I need help!!!!

Cassandra - posted on 07/27/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




hello. My name is Cassandra. Im 24 years old. Im worried that I can't have anymore children. My husband and I have been together since I was 19 and in that time we have been pregnant 4 times. The first was January of '09, 3 months after we had gotten together. It was an accident (the condom broke) but we were still excited. After 7 weeks, I miscarried. We decided it was God's way of telling us that it wasn't the right time. Then another accident in May '09; and another miscarriage 10 weeks later. This time we talked it through and agreed that we wanted and had every intention to spend the rest of our lives together, so we made the decision to get pregnant. In October of '09 I had a postive pregnancy test. I was paranoid about every little feeling throughout the majority of the pregnancy; but in June of '10 I successfully delivered a beautiful, healthy baby boy. We then practiced safe sex using condoms until March of last year. We werent trying to get pregnant, but we weren't trying to NOT get pregnant either. We just wanted to let nature take it's course. Finally we decided to actually try in May of this year. In June I missed my period and had a postive test; I began taking prenatal vitamins, stopped drinking alcohol, and made my first doctor visit. Then Monday, 4 days before my visit (at 8 weeks) I started spotting with clots. I went to see my doctor and he preformed an ultrasound showing that I had a blighted ovum. I miscarried Tuesday evening and am now waiting patiently for the bleeding the stop and my cycle to get back on track so we can try again. My fear is that I will not be able to get pregnant again or that I will miscarry again. Everything I've read just tells me that it usually only happens once in a woman's reproductive lifetime and go on to have normal pregnancies. But since I have a prior record of miscarriages, I'm worried that I may be an exception. My doctor says that there is not related cause between the miscarriages, that they were all different but it's not very reasurring. I would appreciate any information you may have or encouraging words. Preferably from someone who has a similar story. Thank you.


Bella - posted on 03/09/2015




Your body sends you messages all the time. Most of us ignore the majority of them. Infertility all its related symptoms are after all a desperate message from your body telling you something is wrong inside. The female body is ready to conceive again immediately after a miscarriage. Hormone levels are at their highest, so infertility is reduced and fertility increased. However, for the sake of the female body and reducing the chance of a second miscarriage, many doctors will suggest waiting at least one regular menstrual cycle to increase chances of getting pregnant and maintaining the pregnancy. Other doctors will suggest waiting up to six months to increase chances of getting pregnant without complications. You may want to check the http://pregnancyhours.com site for information on trying to conceive after miscarriage, there’s lots of very useful information like how to boost your chances of getting pregnant, how to have a healthy pregnancy, what you should and shouldn't do, what kind of food that actually boost your fertility, and so much more.

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