OTR Hubby and kids...How does it affect them?

Angel - posted on 03/24/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hi!

My husband has been a truck driver ever since I met him (8 years ago). He's mostly local now, but last year we bought a truck and in a few weeks, he's going to go OTR.

What I'm wondering is how well kids handle that? We have two daughters, 5 1/2 year old who is in Kindergarten and a 2 1/2 yr. old. Right now, they see Dad sometimes in the morning for about 30 minutes (mostly just the 2 1/2 yr old...older daughter is in school) and then he is showering and getting ready to leave. He has a set day off each week (Saturday) which is nice and he really does spend good quality time with them (and I get a break) but this will be changing when he goes OTR. He'll be out for weeks at a time and then home for 2-3 days. It will be nice to have him home for more than 1 day for sure.

Are there anything special other moms do to make sure that even though Dad is gone, he is still "with them"?? Other than talking about Dad and having pictures...I need to get our desktop computer set up with maybe a webcam so he can use our laptop to call in so they can see him...is that a good idea?

Thanks for suggestions!
Angel in Northern CA :)

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Melissa - posted on 03/20/2013

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My husband has been doing OTR for about 1 year, its been a HUGE change in our family dynamics but there are " special" things you can do to make them feel daddy is always present in spirit! We send txt and face chat with him everyday, ( of course when he isnt driving LOL, only on break or whatever), once he was gone for 8 weeks straight during Christmas, so we waited till he got home to open his presents so we got to have 2 Christmas days, and BTW any holiday can be done twice, or wait for him! As well as with B-days, we are christian so before they go to bed EVERY NIGHT he face chats with them and prays a blessing for them before he sleeps, get cell phones that have free face chat, that HELPS alot! you dont need a laptop when the cell phone does it and faster and better! good luck

Amanda - posted on 07/05/2011

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I agree with Karen, My hubby has been long hauling since b4 our kids were born, (now ages 5, 4 and 20mo) so its been mommy, mommy mommy. My husband was gone 2 or 3 weeks at a time, then he switched and was home every sun and Mon, which was nice. Now he bought his own truck and he is all over again. Do what is best for your family, and when he does come home, make it "Family time". My hubby has pics of the kids in the truck and "special" drawings the kids made him for fathers day. We also have 10-4 phones now which helps a lot. We can just call each other and the kids can call too anytime, and its cheeper then using a reg phone. We have tried the computer, but sometimes its hard to get everyone at the same time, and "free" internet the truck stops have isnt always the best so it may be fustrating.
If your anything like me, once you get into your "routine" with school, play groups and what not, your week will sail by and he will be home again...
Good luck with everything
Amanda, Ont Canada

Karen - posted on 05/02/2011

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My husband was OTR for a couple years when my girls were those ages. Keeping in touch through computer video would be great! If he likes to read to them, have him record some story book reading and they can listen to him read to them each night .
I found it was actually tougher on him than on me and the kids - we had each other, he was out there alone. Make sure the time he has at home can be full of fun memories., Send lots of pictures and drawings the kids have done with him so he doesn't miss out on their growing up.

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