How do I share the love?

Amanda - posted on 10/12/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )




Hi, I am new to circle of moms and have found it to have wonderful information from real moms. So I have a question for you moms who already have more than one child. I have a 4 yr old boy and am pregnant with another boy. We are all very excited about the baby and I cannot wait to experience it all over again. I am really looking forward to sharing it all with my 4 yr old son and for him to be a big brother. However, I don't want to take anything away from him. It's just hard for me to imagine having that much love for another child after I have only had one for 4 years. I hope that doesn't sound awful. I just want to know how you moms felt once you had another and another or whatever? Is it the same with each child?


Lisa - posted on 02/07/2012




I have three boys, that's a lot of love to go around! Don't worry. As soon as you see your new little bundle of joy, you'll forget all your worries! One bit of advice, though. Make sure you have one on one time with each of them. Don't worry about how often or how long. Just as long as it is you and the little one. Those are the memories they will cherish! It will all work out!

Denikka - posted on 10/12/2011




You love each child differently. The same amount, but differently :)
I have 2 little ones (2.5 yrs and 8.5 mo) The last 2 months of my pregnancy, I was terrified. I didn't think I had it in me to love two just as much as one. It just didn't seem possible. But you know what, once the new baby arrives, you'll find that you'll have that warm, first time mother glow all over again :)
Now, I love my little girl because she's my little girl :) I love her dimple and her baby giggles. I love how she reaches out to me (my son just about never giggled and was much more independent). And I LOVE watching her reach her own milestones :)
And I love my sons smile and toddler giggles. I love his independence. I love how he runs up and gives me hugs and kisses and can say *I love you mommy*.

Each child is at a different stage. I'm sure you don't love your son the same way now as you did when he was a baby :) The same thing applies to a new baby :) You can love your sister and you can love your brother, or your mom and your dad. It's just a different type of love for different reasons :)


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