Baby shower for the second child??

Sara - posted on 06/29/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )




I am pregnant with my second child and don't know the baby shower etiquette. I want to celebrate this baby with a very casual party (a cookout or something) but I don't know whether to put where I'm registered at or put gifts optional. They will be very close together (19 months apart) but are different genders and born at different times of the year. My family is telling me it's rude to "ask for gifts" by putting where I'm registered at but my friends are saying people will want to know. Should I put where I'm registered at and risk coming off as rude and pushy or just not put anything at all and let people decide??

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Amanda - posted on 07/06/2010




i would say put down where you are registered and put down its optional, I don't see how it is being rude, its still a baby shower. I am currently having my second child and my mother who is throwing my baby shower is doing more for this one then my first! but that is because of the timing with my first one, not a lot of ppl showed up, but weather its your first or fifth, i think its fine to expect gifts, especially if you are having a different gender then the first! good luck!

Kristin - posted on 07/06/2010




I think having a baby shower for each child is fine, under certain restrictions. Normally the first shower is planned and paid for by someone else, with the rest I think it is best for the mommy and daddy to be pay to have it. I had a huge female only shower for my first son and although I loved it, the next time around we will have a huge party to celebrate with both men and women...with presents! :)

Alicia - posted on 07/05/2010




I agree with everyone else's comments, and would just like to add that while some people have told me that you are not supposed to throw a shower for 2nd babies, all of those people were from a different generation, and they had different rules of etiquette back then. I don't know anyone my age who thinks it is inappropriate, and my friends were horrified when I said maybe I shouldn't have one. They all said if I didn't want to organize one then they would! Everyone wants to come and celebrate a new baby, and most of those people who are close to you will probably want to bring you something you actually need, so please, tell 'em where you registered!

Jean - posted on 07/04/2010




I'm having a baby shower for my second baby and I still put my registry and we're having another boy. It doesn't really come off as rude because people will want to know what other things you may need. I also put on the registry that gift cards are welcome. Some of my friends asked if they could just give money to the baby since I might already have everything I need, in which case I told them that was fine too. You're just giving your guests options. It makes it more frustrating to go to shower knowing this is the second baby and not having ANY clue what the mother may still need for baby #2.

Awhina - posted on 07/04/2010




with my 6th pregnany i planned a baby shower every baby a miracle and to be celebrated :)

Brenda - posted on 06/30/2010




As long as your guests understand that it's intended as a baby shower, instead of just a get-together, then go ahead and include your registry information! Other options include having a "diaper shower", where all the guests bring diapers, or a "frozen dish shower", which should give you plenty of meals to eat during the first few weeks baby is home. Every baby deserves to be celebrated!

Jonna - posted on 06/29/2010




I agree with the other moms on this one, You are celebrating your new baby! Go ahead and put where you are registered. I don't care how many babies you have or how close together they are, every baby is special and deserves a party.

Terri - posted on 06/29/2010




a baby shower is a baby shower no matter how many times you do it...its definately not rude to put where you're registered. they're coming to celebrate the new baby.

Becky - posted on 06/29/2010




jus put where your registered at and put that is opional. i am havin a second shower cause i am in the middle of a devorce so i dont have everything i had before and i am havein a boy this time so my mom is throwin me a shower.
becky powers

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