My youngest son Tristan came out to my and his father

Michelle - posted on 04/14/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )

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As the title says my youngest son came out as gay to me and his father. I have agreed with homosexuality but this is my baby boy I didn't even know you could know at 11. Now i just cried but my husband freaked and attacked him and said you are not my son and i wont have a faggot son. Tristan basically lost his father and i just want to be able to show him he still has a mother regardless of my feelings about homosexuality. Can someone help me understand this and offer guidance on how to show my baby support

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Michelle - posted on 04/14/2015

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He is almost 12 my other 4 kids seem supportive of him and my oldest son Keaton who is 17 loves Tristan and has always been very protective and things would have been so much worse had he not been here to pull my soon to be ex husband off of Tristan.

Chana - posted on 04/14/2015

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I do not have a gay/lesbian child but I do have a brother, a nephew and a niece that are either gay or lesbian. I don't know how to tell you to deal with it as a parent but I can tell you what I have told them. I may not agree with their lifestyle but I know it is not a choice it is part of who they are. I love them for who they are not who they love. I do not need or want to know what goes on in their bedroom nor do they need to know what goes on in mine. Are you saying your son is 11 or that he knew from the time he was 11? I guess it really makes no difference. Support him, love him and always be there for him. Make sure that the doors of communication are always open so that he does not become a victim of bullying or worse. Children(and adults) can be cruel and very homophobic leading to violence you can not protect from everything but you can be there when he needs you. Too many children and young adults choose to take there life rather than tell their family they are gay or lesbian, your son was brave enough to tell you just be supportive. Dad may or may not come around but you can't control him or his thoughts. Once he calms down try talking and reasoning with him. I don't think really wants to leave it with his son thinking he doesn't love him. Hugs

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