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Thirteen and wanting to wear makeup?

Melissa - posted on 11/27/2009 ( 29 moms have responded )

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Daughter is 13 and wants to wear makeup and not just for special occasions , wehat should i di?

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Jen - posted on 02/01/2012

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13 is definitely old enough to wear makeup. Whatever you do, don't keep her from wearing it until she's in high school. Middle school is the time to experiment and perfect application of cosmetics. Kind of like with dating, we can't forbid them from dating until they are 18 because then they will end up naive and ignorant.

Kelly - posted on 11/03/2011

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My daughters started wearing make-up early. It gives them cofidence and as long as they wear it properly, it does not hurt anything. I did not put a restriction on the make-up thing because there are so many more things they could be doing at 13 and make-up is harmless

Tracy - posted on 11/16/2011

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I think 13 is an appropriate age for make up. Just find stuff that looks appropriate for her. Show her how to use it, and what looks good. Youtube some videos together, gives a good idea too. I think every teenager at first over kills the whole right to wear make up, but then they tone it down. I have 4 kids, 2 of which are 15 and 13. They started with just mascara and then started trying different colors of shadows and such. I also try and buy my kids a few good quality items, and then they can get the other stuff they like with their own earned money. Its just a stepping stone to woman hood mama, its ok.

Joanna - posted on 04/20/2010

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I have twin girls who will be 14 in 2 weeks. They have been wearing makeup to school for the past year or so. I dont have a problem with it. It's part of growing up. :)

Monica - posted on 06/29/2014

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I would highly suggest waiting until they are older. Recent studies show that wearing make-up can cause damage to the endocrine system. If possible, they should avoid using make-up until their bodies are fully developed to minimize damage to the body. Keep in mind that most make-up contain known carcinogens that over long-term also cause cancer. Most make-up products use formaldehyde as a stabilizer - yes the very same substance used to preserve our dead before they are buried. If you live in California, you may be seeing Prop 65 warnings when buying make-up.

Once the body is fully developed, I think there is less risk to long-term developmental damage to the body. Until then, you risk setting your daughter up for a lifetime of a trouble with the system that regulates hormones and other bodily functions. I would rather have my daughter have a strong and healthy body long-term than let her wear make-up now at the age of 13. There's no rush. There's no *real* reason to wear make-up at that age. They should be riding bikes, playing with friends, watching movies, reading books, hanging out - not trying to be mini-adults.

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Monica - posted on 06/29/2014

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Recent research is showing that make-up chemicals can affect the endocrine system causing long-term damage to the system. Make-up should be deferred as long as possible to allow the endocrine system to fully develop.

Rylee - posted on 05/12/2014

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Hi! Well I am thirteen, I was looking around the internet on makeup posts when I came across this. So I made an account solely for the purpose to give my opinion. Though, this thread is quite old now and I'm sure you have allowed your kids to wear makeup I just wanted to comment my thoughts anyway :) so yes I'm thirteen and I have been using makeup since I was eleven. It started out ad light makeup up until around my thirteenth birthday. I got more makeup and started doing more things with it. I learnt everything I know about makeup through YouTube and I have a lot of expensive palettes and other makeup products, example: I have all of the Urban Decay Naked palettes, Lorac pro palette and more. What might be a shocker is that I go to school with full on smokey eyes or red lips (not with the smokey eye of course (; ) or whatever else I want. Why? Because I like to. I like putting on makeup it's fun I enjoy it. Just like sports or reading, it's a hobby. I also want to be a makeup artist (probably freelance) when I'm older and makeup is just my passion. I suggest to let your kids put on makeup if they want to. It's a way of expressing yourself and it is really fun. If anything, start them off with a few drugstore products (I suggest nude colours at first) and good brushes. Not the cheap ones the palettes usually come in (the spongey ones) and you don't have to splurge on MAC brushes too! I really like Zoeva brushes, they are good quality and affordable. And I also suggest to show them the beauty community on YouTube and show them some tutorials. I hope this helps anyone :)

Christina - posted on 03/11/2012

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i started buying my daughter the really pale light colored makeup when she started so she felt like she was in that catagory but it wasnt that noticable to the world. that worked for a few years. but you are the parent and if you are not ready for her to wear it then maybe next year.

