Speech

Kristy - posted on 02/20/2009 ( 20 moms have responded )

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I started this category because there was not yet one for this topic. Speech is my sons main issue that we work with. He is a very smart boy, but does not talk very well. I think he is a little less talkative than other kids his age, and does not sound words all the way. He is only 3 1/2 and has been going to school for two years now. We did Happy day school last year in which i would highly recomend to any parent who as a child with any disorder or learning disability, they were wonderful! He is now at a preschool and has speech twice a week. I work with him as much as i can but i go to school as well. Maybe if a group of us mothers join this "category" we can all help each other out with tips and so forth! I love my son to death and i want the best for him so i do everything i possibly can!

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Rae - posted on 12/09/2010

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hi Gloria sounds to me that you are doing very well, with Brenden, (turning 5 in March) we say the sound and then get a reward something simple throwing a dice to earn coins/beads or putting a counter in a connect4 game or even ticking a square (Brenden has a problem with sitting still so I use this as a way to count down word time) Yep I know I have had some offhand comments from "friends" even to point of a person asking if he is going to a SPECIAL school, umm nothing wrong with Brenden intelligence just his speech darling. I am keeping Brend back a year so he will go to school in 2012 when he is nearly 6, this is to give him a chance to improve his speech.

Debbie - posted on 09/29/2010

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I just wanted to give anyone who is interested a great website. I am a SLP and have used this website with children of all ages. Google the name: "Judith Kuster" and you will get to the page. Mrs. Kuster has been working on this site since before I first started within this field 12 years ago. It has a lot of links with interactive websites along with ideas you can do at home. For example if you are working on sounds, you could play hide and seek with Easter eggs using those pictures the therapist gives you to practice. When they find the egg, they label what's inside with one word, a phrase, or a sentence (depending on their level). You kind of have to weed out what your looking for and if its speech or language. It may help those of you who have difficulty getting your kids to open up to you. Kids are more self-conscious around mom and dad. My daughter gets very frustrated when I try to help her, so trust me I know the feeling. Good luck!

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Amanda - posted on 08/18/2011

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I have a 10 year old daughter who has had a speech problem all her life. She was a late talker and then when she did finally start talking I knew there was a problem. I have had her in speech since she started school and there has been little progress. Lately she is rebelling against any speech therepy because she is embarrassed by it and doesn't feel like it's fair that she has this problem. It isn't. But when I tell her just how lucky she is that it isn't something worse, she accuses me of not being supportive. I almost have to drag her to her speech therepy classes that we go to over the summer (3 times a week), and I will gladly drag her. However, I feel like if her heart isn't in it, whats the use? She's only there cause I make her and I don't think she tries as hard as she could. Also, she hates to practice and I have to fight with her everytime. I'm exhausted and scared that if I don't do something , she will always talk like this. (She can't say the J or G sound and substitutes H for those sounds) Her name is Jennison and she pronounces it Hennison. I don't know what to do. I feel like crting but that wouldn't help my little girl. What should I do. Am I doing the right thing by forcing her to go? I need advice! Help please!!!!!

Rae - posted on 05/24/2011

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Hi Brandy, humm, i nearly bit my tongue in half when a friend asked if Brenden was going to a special school but for someone to say that my son belonged in a zoo, that would be to much for me O.O The speech therapist would either do the assessment or suggest a speech therapist at a clinic. From the results of this the therapist would be able to say what s/he thinks the problem could be. With my son it is oral/verbal dyspraxia. I am not knocking your way of teaching but just an idea. If it isnt lazyness and there is something which is physically wrong you could create frustrastion and his backlash could be the stealing or in my sons case it was self abuse.

