Fear of losing my eldest child...is this natural during second pregnancy?

Angeline - posted on 08/28/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




I am 32 weeks pregnant and feeling these overwhelming senses of losing my little girl! Is this natural during pregnancy? I even have her sleeping in the bed with my husband and me!


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Charlena - posted on 09/05/2010




yes i felt the same way when i was pregnant wit my son about my daughter , it felt like i was only able to have one kid at a time it was weird . but now my son is here n every one is fine

Penny - posted on 09/05/2010




my husband thinks im mad as i will often cry my eyes out because a split second thought of losing my lil boy came into my head. im also pregnant but was like this before i could just stop myself from crying but would still feel that pain inside. i tink its just overwhelming the love you have for them and you cant bear the thought of being without them. im glad im not the only one, im not mad lol.

Marie - posted on 09/04/2010




This is deffinately normal. I had the same fears and did the same thing. I also worried that maybe there wasn't enough love to go around. Well my second has been born and everything is OK. I love them both very much and my oldest dotes over her baby sister.

Good luck!

Jane - posted on 08/28/2010




i think it is. i have heartbreaking nightmares when i'm pregnant. sometimes i wake up in tears.

Sarah - posted on 08/28/2010




Aw :) This made me smile, you obviously love your little girl very much! I know how you feel, I sometimes have feeling/thoughts of guilt, that because I'm pregnant and having another baby, they'll yet again lose a piece of our relationship to make room for another sibling. Its perfectly normal. But no worries momma, you won't lose her, you're just adding to the family, which actually is a great thing! Brings more personality, life, a different energy. You're giving your daughter a playmate and friend that she will have for the rest of her life, through good days and bad haha Makes life a LOT more exciting and NEVER a dull moment. :D And it is definitely possible to still have close relationships with BOTH children. Takes some juggling, but eventually its just a way of life and completely natural.
Anyhoo....keep doing what you're doing! Once you cross that bridge and have the baby, there's no going back. lol So keep cherishing the life you've known up to now, (I'm sure your daughter is loving the attention also haha) And congratulations on your growing family! ♥

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