :-( I know I'll get through this, and it's so reassuring to know I am NOT the only one. I am so glad I found this site/forum!