Brandy - posted on 05/23/2011

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well my son is 29 months. We have a speech therapist come out to work with my son once a week for an hour at a time. He had one set of tubes at one and then a few months ago he failed his hearing test and they took those tubes out and put more tubes in April 12. Then he started making more sounds but now its back to the way that it was before he got this set of tubes. We do signs for "all done", and "please." He will do the signs easier than he will try to talk. My son goes to be tested in Oct. to see what he is behind on and then he will start school after his birthday in Dec. But I don't know what the reason is for him not talking? Where do you get the speech assessment done at? well any advice for me will be greatly appreciated!!!!Thanks for starting up this about speech. I have had people tell me that my son belonged in a zoo bc he couldn't talk in wal-mart that broke my heart...i couldn't say anything only cried...my son is smart. just doesnt talk. I'm not going to give him something before i pay for it weither he talks or squeals im sorry im not going to give it to him just for him to not bother someone. Just trying to teach my son not to steal. to pay for it first then u can have it....Thanks for listening would love to have people to talk to....

Rae - posted on 12/10/2010

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HI ya, I think the longer our children have at home to improve their lang/speech the better it will be for them. I think for Brenden going to big school will be to much pressure on him. Brend's dad says the same that he will catch up if I send him this year, and he wants him to go. but my mind is made up, I worry if he will get picked on or he wouldnt be able to keep up verbally with the work. I dont think Brend will miss out on the yr that he is home, in fact in most parts of Europe they dont send the kids to school in till they are 7!!! We are mums, worrying comes with the job :)

Gloria - posted on 12/10/2010

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Rae, thank you for the time countdown suggestion, i never thought of that.We use a egg counter for measuring computer tiime and brushing teeth and maybe that would help to visually see how much longer he has. :) tks.
I'm considering keeping him back a year so it's nice to hear that others do that too...everyone i mention it too(including my husband) tell me i still have 9 months(or whatever it is) till september and not to worry...but i do!..school can be hard enough without having speech issues as well...
thanks again..

Gloria - posted on 12/09/2010

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Thanks for starting this group.My son is 4 years old and will turn 5 in april.
He had 8 ear infections last year in the period of about 4 months.The doctor said it was just one long stubborn ear infection(or 2-3) and that it would go away.He also has had 2(atleast) broken ear drums in the last year from ear infections.
After about may of last year my husband began to complain of not being able to understand our son and wondered if he had a hearing problem.It took 3 months almost to get an appoinment to be tested and it came back great.Then we also had his speech checked and discovered that he leaves off ending and some beginning aren't pronounced the way you and i say it.We we're referred to speech and therapy and began short 30-45 minutes visits with a speech therapist/language pathologist.
The first visit seemed well.We worked on beginning l and k sounds and ending t and n sounds.The therapist then sent us home with "homework" and said she'd like to see us in two weeks.
Well, i've worked with him daily for 15-30-45 minutes except saturday/sundays.And we've had 2 more meeting since the first one.He does sometimes get those words/sounds right in regular conversation and you can see him thinking about how they should sound sometimes.He does well during our practice times too.
However the problem i'm having is keeping him entertained and involved with these repetive words and games.We haven't recieved anything new(even just different words) or ideas for games.
HELP!!! are there any games you guys/ladies use?Something easy and quick?We already play "Catus Pete", put together puzzles, drive cars on them, "race",build towers..
Our therapist suggests to say the sound yoursevle and have them copy and then when they get hang of sound/word use it in sentence..so even songs would help...
I'm honestly worried..he's a very smart child and gets very frustrated when people don't understand him.I can't be the only parent who'd like to smack some of these "less than understanding" bystanders who wanna comment on how i encourage my child to speak correctly.I've had to very strange looks at the mall, etc. because he gets so angry when i need him to look at me so i can see him as he speaks...
Why are people so hard on children?I'm serious considering having him stay home a year from school so that he can get a better grip on language before he starts school...what do you guys think?

