Husband gone for a year

Patricia - posted on 11/13/2008 ( 2 moms have responded )




Hi everyone, I'm new to this circle. My husband is gone for a year overseas. He's no longer military but it is just as hard. I have a 6 month old, I'm working on my master's degree and running the house. I know there are moms out there that can do this and so much more, but I'm really having a hard time at the moment. I've tried the whole "keeping busy" idea, but I'm feeling really overwhelmed and I've been really sad these past few days. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get out of this "funk"?


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Amanda - posted on 11/16/2008




My hubby's not away anywhere near that much so again I can't completely understand what you're going through but what I can say is don't beat yourself up over what these 'amazing other mums' do, we've all heard of or from them they knit and sew all their childrens clothes, they cook all meals from scratch, grow their own veges, kill and pluck their own chickens while teaching their two year old how to read and hanging from a trapeze etc etc. I find it's best to take these stories with a grain of salt - it's not easy for anyone and you are doing an AMAZING job, in fact you're already doing better than me, I'm not doing a masters and I run the house in a very haphazard way :)

Sarah - posted on 11/14/2008




I am not going to say I understand what it is like to have you hubby gone for 1 year. But, my husband travels A LOT. For instance, he left on monday and won't be back til Thanksgiving. Then he will leave again. It stinks. I have a four year old and a 7 month old. That's a lot of work with no breaks. My advice, make time for yourself. At least once a week, and I am sure it is hard with school too, get out and do something just for you. Even if it is just a couple of hours spent sipping coffee and chatting with a friend, it will make a huge difference in how you feel about mothering, school, housework and life in general. I would go postal without a break now and then. I will keep you in my thoughts. It is hard, but you are obviously a strong woman to begin with.

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