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how do you cope with being a truckies wife.

Cass - posted on 12/12/2009 ( 60 moms have responded )

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does any1 else feel fed up at times? with 2 little kids and you feel as though your doing it on your own!!!

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Cheryl - posted on 02/06/2010

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I am in agreement with Kristie. My husband is an owner/operator and does have to do some work on the truck when he comes home, but we always have some family time with our 9 yr old daughter and if he is here long enough, he hits that "honey do" list full force. My husband is a good man who makes a great sacrifice for his family and has been for 27 yrs.

Nanci - posted on 09/19/2013

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My husband loves his work and is a professional he is very great at what he does for a living and I am grateful he works and takes very good care of me and our 5 children. A degree doesn't guarantee any type of work I am a nurse and became a stay at home mom and wife to support my husband's career as a driver because he loves his job and I am very happy to be able to raise our children and be a full time mother.

Tammy - posted on 02/26/2010

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If your husband works for a company like my husband he can not just come home when ever he wants ,as much as he would like to. My husband has been a otr driver for 15 years .We have three boys It is hard on all of us at times, we make adjustments , constantaly. Cellebrate our holidays on different days, parent teacher conferences by yourself, but that is okay. I am a TRUCKERS WIFE and that is what I do : ).

Laura - posted on 02/21/2010

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It's so neat to see that there are people going through the same thing as me! I just had my little girl in December and my husband is only home on weekends, luckily she's a good baby and i don't need the help, although it's making me a more independent person. I can't resent my husband for his job, i know it kills him leaving us every week, but he does it to put food on the table and keep us supported. Do i wish he was home more often? of course, but he loves us more than anything and that's more important to me than his occupation.

Christy - posted on 02/20/2010

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Bieng a truckers wife is very hard. I have been one for five years. I handle the kids , the bills, the house repairs, and everything else that comes our way. Sometimes you want to give up but I know hes out there making a living for us and he is by himself. he misses things with the kids so I have to realize I get to see things that he misses. Its hard but us truckers wifes we have to stick together. I hope this helps a little.

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Melissa - posted on 03/20/2013

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Its so awesome to see other wives knowing exactly how I feel, being a truckers wife, and that Im not alone! I love that my husband is in a job he loves, and whats awesome is he takes one of us with him during the summers so he can spend quality time with each of individually, Im looking forward to this summer, but this is encouraging to see other moms doing what I do!

Heather - posted on 02/18/2010

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my husband does not work for a trucking company he has his own business which requires him to stay on the road twicw as long as a company driver and it does get hard at times but i tell myself i would rather him be on the road and come home happy and want to help then go to a 9-5 job everyday and come home pissed off and not want to help

Raeann - posted on 02/18/2010

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My boyfriend is a trucker (owner/ooperator) we have been together 8 years almost 9. We have a 7 year old son together. My boyfriend is amazing, he actually bought me a house in November, which he did not see until we moved in!! I keep the books, dispatch, agents and border crossing, yee haw!! Plus I am in school full time, although I do not work outside the house. He knows I want him home more, but yet he stresses until all the bills are paid for the month. Last year he only was home 40 days. We have skype which allows him to talk to us over the internet w/ the webcam for free. I can call him anytime I need his help with say getting our son to do his homework. He did go local for a while and I told him he had to go back over the road cuz he was messing up my routine, at the time I only got 1 day off a week. He understood and loved that I could be so honest. That is the key, honesty! And with all I do for the business, we talk pretty much nonstop all day. When he comes home, he takes our son and gives me some very much needed quiet time! He will do anything I ask him to do when he gets here. Actually he is on his way home now, and he got me a surprise and won't tell me what it is. Just called me this morning and asked me what color I wanted...and that is all he said!! This is gonna kill me until he gets home.

Mari - posted on 02/16/2010

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http://www.facebook.com/mari.benson#!/group.php?gid=24926137857.
A lot of wonderful ladies belong to this group and we are all in the same position, married to drivers, raising kids, getting frustrated, having a laugh and also reassuring each other. Feel welcome to drop by and say G'day remembering that you are never alone :)

Kristi - posted on 02/16/2010

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First of all I would like to say Hi to all of the strong and tough women who are posting here. We are the one's that make it possible for our husbands to do what they do. Today is my birthday and my husband leaves in three hours to go back out on the road. I just have to keep reminding myself that he was home for the last three days and we had a wonderful time. You definitely have to celebrate the special days when you can be together as a family but there is still that little pain in your heart when they cant be there for the day itself.

