Whose family?

Lynn - posted on 04/30/2010 ( 37 moms have responded )

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~-*When you got married, whose family did you move close to if either?*-~ When my husband and I got married, we move 1500 miles away to be closer to my family. My husband is absolutely hating Minnesota. He has no family out here, he hates his job, and he is too shy to make new friends. I myself am an outgoing person who likes adventure and is willing to take a bull by its horns. So he and I have decided to move back to his original area, so he can be closer to his family and feel more secure. And I am excited for change. We have been in Minnesota for too long now (4 years).

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Nicole - posted on 06/06/2010

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We have the most wonderful relationship except when it comes to our families. My family hates his and his family wanted me to turn away from mine since I married into his. It didn't happen and they don't see or talk to each other. We actually moved here to Wisconsin to get away from both families so we can live our lives. Both families live around 3 hours away in Illinois and we live in Wisconsin. We see them multiple times a year with us coming down there and them coming up for a visit. It works for us, we have our space and see family enough to make it work.

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I have Family in CA, his mom is in CO, His dad is in FL. We got married in WA, then a PCSed (moved) to NC where we had our two little girls.
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Karin - posted on 06/04/2010

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We moved 3600 miles away from both of our families! Our families live within an hour drive of eachother. My husband is in the military and didnt have much of a choice in the matter.

Selma - posted on 06/03/2010

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We live with my father-in-law and are one street away from my family. My mother-in-law is also close 10minute drive. You can just imagine how much help we get from everyone it's the best to be so close to family.

Koree - posted on 06/03/2010

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We have lived with his family for about 2 years now. My parents live about a half mile away so i see them offten, its nice to be close to both familys,but i am ready to move into our own space. we are just waiting for my husbend to finish school so we only have about 2 more months left.

Corrine - posted on 06/02/2010

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We live in the same town that we grew up in (about 9000 people) and our immediate families are all within a 10 minute drive from our house.

Cyndel - posted on 05/30/2010

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When I and my hubby married both my parents and his lived within 15 miles of one another. Now my parents are 60 miles away, we are attempting to move into the same county with them. My hubby doesn't have a good relationship with his parents but gets along well with mine. There are also many other reasons we are moving, but it is definitely one. Another reason is my current county is in the top 100 list of counties with the least amount of jobs available in the continental US.

Donna - posted on 05/17/2010

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When we got married, his family lived in Georgia and mine in SC. WE moved to Texas. Lubbock as a matter of fact, lived there for 15 yrs. Moved to SC recently to be close to my parents. And of course his Mom still lives in Georgia.

Alea - posted on 05/16/2010

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My husband is in the airforce so right now we are stationed in Texas which is really far from both of our families, but he will be getting out in June and we will be moving back to Virginia with his family. We are both really excited he will be going back to school out there and my in-laws are great. Our ultimate goal is to move back to CO which is where my family is but his parents will be coming with us :-)

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We moved to the county where his parents live and where he grew up. For a while, my dad had to drive past our apartment to get home, so he stopped by every weekend and took our son home with him. Sometimes I went, too. Dad has since died and Mom moved to away. We are still about 3 miles away from his mom.

Renee - posted on 05/12/2010

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I lived in Ohio and my husband lived here in Minnesota when we met. Neither one of us could see him moving away from his children who live with their mother, so I agreed to move to Minnesota. My family is in Ohio, his family is here in Minnesota but hours away from us, except his two children who live just 20 minutes away.

Diana - posted on 05/11/2010

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My husband was stationed in VA, in the Navy, when we first met. So, for the first 7 years of marriage we stayed near my family in VA. Then his dad convinced us to move to my husband's hometown to build a house. We've been here, near my husband's family in AR, for almost 7 years.

Taralee - posted on 05/08/2010

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Luckily for us we all moved around the same time to a small cottge country area. As my parents are retired, Glenn's parents already had a cottage here, and we found a farm right in this area. However, Glenn wants to move close to the city again.....YIKES!

Emma - posted on 05/07/2010

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My husband moved to my area the year before we got married as he found a job on the railways that he had always wanted and because we had bought a house.

He loves it here though because my family treat him with more respect than his own; he wouldn't have it any other way now.

P.S Kacee my MIL is awful too!

Candi - posted on 05/07/2010

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My husband is in the military and in 13.5 yrs of marriage we have never lived close to family. We are both from SC and as soon as we got married we moved to Alaska, then to Germany, TX, and now in VA. We love our families but enjoy being away from family drama!! When times get tough, you have to depend on each other instead of "running home" and it makes a marriage stronger

Amy - posted on 05/06/2010

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I moved away from my family almost 12 years ago. My husband is originally from this area and all of his family is here. I am very excited that my mom will be moving out here to be closer, now that we have a baby! :)

Sarah - posted on 05/06/2010

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LOL, I can't imagine being far away from either of our families. We met in the small town that I grew up in (800 people), it's where he works. We lived in the basement of his parents house, which is about 40 minutes away, for a while (before the baby was born). Then we moved to the town he works in, about 2 miles away from my parent's house. So I guess we didn't "really" go anywhere, but if we lived 40 minutes from my mom, I would go insane. We go to their house at least 4 days a week... we see his parents 2-3 times a month probably. His brother moved here after we did as well.