Jessica - posted on 11/22/2011

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Teach her the correct way and amount that she is allowed to wear! If you ban her from using it she will still find a way to hide it and or pull back from you!

Christine - posted on 06/28/2011

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My daughter started wearing makeup around 13. She has a friend that wears VERY heavy eye makeup and I made it clear to her from the start that she is to only wear it very light and natural. When we shop for it I make sure she chooses very natural and muted colors. I think if you restrict them from it they will want to go more crazy with it. As soon as I allowed her to wear makeup, she wore it for a few weeks and then lost interest. I think she realizes it's more trouble then she thought it would be lol...Now she wears it every now and then when she's in the mood and she wears it very light and natural.

♥TIA♥ - posted on 03/23/2011

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Well, it is my decision if she is able to or not, why? I'm still the parent. And besides where is the money coming from if she wants to use make up? is she going to do chores for it? that is an extra added expense to life. Other than that as a parent. I told my daughter not till she is 16 and that she is only allowed eyeliner and mascara at that age. Right now as a thirteen, she can use lip gloss. Not any kind of shaded lip gloss. Natural based colored lip gloss. That's it! like everything else in life, there is a stage to go through with steps to it. Just like training bra's! ; ) panties to thongs to g string...sandals to high heels.

Dani - posted on 10/07/2010

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I say let her but nothing heavy. Maybe just some light pink eyeshadow and lipgloss or something. Show her how to do her makeup age appropriate. When I was 13 I wasnt allowed to wear make up so I would go to school and put on a full face in the bathroon before class.

Kristi - posted on 08/18/2010

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On one hand if you don't allow it they may sneak around and just put it on when they leave the house, i did but I did not put it on like I see some now! my daughter has to do the makeup thing for figure skating so she is not so much into it, She does occasionally wear a bit of mascara and lip gloss (very rarely) her older sister on the other hand is 16 and has been wearing makeup for a few years and when she came to live with me as opposed to dad she had to learn to wash that clown face off and go lighter! It is a choice you must make but I would rather know and see what she looks like when leaving the house!

Suszanne - posted on 08/17/2010

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We have several answers to questions from our teen daughters (20 and 14): yes, no, maybe, and our favorite - convince me.
Find out why she wants to wear makeup. Have her convince you it's a good idea. If you're not convinced, she can't wear the makeup. My oldest daughter started wearing makeup at 14 - we just set that as a requirement. She couldn't even ask to wear it. When she was 14, I taught her how to apply her makeup, when to wear it, and how to remove it safely. All her makeup is bought by her, so if she runs out, she can't wear it. Our youngest (14) wears mascara and lip gloss (she calls it makeup).
No matter what you decide, remember that it is, and will be for another 4 years, YOUR decision.
Good luck and God Bless you and your family.

Teresa - posted on 07/27/2010

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let her wear a bit because if you dont she will just do it behind your back and a little bit of lippy and eye shadow never hearts

Rebecca - posted on 07/25/2010

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My daughter will be 14 in September and in 8th grade. She doesn't wear makeup. She has it just not interested. Everybody tells me she has that natural beauty she doesn't need it. Teach her or have someone teach her the proper way to put it on. She might even find that it takes to long to put on and wait till she gets older.

Debbie - posted on 04/29/2010

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As theatre and dance girls, my daughters starting asking for makeup EARLY. At 12 - 7th grade- I allow it. As long as it looks natural and is just meant to enhance their natural beauty I'm fine with makeup.

Ashley - posted on 04/26/2010

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I've never had an issue with either one of my daughters wearing makeup even before age 13. My oldest began wearing it when she was 11, but always in good taste. My youngest daughter was wearing it at 10 and she's always been one to strive for that natural look even though she was wearing makeup. As in anything when raising a child, there's set limitations and you simply stand firm on those limitations.

Christine - posted on 04/20/2010

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We started with just lipgloss and had her write a list of what she wants. Then we wrote down the age for each...my oldest wears makeup somedays and not others(age 15) my middle daughter could care less and we have not really had that conversation yet...if she is asking then give a bit...cause they will just put it on at school or when at their friends house it those parents let them.

Shirley - posted on 03/01/2010

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once you allow it once it's all over with. any kids goal is too get you to slip just 1 time, once there's a first they'll never give up till they have what they want and have thier way.