Keep doing what you are doing ladies. Remember, we help keep this country moving.

Lisa - posted on 02/11/2010

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i absolutely know where you are coming from, My husband works away in the mines 5 day at work 5 days home, sometime i think of a holiday just by myself. It is so hard it is like being a single mum but not by choice. I so know where you are at i am fortunate i have my parents near by so when it all gets to much i go and spend the night there. Which is exactly what i did last night. With only one child i managed with two it has been so much harder, my prays go out to you

Angela - posted on 02/09/2010

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Me and my husband have had this relationship "problem" since we were dating. For us it isn't that big of a deal. Our son and I get to go w him at christmas, thanksgiving, summer and spring breaks. We just make it work. He calls us or we call him everyday, several times actually.

Susie - posted on 02/09/2010

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Hi Cass and Kay,

I have been a trucks wife for almost two years now. We have to boys Austin 8 and Bradley 11 months. Ryan My husban missed the birth of Bradley and it about killed us both that he was not there but he was able to be the one to bring us home though. This fall i went back to work as a full time preschool teacher. So husband gone, two boys, a dog, working full time and going back to school in the spring. God have mercy. I think we are a lot like military wifes. Just imagin them being gone a year or so at a time. They also have a job were as some people don't. Plus we do have it better that back in the day when there were no cell phones to talk to them. I thank God that we do not just for me to talk to him but for his boys.

Our oldest was recently digynosed with Asperger's. I have struggled withthe school since K. I knew something was not right but how do I get him digynosed. It's been a hard struggle especailly with out Rayn here. There are sometimes I feel like giving in myself but I don't know what I would if something happened to Rayn.

Ladies if you need to talk or vent my e-mail is: bakersuzanne81@yahoo.com

Patricia - posted on 02/08/2010

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One thing I had to learn as a wife of a truck driver (I was out there too, for 13 years until we had kids) is holidays and birthdays come whenever he comes home. 'Course, my children are 3 and 1, but when kids get older than 6 and remember when Christmas, their birthday and all the other "special" holidays are, you need to teach them that, yes although those days are special for everyone who celebrate them, they can also celebrate those special occasions on a different day as well.

Cheryl - posted on 02/06/2010

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Oh my! Absolutely. Today, my husband and I will be married for 27 years. He has driven a truck for all of those years. Early on, I worked a high pressured job, about 60 hrs per week and had three boys. I wanted to scream. Oh! I think I did.

Before cell phones it was horrible, but now that we can talk several times a day it is much better. Our boys are all grown, they are 36, 34 & 31, but we have a 9 year old daughter. I quit my old job and decide to start a home business where I could be home when he came home and to be available to my daughter.

I know this lifestyle is a tough one, but it is what it is. We travel with my husband when we can, but most of the time we are just at home.

He has never missed Christmas, but like today, our anniversary and my birthday - he is on the road.

Driving a truck is what he loves and I can't deny him that - but I know that if I insisted he find something else he would, but I also know he wouldn't be happy.

In a sense we live two separate lives, except when he is home, I pretty much concentrate on him and let him know how much I appreciate his sacrifice.

Monica - posted on 02/04/2010

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I am the wife of a Truck Driver with four boys. I understand how you feel. It is hard to handle most days but I feel lucky to have this man that is willing to do what ever it takes to make our life better. You may not share the hardships of taking care of the children from day to day but he is going through so much out on the road away from you and his children. Love your husband with all your heart, he is doing this for you and his family, if times get to hard to handle turn to God and he will be there to guide you down the right path.

Kristie - posted on 01/30/2010

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Sounds like you need to upgrade your man lol. I don't spend crazy amounts of money but hubby gave me a credit card to use on whatever I need. He pays the balance off at the end of each month. He helps out a ton when he is home. I don't have to nag him to do it either. He's so sweet. I'm lucky.

