My husband raises children that are not his own

Shelley - posted on 11/02/2008 ( 12 moms have responded )




My husband and I have been married 3-1/2 years and he is wonderful. The strong, silent type, he never complains that he has to raise and pay for children that aren't his. I am a stay-at-home mother, and I cannot give him enough to pay for all that he does for me. My abusive ex-husband rarely pays child support for very long, and gets mad that the girls call my husband "Daddy." He may not be their father, but he is their dad. He loves them, and now that we can't have any more children (both of us are infertile), it is so meaningful that he loves my children and expects nothing in return.


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Erin-joy - posted on 10/24/2010




Your very lucky, and if your ex cant be happy that his children are taken care of then tell him to kick rocks. You have a wonderful man now and i wouldnt ever let him see my kids if he couldnt atleast help out with his child support, keep staying strong girly and just know you have a great man standing besides you and your children. ♥

Josia - posted on 10/23/2010




I'm in the same boat. My first childs father walked out when i was pregnant and i married my hubby when my oldest was four. Now i've recently had a second child and my husband treats them both the same. I am a stay at home mum at the moment and he loves me staying with the kids. He loves my first as his own. Doesn't complain. He works hard. Tries to give me a break when he can. Congrats you too bagged yourself a good one.

Maria - posted on 10/09/2009




You are so lucky!!! You have a rare gem in your hand, don't let him go!!! :)

Crissy - posted on 09/30/2009




omg I totally get you, my husband also is not the bio-dad for my 3 little girls, we have such a similar story. My ex was also an abusive man, and when I met my husband, things changed for the better. Kudos to you.

Joanna - posted on 09/30/2009




That is great that you found a man like that.....Anyman can be a father but it takes a special man to be a daddy:)) I have been with my hubby now for along time and married going on 9 of those yrs...I have two sons and me n him have a daughter together.....He has always took care of my kids and never asked for anything inreturn........I love him dearly:)) Hope everyone has a great WEDNESDAY:)))

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You need to thank God every day for someone so wonderful! I know the feeling though, my husband and I have been together almost 4 years, but only married for 3 months. He helps support and raise my three kids ever since we got together. I get no child support and my ex has not contacted his kids for over a year now. Don't let your ex upset your happy family... any man can be a father, but it takes a special man like your husband to be a daddy. And nothing can take that away from him. Just take it from me... rewarding him from time to time with a special 'daddy day', can be fun for you and a constant reminder to him, how much you appreciate all he does for you and the children. And if you think about it, it is teaching your girls how a "real man" respects a woman that he loves.

Tabitha - posted on 09/26/2009




My husband adopted my oldest son last December. He just started school this year and we wanted the change before school started. We do have a son together. (he will be one next month) He husband always says he has three children (he has a dughter from a previous relationship). I know that he loves Joshua (the one he adopted) just as much as he loves Oliver. He amazes me with his love for my baby, when my ex has and never had any contact with Joshua. I know how lucky you must feel, because I know how I feel about my husband. Our children are blessed to have someone like them in their lives!

Zeneida - posted on 09/25/2009




I was married to my ex- husband for 5 yrs and had 2 sons with him. We divorced when my kids were just 3 & 5 yrs old. My ex-husband does not pay child support and is a real LOSER! Sad to say but true. I have been blessed with my current husband of 13yrs. and he has been playing the role of there dad ever since.

Anyone can be a donor takes a real man to be a dad;oD

Kaitlyn - posted on 09/25/2009




My mom always told me that a father is a sperm doner and a daddy is some one who loves you....some people have both in one some dont have either.....some may not agree with that but I have grown up with that saying....

Lynn - posted on 11/02/2008




Thats great that he can be such a wonderful father. If their biological father chooses to be in their life only every now and then, thats great for them to have someone that is there all the time. Congrats to single mothers, but I think little girls truly need a father figure in their life to help raise them and help protect them. I am so happy to hear that you two can share this great treasure together.

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