Sara - posted on 05/06/2010

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My husband is currently in the army so we move where ever they tell us. But if we had our choice we wouldn't live close to either. We just don't like the areas

Kacee - posted on 05/06/2010

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I'm in IL and and 4 Minnesota winters give me goosbumps just thinking about it! We moved closer to my family, but not my mother. My grama and cousins and aunts lived an hour and a half away from my mother and an hour away from his family. Honestly, the decision to move away from his family was both of ours, and we purposely moved far enough away that they would only come down on holidays. (I'm not awful, I just have a hellofa mother in law)

Alicia - posted on 05/06/2010

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LOL - We are both from Florida and now live in MN. He is here because his ex insisted on living here. Neither of us like it much and as soon as the kids are both legally adults and can travel on their own, we are moving back to Florida.

Bri - posted on 05/05/2010

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We moved closer to niether family. We met back in Wisconsin where we both have some family. He is in the Marine Corps so we ended up living in Cali at first 2000 miles away from the nearest family member. Most of my family live in South Dakota. Now we are stationed in NC and again live 2000 miles from the nearest family member. It has its ups and downs being so far from family. I miss them and want to see them but then when drama or issues happen I'm glad that I live so far away. :)

Becky - posted on 05/05/2010

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we lived closer to my parents for a short while and then we moved farther away from both families.

Lynn - posted on 05/05/2010

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I grew up in a town about 30 miles away from marshall(revere). But i started hanging out in marshall when i was about 16. I used to always go hang out at the Varsity pub and the gambler....

Christina - posted on 05/05/2010

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Are you kidding me!?! I grew up in Marshall!! We went to college at Augsburg (Mpls) so now reside in Mound (Lake Minnetonka area). What town around Marshall did you grow up? Small world!

Lynn - posted on 05/05/2010

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what part of minnesota are you from? I grew up as a teen near the marshall area

Christina - posted on 05/05/2010

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Oh my goodness, this sounds like us to a tee! My husband & his family are from Ontario & I'm from Minnesota. We both met at college in MN so we stayed here but we constantly debate about staying here or moving there & so never truly feel settled. We love both places and feel it's impossible to make the decision so we just stay put. If we moved between the two places we would be 7-8 hours away from everyone! So we just don't know what to do....

Catherine - posted on 05/04/2010

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We moved closer to his family.... much closer. We met in Michigan and lived in the Kansas City area near some of my extended family for a year or so before moving to New Jersey about a mile from his family. My family is back in California. It's great to have his family in a lot of ways, but sometimes it makes it harder because it reminds me of all the things I'm missing out on with my own family (especially with siblings and their children). Plus, because of our location, our place is not nearly large enough to offer up a room for visiting family, so it's a bit of a dance when they are able to visit. Lately we've been discussing a move which will mean being away from both our families and it's made me realize how much I'll miss being around my in-laws. Too bad we can't all be in several places at once :(

Maria - posted on 05/02/2010

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Neither! LOL... We both uprooted and moved to a different city. Although it's still in CA, we're both Bay Area people, but due to unforeseen circumstances, we had to move to the Central Valley to be closer to my mother-in-law, since she had no family closer other than my husband. All my extended family is in the East Bay, and my immediate family are in different countries, so it's more difficult for me. It's a good thing that I'm more of an extrovert than my husband! We've moved a couple of times because of his job, but we've been here ever since. But I do recall my mom once told me before I got married, "do not move in or stay too long with us or your in-laws, because sooner or later that'll cause disharmony or conflict all around." I took it to heart! :D

Tia - posted on 05/01/2010

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We live in the same town as my family. This is where we lived before and my family is very close. His are not. He has brothers and sisters that he has only met once so he doesn't want me to be "torn away" (his words!) from my family. He has gotten closer with his family since we have gotten married but they are scattered across the US so it would be hard to move close to any of them.

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Well we met in Germany, moved to El Paso for a new duty station assignment and got one of the best job offers we could ever hope for. We moved to New Mexico for that job, and then the West Tx for a better place to live. My family is in East Tx so we are closer to them, his family is in Michigan so yeah that's quite a treck across the states. We travel to see both sides often, I would be torn if we could pick on side to be near. Although coming home from Germany I waited for my husband with his family and that was the first time we had met in person since leaving Germany and our unit was always an issue one way or the other. Eventually we will retire in Colorado.

Carolee - posted on 04/30/2010

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My husband and I live directly in between our families. I think there's only about 2-3 miles difference (we all live in the Indianapolis area).

Lynn - posted on 04/30/2010

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Thats kind of a reason we want to move back to his area too. We used to attend a great church out there that we miss.

Heather - posted on 04/30/2010

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We didn't move closer to anyone... We met in Colorado, got married and still live here. My family is in Iowa, and his is in Texas... We both came from small towns and DO NOT want to go back! We are happy here.



**On a side note, last year we moved closer to our church family...

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