Julie - posted on 01/30/2010

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yeha, mine has wanted to be a truck driver since he was alittle boy too. i used to be a cna and when we were dating, saved up my money for over a month to give to him so he could go to truck driving school. (we werent even married yet!) he never paid me back and i never asked, but now its like...he works and he never helps out with anything, and never gives me money for the things i need...why cant they be as supportive of us as we are for them? O.o

Megan - posted on 01/29/2010

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My mother raised both me and my sister (4 years apart) and my dad has been a long haul trucker for 30 years, so when I married my husband a trucker as well I thought I was well prepared since I delt with my father being gone. Boy was I wrong! He is supportive and helps when he is home, but unfortunatley my 5 month old is a daddy's boy and hates it when his dad is gone. I have days where I just cry becuase it is overwhelming at times. But I realized its just as hard for him, his job is dangerous (we all know those crazy drivers out there) and he doesnt get too see his baby boy as much as he wants. This is the busy season and the other day he broke down saying how he feels like he missed out on the last two months of Jack's life. As a mom I dont think I could go through what he feels. Being parents comes with trials and tribulations but doing it on your own until the hubby comes home can wear thin but try and think you get this time, and he doesnt. It's hard but worth it everytime I see my little guy smile at me :).

Kerry - posted on 01/28/2010

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Christmas was a working 1 this year, my Husband went to Washington back the night of the 23rd, and left for California 9pm Christmas Day. It sucks but we got the bonus for the holidays.Then I went with him to Phoenix for New Years, yup on the highway at Midnight of course. lol

What happened with your Christmas Tera?

Tera - posted on 01/28/2010

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hello group. I have 3 boys ages 9 -10-14 my husband has been driving truck for almost 2 years now, and i just joined your group... wish i had found it christmas time when i reallly needed to talk to others,,, Just wanted to say hi as i will be reading other post!

Kerry - posted on 01/28/2010

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I just finished reading all the posts and so agree with most of you, we trucker wives are strong. Our men do make so many sacrafices, they miss out on lots but we try our best to plan get together with family around his trips, we go on dates atleaast every second week and do what we can as a family when he is home. I totally agree with the road getting in your blood, it is in my mans blood although there has been times he has tried to deny it. He has tried a couple times to quit the road and go back to gravel companies and swears he will not long haul again but a couple months later semi's going by are calling his name, making his feet itch till it sucks him back in and he goes back, he loves the scenery o the road and we love going on trips together so it has its perks.

Kerry - posted on 01/28/2010

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I also have been married to a long hauler for 15 years just become o/o the last 2 and I totally agree with Kay. I've just always supported my man and believe me that was trying because he has been through so many trucking companies, but he is willing to work and work hard so I thank my lucky stars for that. And being home alone with my 3 kids who are now 13, 11, and 6 it is getting easier in some ways but more challenging in others to be alone raising them but the first few years were the hardest it took a lot of trial and error in our marriage, but we learned how we needed to communicate and still are learning ( I find that to be the most important ) . It took a few years for my husband to realize the things I go through at home and now having that support from him is wonderful. But like Kay said we have to remember what our Truckers put up with every day, stress of being loaded the right way for weights and inspections and hold ups at the border, break downs on the highway, being alone 24/7 all that time to think!!!!!!! Atleast we have interuptions, lol! And the worst wildlife and highway conditions, I hope to never have police at my door or on the phone. Do you go with him? My kids have gone with him and I go with him atleast 4 times a year, and try to atleast go unload with him twice a month, my husband leaves from Lethbridge, Alberta - California or Phoenix every week home for 2 days max a week but still working when he's home never fully getting to relax. I've started doing his paperwork at the end of each week to give him more free time. I could talk and talk about the road, just went to Phoenix with him at the end of 2009 had a great trip. I'd love to chat with ya, my email is jkcao@shaw.ca

Skye - posted on 01/23/2010

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My husband also drives truck, we met at a trucking company where I drove locally. I have two boys from a previous marriage, so my hubby takes on the responsibility of being a step dad as well as the sole provider for our family. I have been on the road with him and know the call of the road, it gets in your blood. I also know that while he is gone he thinks about us most of the time and this is hard enough on a man. He provides for us and reps few benefits from it because he has limited time at home to spend with us. I love and respect him for the strength he has to give us the life he is working so hard for.

