How to handle in-laws who despise me??


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Ariane - posted on 03/28/2010




Do as I do...Kill her with kidness...then she's the one that looks bad and you are the better person...whatever you do do not fall to her level...that is exactly what she wants....Also by doing this you look like the best person to your husband and he will come to your defense!

Margaret - posted on 03/27/2010




Be polite and civil when you have to be with them; it will accomplish nothing to be negative. If possible, let your husband go and spend time with them on his own, and either find something to do while he's gone or go see your own family. If you have children, have your husband take them with him when he goes to see his parents so they can have some grandparenting time without your having to be uncomfortable. Eventually, they will have to come to terms with you but you shouldn't have to take any abuse in the meantime.

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Spend as little time alone with them as possible. Keep your husband with you as a buffer.
No matter what they say or do, be polite. That doesn't mean "be a doormat." It is possible to politely tell someone that their remarks are hurtful. I don't know how old your children are, but shield them from harmful remarks - about you, them, and your in-laws.

Penny - posted on 03/25/2010




I agree with Alyssa, hubby and I still receive grief from both sides though not as frequently as at the start, but we focused on each other, our goals and our growing immediate family - they are the most important in the world. The family have backed off and his mother is polite to me and sometimes candid now, still unsure whether she likes me or not but that is not the point, hubby and our family are.

Rebecca - posted on 03/25/2010




it's such a broad question; it depends on why they despise you, did they always despise you etc. it also depends on how your husband handles it or how he is willing to help you handle it.

how to handle it would depend on the exact circumstances....

Alyssa - posted on 03/25/2010




Well, are there reasons? Or are they just hatin on you? hah. I've always been myself around my fiance's family and to be honest his sister doesnt like me && I dont care. Because I'm in the relationship because I LOVE MY FIANCE, && HE LOVES ME. It doesnt matter what your husbands parents think of you.. You just have confidence && self respect && dont let them see you down =] They'll get over it and grow up sooner or later=]

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