Katrina - posted on 02/23/2010

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Like with just about everything they try at first kids seem to get so excited and focused on whatever it is. But I have found with my teen girls (14 and 16) that once the novelty wore off they practically stopped wearing it altogether. When they were around 12 or 13 when they started and I only allowed clear mascara, blush and lip gloss. then we slowly allowed more as they got older or for special events. I still don't allow black eyeliner and if I see it I take their make-up away for a little while because they have to understand that while I want them to take pride and care about their appearance at the same time how we dress and look sends a message about who we are and how we want to be treated. Hope this helps, good luck.

Shelia - posted on 01/21/2010

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All of these ladies have great advice. My oldest daughter was about 14 when she started wearing makeup, which was eyeshadow, mascara, and lip gloss. My 13 yr old is using these same products, although my mom-in-law doesn't think she should. I agree that if I don't allow her to experiment and teach her how to do it tastefully, then she will sneak to do it. I think it is one of those "coming of age" things and if they are given guidance and support, it can strengthen your relationship. I think Tammy's idea of sharing opens up the lines of communication and Jennifer's tip on getting her daughter a makeup lesson.

Tammy - posted on 01/19/2010

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Im ok with make up if its done tastefuly. After all part of growing up is doing grown up things. Girls are very delicate at this age. There worried about not being pretty, or the boys liking them, or acne. I feel make up is part of there own exceptance with thereselves. Its to enhance ones natural beauty and helps build a little confidence and self esteem. Just tell her to go easy because she's already gorgeous. No matter what to wear it in subtle amounts and not spackled. Don't be fake. And if it helps you feel better as a parent, let her wear what you buy. She'll feel more at ease to ask for your oppion and advice. This might also give the two of you something to talk about. As teens they try to stay away from conversation with us parents anyways. This lets you stay involved in a crucial time in her life. Junior High, and pubirty.

Jennifer - posted on 12/29/2009

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My daughter just turned 13 and she got a makeup lesson for her birthday. I know little to nothing so we set up an appointment at Kohl's - they showed her how to do eyes and lips and helped her choose age appropriate colors. My daughter is definitely one who wants to go heavy and she took advice from the consultant much better than she would have from me.

I would add - what are other kids her age doing? My daughter is in 6th grade and it's only been this fall that other kids have been doing makeup. I try hard not to be the first or the last parent to do new things.

Missy - posted on 12/12/2009

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This is the age when all the girls are starting to wear make-up and they just want to fit in. I would compromise and let her wear powder, blush maybe, light eye-shadow, and lip gloss. Tell her to hold off on the eye liner, mascara, dark lipstick, etc until she's older. Teach her how to put it on well and tell her if it's too heavy she'll have to wipe some of it off or lose make-up privelages. That is what we did and it worked great. She felt like one of the girls but didn't look like she was 16. She also got tired of messing with it after a while and now that she's 15 she still doesn't wear much. Hope it helps!

R. S. - posted on 12/10/2009

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My daughter started wearing makeup at 3 for theater and by 6 or 7 was able to apply her own makeup backstage. In 4th or 5th grade she announced that she wanted to wear makeup to school. We told her that as long as it was properly applied and an appropriate "look" for school, that would be fine. It lasted for a week or 2, then became too much trouble, except for special occasions. Now that she is 13 and in 9th grade, she wears makeup every day, but it is properly applied and an appropriate "look" for school. No turquoise eye shadow or fuschia lipstick.



In short, I think if you don't make it a big deal, it won't be, and you retain some control.

Penny - posted on 11/30/2009

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I agree with Sharina, I admit initially I wasnt happy to have my thirteen year old wearing make up casually, like Sharina said I figured she would go behind our backs to wear it anyway. My daughter doesnt keep to the natural look as such but I am happy she doesnt go heavy with it either. She takes real pride in how she presents herself and asks for advice all the time.

Sharina - posted on 11/28/2009

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Teach her how to use make up the proper way...she will only try to hide it and learn on her own if you ban it. There are plenty of types of make up that give the natural look and it is a good compromise! When I was 13, it was banned by my parents. I would wait until I got to school to put it on and would usually end up looking like a clown!

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