April - posted on 01/22/2010

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Ok so I know I've already posted a lot ,but I am proud of my husband & glad I get to stay home with our kids. He has always wanted to drive& likes what he does.I hear a lot of I could never & how do you ,but I knew what it was going to be like when we got married & we make things work.I agree it takes a strong man to drive and an even stronger woman to be his wife. I do know this ,it kills him to have to walk out that door , climb into that truck, watching us wave good by not knowing for sure when he'll be back as much as it does us.He misses out on a lot with the kids but thank goodness for computers & cell phones.Also I heard this song Asphalt Cowboy by Jason Aldean & thought someone might like it too.

April - posted on 01/22/2010

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Hello,my husband is an OTR owner operator & has been for 8yrs or so. We have been married for 5yrs and have 2 beautiful children. Our son is 2(almost 3) & or daughter is 5 months.I really feel like I relate to a lot of these posts. I worked until I had our son then became a stay at home mom.After he was a few months old I did daycare in our home,which really seemed to help pass the time,until our daughter was born. I also have depression ,which I've had for several yrs, that can make things worse at times esp. if I get busy & forget to take med. My hubby calls every night & I have always tried to let our children talk with him.He is usually gone through the week & home on weekends, but as we know it doesn't always happen.LOL Our son talks about daddy a lot & asks for him several times a day.I try to tell him daddy is working so we can have food a house to live in etc.. & so mommy can be home to take care of him & sis. I also let him call daddy if he wants & if he is busy he will tell him that & call back when he can. He don't always understand & does act out at times,but it does seem to help when he talks to daddy. I do feel like a single mom at times, want to scream & cry ,& feel like he leaves me with a lot of responsibility ,but I've learned to take the good with the bad and pick my battles with him and the kids.It could be worse & at least he has a job.He is a very supportive husband & takes time with the kids when he is home.He is that potato on the couch & not helpful at times , but we both have been a week in each others shoes & know what each other go through. So we both try to be understanding & a little more helpful. Don't get me wrong it's not always perfect. I have family that lives close that helps give me a break once in a while & we try to take time for each other when it's needed.We have learned life is one way when he's gone another when he's home,talk to each other, & I do things through the week with the kids to keep them occupied & when daddy is home he takes time with them.As i said it's not always perfect ,I get tired of being the bad guy and taking care of everything , need a break at times ,& tired of his job,but it could be worse I could be doing this alone without him completely . Don't know if this will help anyone except me by just putting my thoughts down , but I do relate with a lot of you.

Sharon - posted on 01/22/2010

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My husband works out of town as well, so I understand. When he is home, he doesn't know the routine, and doesn't understand the kids very well. I feel I'm trying to put out fires all the time. I've started getting a babysitter to watch the kids when I run errands, so that helps.

Sara - posted on 01/21/2010

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Yeah my hubby is an OTR lease operator and makes better money than he would if he was working a local job. As my daycare grows we may end up having him come home and work a local job as I can supplement his income with the money i make in my home daycare. It has been great to be able to stay home and have some extra income. I know that no everyone is staying home with their LOs so I only speak to those who are, but a home business is a great answer if you want to supplement his income so he can eventually get a local job with less pay. Just thought I would share that as my experience has been great, but I also have always loved kids and worked in childcare fields. If you are thinking about an inhome business there are many out there, so find something you like. I also enjoy selling things on eBay. Just a couple ideas for those out there that may be struggling. It also helps me not feel so alone as I am busy with a purpose rather than sitting around trying to find stuff to keep my mind off of him being gone! Hope that helps someone.

Kristie - posted on 01/20/2010

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Haha ok I always forget about Owner/Operators since hubby isn't one. lol My bad.

Jessica - posted on 01/20/2010

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It is hard being a truckers wife I swear someday I just want to give up. But I know in order for me to stay home and be home after school for are 4 kids I really don't have a choice. I have 2 step son who have been thru alot of physical and sexual abuse from bio mom and they thrive having someone there always when ever they need to talk. I love being home with my younger 2 and not having to go to work I dont miss anything. I do feel like I am alone alot off the times we moved 5 hours away from family its very hard. We do appreciate anytime we get with him.

