FT Working Mom, Pregnant with 2nd, Husband Travels 4 days a week

Aestanton - posted on 08/29/2017 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hi all,

I've been really struggling to find the right venue to connect with others that might have a similar experience to mine. My husband has been travelling for work for over a year now. I've basically been single-mom'ing it and became pregnant with our 2nd (which we wanted). I don't think I expected him to continue working as a consultant, and thought he would find something locally that would suit him, but that hasn't happened.

I try to manage work, the house, our 2 yo, our cats, everything on my own, but there are so many days where I feel like I just can't anymore. I hope to end up with 30 minutes to myself at the end of the day before I crash at 9. Work has not been understanding of my home life or schedule, and that has only put more pressure on me and made me more anxious.

With a 2nd baby on the way, I am desperately looking for women with similar experiences to see if there are any additional tips I can use here. It sounds like my husband will be going back to the travelling schedule not long after this baby comes, so I will be recovering from the birth and learning to manage 2 kids practically on my own in no time. It makes me incredibly nervous and anxious.

I should say that his family is close by, but I've discovered that I need to hire a babysitter more often than not. So while they are here in the area, they're not really here for me.

Looking for words of encouragement, advice, tips, anything. I love my husband, and I love our family. I just feel like his travelling for work will eventually put way too much strain on us and our family. Thanks for listening.

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Lisab - posted on 01/28/2018

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I am also a married single mom (which I hate to say because i know single moms have it even harder!). my husband travels for work and i own my own business where i work FT. I think the hardest days are when he has to leave on a weekend or when he is gone back to back weeks. I do not have family to help and I have come to rely heavily on babysitters. I try to make a huge effort to have time with my friends whether that means getting a babysitter if my husband is out of town, or letting my husband stay home with our daughter (when in town) so i have have friend time or some alone time. I make a huge effort to do this. helps me be a better person and mom when i can hit that recharge button every now and then.

Soph - posted on 12/09/2017

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Hi dear, I recently became a married single mom too. I am praying for you. It is not easy...I joined the community today and I'm a newbie. Know that you are not alone and God loves you. Praying for you!

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