I need to Sook!

Kerry - posted on 02/27/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )




My husband has been working Fly In Fly Out for the last 18 months in Western Australia. I love that we have lots of time together when he is home but when he is away I feel like I have less emotional support from family and friends than I would if I were a SINGLE MUM!

Obviously money is ok, so i think people just assume you don't need support because your ok financially and your married or whatever but do they forget that it's just me at home most of the time?? I dunno, My husband and i both have sisters who are single mums and it seems that our parents etc always offer to have their children but NOT ONCE has anyone offered to have ours even just for a few hours. I have spoken to various family members about how i feel but nothing changes.

Don't get me wrong I don't expect people to be responsible for looking after my family or anything, I just think they forget that other people might need a bit of support too.


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Susanti - posted on 03/01/2009




Hi Kerry, maybe parents isn't the answer to looking for more support, maybe other family members or friends could be more helpful. Our parents are in Brisbane and I actually am glad they are all there and we are here because we are the first in the families to have a baby - the first 'grandchild'!! yikes...parents can be crazy with ideas - i don't think i could have coped having a child back home with all the focus on us (well more likely the baby). So I feel we have avoided alot of those dramas, but i guess it depends on the family.

My hubby has been working away for 3 years in the pilbara and our baby, Ruby, is now 8mths old. I found it challenging at first feeling like a single mum alot of the time with no family or close friends in perth - but i really appreciate the quality time we share together when he's home. When Ruby was about 5months my sister who had been travelling for 3 yrs and who usually lives in melbourne decided to move to perth for a year or 2 just to be here with Ruby and I. I was so happy when I found out she was coming - no one could have been better! I feel so lucky to have her here and she's on the same wave length as us and is great with kids...I dread the day she leaves, but I'm enjoying having her here for now. I find support from her better than what I would get from my parents - less drama!!

Melissa - posted on 02/28/2009




sometimes you need to ask for what you want.  Your family might not have a clue how you are feeling.

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