Sabrina - posted on 01/20/2010

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Kristie,

I know what the Pell grant is and we don't qualify. My husband is an owner/operator, and he actually does make pretty good money the majority of the year. Winters stink and this past year isn't the greatest but we still don't qualify. oh well thanks for the info though :o)

Sara - posted on 01/20/2010

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My husband bought me a shirt that says, "The only thing tougher than a trucker is a Trucker's Wife!" This is very true. It is hard to be a trucker's wife. But like many of you have stated my Hubby loves driving!! He doesn't want to be out all the time, but a job at this point is a job and rather than come home and try to find a job, he is staying out driving. He is very helpful when he is home and I appreciate all he does for us. But this forum is a great way to vent the stress that being a "single mom with benefits" causes us to feel. It may be complaining, but it helps us all know we are not alone in this situation. I cannot imagine how women did it w/o cell phones. Not talking to my hubby for weeks at a time would kill me.
My hubby is gone 3-6 weeks at a time and those who say their's are gone only 4-5 days (and complain about it), I would LOVE to have your situation!! I do think it is ok to vent to others who share your experience. I have a friend who vents to who ever will listen. It makes me mad too, because she doesn't give all the facts about trucking. She tells ppl that her hubby spends thousands on fuel instead of buying a new car. Which makes no sense, since w/o the fuel they couldn't even pay rent! So it is those kind of ppl complaining like that, that make is sound soooo terrible!!
I know the day will come when my hubby decides he needs to be home more and I will rejoice when he is here more! But for now I am grateful that we have a roof over our heads, clothes on our back and food in our bellies!!

Kristie - posted on 01/20/2010

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I'm just saying, for those that feel STUCK, they don't have to be stuck. If someone really loves the job then his wife and kids are just going to have to suck it up and be thankful for the hard work he does.

Yvonne - posted on 01/20/2010

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Ugh the life of a truckers wife!! Its pretty much like being a single mom with benefits. (The benefit of 2 incomes) My husband is gone 5 to 6 days a week. gets home for like 34 hours and let me tell u our 3 boys act up crazy when he is gone. They miss him very much to. I know the feeling of wanting to pack up. I know he works very hard for us, so i just hang in there. Hes worth it.

Lisa - posted on 01/20/2010

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I agree with Sabrina. My husband enjoys doing what he does... Its hard for him to leave everytime but he's wanted to be a truck driver his whole life. There is a job for everyone and this happens to be his. Someone has to do it right? If all our husbands went back to school and became something else then how would things get transported across North America?

Kristie - posted on 01/19/2010

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Yeah and with a degree, he has a better shot at getting one of those jobs. With no degree, he has NO shot at it.

Kristie - posted on 01/19/2010

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The Pell Grant is income based. I don't care what anyone says, truckers don't make that much money. You all probably all meet the income restrictions for them. Yes, the GI Bill is separate and has to do with the military. However, everyone is eligible for Federal Stafford Loans for school. It is NOT based on credit. Go to an online school then the person can continue to work full time. Get a laptop and a cellphone with 3G service then you can plug the phone into the laptop and get internet almost anywhere to do homework on. Problem solved. My husband is ok with being a trucker, but he does NOT love it, nor does he want to continue doing it forever. THANK GOODNESS.

Sabrina - posted on 01/19/2010

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Well Kristie, Some men just really like being a truck driver. I don't understand it myself. But my husband really does enjoy what he does. He would like to find another job that gets him home more. Not everyone is eligible for a GI grant. We can't afford to send him back to school right now so we just take it day by day.I would never demand he go to a job he doesn't really enjoy. He loves seeing the country the idea of going to the same place day after day after day is not very appealing to him. So...while it's not for everybody, it is a job and in this economy it's not just as simple as getting an online degree. There are thousands of degree holders looking for jobs right now.

Kristie - posted on 01/19/2010

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I don't understand... it seems most of your husbands plan to do this job forever. WHY? This job is only temporary for my husband. He is finishing school. He is a truck driver who drives 70 hours a week AND goes to school full time online through Western Governors University, which is a NOT FOR PROFIT school (tuition is comparable to other public/state schools) and regionally accredited. Pell grant will cover it. GI Bill applies if your past military. Send your husbands to school so they don't have to be truckers for the rest of your lives. They won't get to see their kids grow up. It's not worth it. They may not realize it until their kids are already grown. Then what!!?