Betty - posted on 08/29/2010

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hi melissa try useing starfall.com and zacbrowser.com they help me a lot with my 5 year old he has speech twice a week but a lot i still cant understand

Betty - posted on 08/29/2010

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thank u for adding it, my boy is 5 and has very bad speech disorder he has speech twice as well but a lot he says i cannot understand he gets upset and mad

Candice - posted on 03/19/2010

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Great group. Both my boys have Apraxia. Logan is 7 and has been in speech since he was 2yrs 9mos. He will talk your ear off! Wyatt is my non-verbal 3 year old and he has been in speech since he was 18 months old. It is HARD having children with Speech and Language Disorders. I just recently found a great book, ' The Parent's Guide To Speech And Language Problems,' by Debbi Feit with Heidi M. Feldman, M.D., PH.D..

Janice - posted on 12/23/2009

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My son will be 4 in March, he has been going to Speech Therapy once a week,for a half hour each time, I don't feel like that's enough. He has 2 more sessions left then he takes a 2 motnh break then will probably have to go back again. he to is a very smary boy, talks and talks...just can't always understand him! He has week motor skills in his jaw.moouth area and has problems putting a lot of sounds together. We notice that he likes to put the letter "D" infront of most of his words, eg: Cars-*Dars, House* Douse so on...I think speech therapy has really helped him but I like Hollie, I find he has days where he is really talking well then others where I can barely understand him, and I usually understand most of what he says! It is very frustrating because he will start JK in Sept and I want them to be able to understand him. Right now he goes to Preschool at our local elementary school (where he will also be going to JK). I'm glad we heave this discussion board and it's nice to know we are not alone. Our speech therapist says one day "he will get it" I just hope soon!!! Good luck to everyone else to :)

Rae - posted on 11/23/2009

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wow, just been reading your comments, its really good to know that other parents have had the same problems. The biggest one for me is that people think your child is stupid and say tactless comments and the frustration that it causes them and you not being able to communicate. Brenden is turning 4 in March and is having his speech assessment tomorrow, the pediatrician has assess his level of speech to a 20mth old. I regret not getting him to speech therapy sooner.

Melissa - posted on 11/18/2009

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I have a 5 year old that is in kindergarten and attends speech 2 times a week in school. When she was 2 I had her in speech. She was the middle child and my oldest which is 18mo older would talk for her, so she would never talk. When she first attended headstart it took her almost half the year before she would even talk to her teacher. Now she is in elementrary and she is doing wonderful. She has came along way. I've been working with her for her G, K, and c sounds. Can anyone give me some ideas on how I can help her better. Thanks.

Alicia - posted on 11/09/2009

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Thanks for starting this. My son, Chase is 5 and has verbal apraxia (motor planning issue) He has been in Speech for almost 2 years. As a 3 year old he could only say 4 words. Now he can talk like crazy. He goes to speech 3 times a week. Sometimes I feel like it's too much, but then I see and hear the difference it has made. He can actually sing songs now, which is the best music I have ever heard. I am so proud of him. I know he has a far way to go, but staying positive is all I try to do. I can not believe I never knew how many kids struggle with speech disorders until it happened to my family. Good luck to all of you with this daily struggle.

Amy - posted on 11/01/2009

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Hello everyone! I have two children who have had/have speech delays. My daughter who is now 8 yrs. old and my youngest son who is 6 yrs old. My little girl started going to speech therapy when she was 2 yrs old. There is a program here for physically and mentally challenged children that she attended until she turned 3. They got her enrolled into the preschool program at our local school and since then she has been doing fantastic. However with speech delays also come other delays. She has had trouble reading not because she is "stupid" as some would say but, because she could not make the sounds needed to understand the words she was reading. We still don't understand why she has this delay. My son on the other hand was born with a heart condition and his delay comes from having a lack of oxygen for the first 2 days of his life. He also has what they call a "nasal" sound to him. He has learned to talk more through his nose because of all the tubes that he had in his throat at the beginning of his life. He is currently in kindergarten and is working with the speech therapist. His speech has improved dramatically over the past 2 yrs. I just want to encourage all the mothers of these speech impaired children to just keep your faith. Never let your child know that you are frustrated with them because you can't understand them. Always stay patient and give them time, support, and love they will improve slowly but surely with all your loving help. Our speech therapist used to have us take pictures of single objects (a chair, cup, corn, etc..) that started in the sound your child is having trouble making. Then you use the pictures as flashcards to help them see the sounds as well as hear them. You can also use them for sounds that they can't make in the middle or end of a word as well. Good Luck to you all.