Lisa - posted on 01/19/2010

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Wow!I What a great discussion. I have been married to my husband for about 6 months now... We have a 3 month old baby boy... And he too is a truck driver. He is gone most of the time and I, like you gals experience the same thing... People telling me they don't know how I could do it. It does feel like being a single mom. The hard part is knowing you have a man but he's just not around. We were actually discussing this tonight... He said to me "It takes a special kind of man to be a truck driver... but it takes a really special woman to be a truck driver's wife" I said in return, the only requirement of a truck driver's wife is to love her man with all her heart. I never thought this would be my life but when you love someone you're suprised by the things you will do.

Sabrina - posted on 01/19/2010

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Thanks Tina!
Gosh it seems like everyone I know says to me "I could NEVER do what you do" and "I could NEVER be married to an OTR trucker". But it just seems pretty normal to me. He came off the road for a few months to try something else...that was odd. IT didn't last long lol. He's a good daddy and hubby...sometimes he just needs a 'honey do' list I think. He's gone so much I hate to ask him to watch the kids so I can have some me time...maybe I'll start asking my mom so when he's home we could have a date. Good ideas :o)

Tina - posted on 01/19/2010

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Sabrina, I know where you are coming from..Maybe next time he comes home you could ask him to watch the kids and you and a girlfriend could go to a movie or somthing. I think it is very importand in a marriage to have some "YOU" time, and a date night with your husband...I wish you the best and am here to talk if you need to.

Sandra - posted on 01/19/2010

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Sabrina, let me clairify please, just because I don't "expect" him to, doesn't mean he doesn't! However I do expect him to finish the treehouse, and the patio! I don't expect him to do the yard work everytime and sometimes he is just too tired. If he is, I take care of it. I have never had to ask him to play with, spend time with or take care of the kids, he just does.

My driver is only home 36-48hours, he runs 3500 miles a week. Hauling a haz-mat load up the east coast, thru the ice and snow and traffic. He doesn't need me complaining. He needs my support. As his wife I that is my job!

This is a good place to let it out and share, this is just my opinion! Look at what you have instead of what you haven't!

Sabrina - posted on 01/18/2010

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Sandra I like that shirt! I never complain to my husband OR to my family and friends. I reserve venting my frustration for sharing with people who understand what I am going through...on here mainly. I do appreciate everything he provides, everything he sacrifices and every moment we get to spend together as a family.And he appreciates me too. But honestly, I do expect a little from him when he is home. I gave up a great career to stay at home with our first child b/c he is gone so much. We both wanted our children to have at least one parent home on a regular basis. We both make sacrifices.So yes, I do expect a little from my husband when he is home. There are things that I just can't do.After having the kids to myself ALL day for 2-3 weeks, I do expect him to come home and be a father and a husband, turn off the tv and just be together as a family. I am a very supportive wife. We all need to let out steam as we all get frustrated... this is a safe haven that we can just vent, we all get frustrated at times. We have to let it out somewhere and it's better to do it here than anywhere else that may have a negative effect.

Sandra - posted on 01/18/2010

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I saw this shirt at a truck stop that said "trucking aint for sissies"! That goes for home too! It's hard! Really Hard on us and them too. We have it going on now, he's home every weekend, but he was out 5 weeks at a time before. To be honest sometimes I miss that but I don't want to go back. We have 7 children, 3 are in the house. Mon-Fri I get 3 kids to 3 schools at 3 times. My day starts at 4:30am and ends about 11pm. On Friday the house must be perfect before he comes home. And there had better be a cold beer waiting. That evening 3-4 of the other kids and the grand baby come over for the weekend. I spend the weekend cooking and cleaning. For the two of us to find a private moment we have to go out to the truck. I do the yard work, what ever the car or pick up need and anything else he needs done. It's hard and I get so tired! But I was a single mom with 3 before and I did all that and worked a full time job! I want him to come home to a clean well kept home and greet him with a cold beer cause I love him. When he comes home, I want him to see what he's working for. I want him to know I appreciate all he does for us.



All our husbands weather they drive a truck or sits in an office they need us to stop whinning about what all we have to do and appreciate them, then they will appreciate us!!! For the record I don't expect him to do anything!

Sabrina - posted on 01/16/2010

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I am married to a mover. My husband is gone on average 2 weeks at a time. Then he can be home for up to a week or so. He is so used to me doing EVERYTHING while he is gone it is hard to encourage him to help me with anything around the house. He is great at spending time with the children but other than that he wants to sit on the couch and catch up on his car shows he missed. Money is tight right now so I am looking at going back to work and this is VERY frustrating for me b/c I hate when people compare me to a single mom b/c I'm not. But really, it is sometimes just like being a single mom. It's very hard. He likes to say he just wants to relax, he's been out working for 2 weeks but I've been on the road w/ him before...I know he gets time to relax. But me? I don't get a break lol oh well. I knew what I was signing on for when I married him and thank God for Skype :o)

Tina - posted on 01/14/2010

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Oh yes Cass..I have been married to a truck driver for almost 22 years..W have 3 kids...22,21,17..Thank God that I got them raised, I did get to stay home with them when they were little, but after my youngest got into school I went back to work (for my sanity) it has been tough and everyday i wish that he would come home and start being the father and husband that we need in our life, but so far he has not...he makes really good money and he says that he can not come home and make the money he can on the road...Believe me it is a tough for him as it is for you, he misses out on so much, and before you know it your children will be grown...I have been a truckers wife for all my married life, I have always wondered how I am gonna deal when he does finally decide to come home, I am so set in my ways and like things the way I like them...I just pray we both can deal with it...Soon I am gonna have a empty nest and this worries me alot to...Just keep your eye on God and he will see you through it...It takes a tough women to be a truckers wife.. I wish you the best :)

Kristie - posted on 01/10/2010

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Quoting julie:

my husband is a truck driver as well. it sucks! i know exactly what you mean and where youre coming from! at times its like, "why bother? im pretty much single anyway." and i dont know about your hubby, but mine doesnt even bother to help with anything when he is home. usually hes not even here when hes not working...so...:/ i realize its not an easy job and is very frustrating and annoying...but thats no excuse to be negliectful.


That's awful. My hubby is always willing to help when he comes home. I don't know what I'd do if he just wanted to be selfish and do his own thing. I'd probably have lost my mind by now lol. A couple weeks ago he came home and did about 4 loads of laundry for me (it was with all 3 of our clothes) and I didn't even ask him to. I was so happy! :D

Julie - posted on 01/10/2010

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my husband is a truck driver as well. it sucks! i know exactly what you mean and where youre coming from! at times its like, "why bother? im pretty much single anyway." and i dont know about your hubby, but mine doesnt even bother to help with anything when he is home. usually hes not even here when hes not working...so...:/ i realize its not an easy job and is very frustrating and annoying...but thats no excuse to be negliectful.

Kristie - posted on 01/09/2010

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I just had a baby in November. Hubby was at home for about 2 weeks after the birth. I've felt like a single mom since then.

It really helps to have an understanding and supportive husband. He works 70hrs a week on the road and comes home and is still willing to help me out with the baby so I can finally get some un-interupted sleep. He really never gets a break because he also goes to school online (so that he eventually can quit the trucking job).

I handle it all by reminding myself that he will eventually get a different job where he is home each night, and that this truck driving job allows me to stay at home with the baby (I also go to school but I graduate in May with my bachelors). He is my superman.

Sara - posted on 01/06/2010

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I sometimes compare myself to a single mom, but always remind myself at the same time that I do have the emotional support of my hubby as well as the financial support. It would be much more difficult to do this all alone. So I am thankful I do not have to do that. Thinking about that helps me keep things in perspective!!

Melissa - posted on 01/04/2010

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Here here!!! Hello, I just joined this group... but, I am a stay at home mom with 3 kids, ages 3, 5, and 7, and my husband is a mover. It's very hard at times, and I have definitely felt that way. I try to be thankful, though, that even though my hubby isn't physically here, he is always a phone call away and emotionally supportive. Not that it solves the breakdown moments, but someone always has it worse, like military couples! And not many people ever discuss the fact that even though the kids are little and very demanding of our time and energy now, the time totally flies by! My youngest is almost 4 and I am amazed at how much more... FREE life feels! We just have to get through those long lonely days with as much love as we can! :)

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