Jane - posted on 09/07/2009

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My daughter is 6 years old, will b 7 in december, and it is still very hard to understand her at times.She has had alot of ear problems since she was born ( ear infections, tubes) and due to the ear problems she has alot of scar tissue in her ears. So now , every since she has first learned to talk, she is not hearing the correct sounds of the words that she is trying to say. The doctors told me that she is hearing everything muffled and that is why she can not speak properly. We held her back in kindergarten this year , due to her speech. She is a very smart little girl who just has some speech problems...all i can say is just keep working with your child as much as u can because every little bit helps...

Jackie - posted on 08/25/2009

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My son is now 5 years old and entering Senior Kindergarden. In Ontario Kindergarden is a 2 year program. We began speech therapy at age 3 along with half days in preschool. Just after that, we began to get ear infections. Despite having our hearing tested it failed to notice the ear congestion. After 8 terrible ear infections in 8 months including a ruptured ear drum we finally were refered to a ENT. This past May, my son recieved his operation for tubes in his ears. Since then Speech therapy has become more about fixing the speech pattern habits then teaching new speech sounds. We still have a long road ahead of us but we can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel.



My biggest frustration about all this has been strangers judgements. Because he had hearing loss when we were in busy places I would have to grab him and turn him around to make sure he was hearing me. People would look at me like I was a mean over bearing mom or look at him as if he was stupid. Also without a consistant form of communication of course any child would act out. And I'm sure you moms have experienced the unacceptable fits. I would get two responces about them, either those looks or comments about my son being out of hand and running my life or the flip side of the coin from people who knew his situation when I would punish him... "take it easy on him he has an issue". I can proudly say since the operation we have had less serious fits, less often and more age approperiate.



I wish we had had a better support system. That being said I would love to offer any help, support, tips or tricks. During our speech therapy we covered the hard C, G, S blends, Ls, T, P, "ing" at the end of words, N and R blends *example Trip, Drink*. I'm sure there are more that I can't think of right now.

Kristy - posted on 03/27/2009

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My son is almost four as well. He went to a MMRD school for speech, now he is in preschool and also has one more of preschool before kindergarden. I just figured all the schooling would help and he likes school. Plus it gives the kids social skills as well.  Thats so cute how your son gets exciting to be at  "a big kid school" Cadens school is the same! My son also has good days and bad days, and on his bad they can be bad! Lol! My mom says she thinks that he gets frustrated cause he can't talk to me because of his speech. As his mother i understand him most of the time, but sometimes i don't  even know what he is saying. It frustrates me as well sometimes because i want the best for my son. I guess we will just have to keep working on it! And i know what you mean about people thinking the child is dumb, but my child is actually very smart! Well i hope your son progresses just as i wish my sons does :)

Hollie - posted on 03/23/2009

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Hi Kristy,

Thank you for starting this category!! Most people think that just because you have a child with a speech problem that the child is dumb, just not so!! My son also has a speech problem, he is 4 and has been in pre school for 2 years now. He has one more year befroe he starts kindergarten. He takes speech once a week through a country program which is held at our local elementary school, which is the same school that his older sister goes to. So actaully thinks it is cool to go to speech at the BIG KID school. The nice thing about this program, is that when he goes to kindergarten, he will just continue his speech in the same school with the same teacher. I just someone would have told me that this is a LONG process. He has good and bad days, some times I can really tell a difference, then other days I feel like he has such a long way to go.

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